Why you haven't "read" much of me lately . . .

Discussion in 'Countryside Families' started by daddio, Dec 17, 2006.

  1. daddio

    daddio Well-Known Member

    Sep 7, 2005
    I started a new job as Activities Director at a wonderful nursing home in the next town on November 1st. I just love it. I am a people person and this is the job that God intended for me . . . my daughter has said that my new job has taken 10 yrs off of me! (She's 17)

    I have been working very hard getting the department set up and in working motion as I am the 5th AD they've had in 6 yrs. It was not only "in the ditch" but was missing 3 wheels and very rusty.

    When I asked my assistant what she wanted most in her new AD, she said, "Someone who cares." She's been there those 6 years and seen a lot of apathy from those previous AD's. She's retired and loves working part time in the department. So far we are like peas and carrots and are blessed by being on the same page on most things.

    One blessing (of the many!) I have had is that a resident who is in her own little world most of the time and who also loves to visit with you but her speech is garbled so she's nearly impossible to understand (she doesn't realize it), is showing progress in her speech because she paddles her wheelchair up and down my hall a hundred times a day. Because I take a few minutes each time to "visit" w/ her, the stimulation is paying off. It is as exciting as watching your infant roll over for the first time! Also, this week, I found out while reading a greeting card to her from my great aunt that she is Aunt Fran's sister! Had no idea til I read the return address on the envelope and until we read the card I was thinking, "How neat! Mildred is friends w/ my Aunt Fran!" When telling her that Fran's husband is my grandmother's brother, she smiled and said, "Yyyeeesss!"

    So, I have time now to check into HT more often. I've missed you all!

  2. Cyngbaeld

    Cyngbaeld In Remembrance Supporter

    May 20, 2004
    SE Missouri
    Oh WOW, I always thought AD was the funnest job to have. MUCH more fun than nursing! LOL Are you going to garden with them this summer? Are you going to take any animals in to visit? That would be fun too.

  3. bugstabber

    bugstabber Chief cook & weed puller Supporter

    May 12, 2002
    South Dakota
    My ex-sil has that job. She likes it too!
  4. Hears The Water

    Hears The Water Well-Known Member Supporter

    Aug 2, 2002
    S.W. MO
    As the family member of a resident in a nursing home, let me say "thank you" for being willing to find fun, stimulating things for the residents to do. The nursing home where mom is has a list of three or four things every day for the residents to do. We went to pick up mom on Thrusday to take her on some errands and the second I walked in I could smell popcorn. They had a big old popcorn machine on wheels and they where watching "Home Alone". They have movie day and manicure day and since I have been hanging around there I have heard of at least 4 groups coming in a carroling to them. I have to wonder if all of the activity will continue after the holidays, but only time will tell. Thanks again, I would imagine that you will do a great job!
    God bless you and yours
  5. Rxnwl

    Rxnwl Well-Known Member

    Jan 10, 2003
    Phoenix Az
    I was an activity director/assistant in a locked alzhiemers unit for 4 years, it was the best job I ever had. I had to leave it for economic reasons. Im still working in a nursing home but as a secretary. Because I was with the same people every day I could see the postive changes in them. If they are stimulated you wouldnt believe how much they can accomplish. To many nursing homes dont think activities are important and dont give them the kind of budget they need. I espically didnt like it when people would say"its ok because they dont know" they know a lot more then you think. Keep up the good work and enjoy your job.
  6. daddio

    daddio Well-Known Member

    Sep 7, 2005
    This is an email I wrote to my sisters, friends, etc. about a day at work last week. Since then I have talked to one of Mildred's daughters and one of her daughters-in-law. This job is wonderful and I know that I am meant to be here at it.

    I just started a men's group and we will be starting to work on bird houses and feeders to put in the 3 courtyards. They are fully enclosed by the exterior of the building and have at least 2 sides that are full floor to ceiling windows. It will be the men's group's responsibility to keep them maintained and filled. (W/ my participation as well.)

    I have many plans . . . almost too many to get started too soon. That's OK, I will be here for a long time.

    Here's my serendipidous day:

    >Hi ya'll!
    >I just love my job and each day there is something that I marvel at
    >. . . today was no exception and it was really cool:
    >There is this little lady named Mildred who is in a wheelchair and
    >for the most part she is in her own little world. All day long she
    >paddles up and down the halls in her chair. When you try to talk to
    >her, she really tells you a story except for her lips don't work and
    >her speech is garbled. She, on the other hand, is really telling
    >you something important as you can see it on her face. Some days
    >her face is cross, meaning today is not that good of a day. Others,
    >she is quite pleasant. My co-workers, however, have warned me that
    >she can hit, too.
    >She comes to my end of the hall and tries to get out the double
    >doors to the side of the building. She'll bang and bang
    >on those doors. She doesn't usually like you to turn her around to
    >go back the other way and lets you know it. Well, I've learned to
    >say to her, "Mildred, the doors are locked and we can't get through
    >them. Let me turn you around and we'll walk and I'll tell you a
    >story." Then I walk her slowly and just chat about whatever to her.
    >The Friday night of the big snow storm I stayed til 9:00 PM as many
    >were not able to get into work and I thought I could at least answer
    >phones & room bells, etc. for the skeleton staff we had. I was
    >trying to get the rest of the Christmas decorations up, too. Up
    >front I had a wad of 3 different colors of those garland beads that
    >were in a big knot. Mildred was fascinated by the beads and I said,
    >"Mildred, do you want to help me w/ these beads?" and her reply was
    >clear as a bell, "Well, yyyeeeesss!" That proved to be a
    >breakthrough moment between Mildred and I. She held the ends while
    >I unknotted the mess. I told her that she was really a big help and
    >so on.
    >Then last week she paddled to my office door and stopped and looked
    >at me. I got up and went to the door to chat w/ her. After 3
    >tries, I finally understood that she had come all the way down there
    >to ask me to take her for a walk! I was thrilled! So I said sure
    >and we went for a walk. Since all this has taken place, her speech
    >has improved and I can understand her sometimes. When I've been in
    >her room, I've noticed her pictures and there is one of she and her
    >husband in the '70's or '80's. I can tell she was a person full of
    >personality and joy.
    >Well, today I went to my box that everyone puts paperwork, etc. in
    >and found a few greeting cards to deliver and one was for Mildred.
    >I noticed the return address on it and it was from Fran L--e,
    >W-------, IL. (For those of you who do not know who Fran is, she
    >is my great aunt . . . Grandma Smith's brother's wife.) I
    >thought, how cool!!!--Mildred and Aunt Fran must be friends! I went
    >off to find Mildred to give her the card.
    >When I found her I told her she had a card and it was from her friend Fran
    > but I had a story to tell her before we could open the card.
    >I told her how Fran was my aunt and she said, "Yyyyeeesss!!" So
    >then we opened the card and it said "For a dear sister . . ." I
    >said to Mildred, "Aunt Fran is your sister?" and again she said,
    >"Yyyeess!" Then I said, "Well, Mildred, that makes us almost
    >relatives, doesn't it?" and again, she said "Yyyeeesss!"
    >I was thoroughly thrilled and just had to tell everyone how small
    >the world is. And later today, I passed her in the hall and didn't
    >stop or speak, late on some task and as I passed she said,
    >"hey!!" So she really recognized me, too.
    >So today I sat down and wrote Aunt Fran a Christmas card w/ the
    >story and got it in the mail. And in that picture of Mildred and
    >her husband??? Now that I know what I know, it's very obvious that
    >she's Aunt Fran's sister!
    >God is good and I love my new job!
    >Love, Geri

    (edited to protect the innocent!! =)
  7. seedspreader

    seedspreader AFKA ZealYouthGuy

    Oct 18, 2004
    NW Pa./NY Border.
    Hey Congrats Daddio, I thought we scared you off... ! Merry Christmas.
  8. daddio

    daddio Well-Known Member

    Sep 7, 2005
    Not a chance, Zeal . . . . just trying to keep ahold of the tiger's tail!
  9. RoseGarden

    RoseGarden Well-Known Member

    Jun 5, 2005
    What a blessed job you have. Congratulations, and thank you for sharing with us. It's a small world, isn't it? :)
  10. MarleneS

    MarleneS Well-Known Member

    Aug 21, 2003
    Sounds like you and the residence need each other :) Isn't it great to have a job that's more fun then work :)