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I'll admit to struggling here so I'll ask for some help. There are a few folks in our lives that are working hard to make positive changes in their lives in different areas. I want to be encouraging and often it has to be by writing, rather than face to face, talking. Most of the things I write, I delete because they sound so sappy or out of touch. I do say things like - good job, well done, I love you, and I'm proud of you when they have a success, but I'm looking for something that will encourage without sounding like a motivational poster.

Are there encouraging words someone has said to you that rang true, stayed with you and helped you keep pushing when you felt worn out or defeated?
 

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It was from my youngest son to me. There was no, "Well, you could try...", or I'm sorry you're going through this." No "Time to put on your big boy britches.", which is probably something like what I would've told him.

A while back, after he listened patiently to all of my gripes attendant to an over 50 man finding work that pays a living wage. And, my whining over how tough it was to quit smoking... He simply said, "I got faith in you Dad."

From the little, inconsequential, more fussy than real problem problems, through the bigger, more serious speed bumps that come along, all it takes now is for me to picture that day; that simple phrase. Then, I hike up my britches and dive in. Works every time. :)
 

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Once when I was going through a hard time, a friend sent me a funny, uplifting card. So unexpected and appreciated. It was on my refrigerator for a very long time and brought a smile to my face every time I looked at it.
 

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“Isn't it strange how princes and kings,
and clowns that caper in sawdust rings,
and common people, like you and me,
are builders for eternity?

Each is given a list of rules;
a shapeless mass; a bag of tools.
And each must fashion, ere life is flown,
A stumbling block, or a Stepping-Stone.”

― R.L. Sharpe




If—


By Rudyard Kipling


(‘Brother Square-Toes’—Rewards and Fairies)

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:


If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:


If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’


If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!


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At a particularly low point in my life my dad told me life is what you make it. He had been through some horrific things as a child and yet he grew up to be a loving man full of faith who had a smile for everyone and a chuckle I shall never forget. Coming from him, I knew it was his secret to success. Yes, life is hard and you can count on things going wrong, sometimes irrevocably damaging but we do have the power within us to build the world we want, if we do not grow faint of heart.
 

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nice. I can't wait to hear more. For me I like the serenity prayer.

Some of the best uplifting things have come from complete strangers. It was almost like they were put in my path right when I needed them most. Sometimes it was just a kind word or knowing smile that said "Remember ,I'm pulling for you we are all in this together" Red Green
 

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"To get to it, you must go through it"

I read that in a book and it has stuck with me, it's not a sweet sappy encouraging phrase, but it reminds me that whatever the 'it' is that anyone is aiming for (college degree, sober living, debt free finances, whatever) there is a process you must go thru to get there.

When we were packing up and going thru a hellacious move down to our retirement home I repeated that phrase to myself a lot!
 

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“

If—


By Rudyard Kipling


(‘Brother Square-Toes’—Rewards and Fairies)

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:


If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:


If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’


If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!


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A musical version

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=z4QXGCG6mMQ
 

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All of Romans 7. Pure truth spoken as poetry for those of us that struggle.

Also....Peter's denial by a bed of coals and then Jesus's reconciliation of him by a different bed of coals. Oh how I long for that series of questions by a bed of coals.
 

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There are different types of encouragement.
I can't repeat them here, but my daddy used to give me words of encouragement in my teenage years about getting up and going to school or work. His words and tone, did the trick too, because I knew he meant them. He was not mean but I could see my life "flash before my eyes" if I did not obey him. Those were words of encouragement. I sure do miss him.
 

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When I was a struggling single mom, my favorite aunt wrote me a little letter just telling me how much she cared about what I was going through, and letting me know that she KNEW that I was capable of anything I put my heart and mind to. It so touched me. I still have that letter and read it occasionally. It still brings a lump to my throat and a warm feeling to my heart to know that she had faith in me.
 

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Do or do not, there is no try. ~yoda

Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find and not to yield. ~ Tennyson

Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light. ~ Dylan Thomas
 

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There are a few things that I heard when I was younger that I tell myself when things are hard and seem overwhelming.

The first one is -- This too shall pass......you know it always does, just wait long enough and the storm always blows over and there is calm again.

The second one goes something like this-- If everyone in the world were to bring all their troubles and throw them in a common heap and then those problems and troubles would be divided evenly among everyone.....most would be content to take their own troubles back and go home again. Just remember there is always someone who has it worse than I do!
 
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