What is it with girls????

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  1. tinknal

    tinknal Well-Known Member Supporter

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    My daughter is having a slumber party (slumber?4:30 am and no slumber yet). Along with her sister there are 6 (or maybe 7) 12-14 yo girls in the house. What vicious little creatures they are. Fighting, bickering, ganging up, crying, forming teams, changing teams................I'm sure boys would just have a fist fight and then go to sleep.
     
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    I saw the same at a plain birthday party. Guess empathy and kindness gotta be learned and sometimes it didn't happen by adulthood even.
     
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    Well, depends on how your raised. I have a 12 year old DGD and she is very nice. She went to one of those BD party sleep overs once, where a bunch of girls were crying and carrying on about boyfriends. Risa thought it was stupid and gross and wont stay over anymore. Girls like that are why as a kid I always liked boys better.... Still do...hahahahaha
     
  5. tinknal

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    Well, this isn't even about boys.............just general mayhem...........lol
     
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    Most of my daughter's friends are from dance class, Tae Kwon Do class, homeschool groups, or church. I have to say they are all exceptionally nice girls. Any hurt feelings are almost always unintentional. If we have three girls at a time occassionally one will feel left out and have a mini-meltdown. But once the others realize it, they are very sorry and try to make it up to the one who felt slighted. They are about 10 to 11 yo for the most part. I've noticed that the older girls in our dance school all seem to be very nice also.

    Amd the moms all get along well too. I think I am just blessed to be in an exceptionally nice segment of the population.
     
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    I've found that the worst offenders are those who's parents think they are angels..............
     
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    I guess it depends on whether you really KNOW your kids or grandkids.
     
  9. tinknal

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    Yeah, seems we just had a trhead started by a homeschool parent who "knew" her daughter. Something about a pregnancy............. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
     
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    I think it's realistic to say boys get mad and get over it. A lot of girls get mad and never forget. I feel for you and completely agree - girls can be viscious. You're more patient than I can be.

    We stopped having big parties. I'm so adamant about not allowing the visciousness that I sent girls home in the middle of the night at the last party. They got a couple of warnings. Strike three involved rolling up sleeping bags while I called their parents to come get them. That's not a lightly taken call since we live 20 miles from some of these families. Bad behavior can't be supported. When Taylor has friends over now we're careful about the mix. When A asks why she isn't invited Taylor doesn't hesitate to tell her it's because she causes problems with B, C, and D. It hurts the girl's feelings but hopefully it's a little bit of a reality check, and it spares everyone else's feelings later.
     
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    Yes, she did know her daughter---she had her completely grounded, except for her lunch hour at work...
     
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    I just flat out refuse to get involved in it. I tell them to deal with it and move on. Since we have 2 girls bedrooms I just told the to factions to go to the 2 rooms and go to bed.
     
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    My dd has a close friend, also 10, that gets a bit dramatic when she feels her feelings have been hurt---dd tries to make it right but she sits and mopes or runs and hides.

    I usually get her laughing by enacting a soap opera-type dialogue (old-fashioned radio soap, not modern day porn soap)..."Oh Marsha, Marsha, say it isn't sooooooo!" with the back of my hand to my forehead and etc. Gets her laughing---then I tell her no dramatics allowed, if she has a problem, they can both come talk to me and I will straighten it out.

    It works!
     
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    Well, I guess I just figure that they won't always have someone around who will come by and smooth things over. The sooner they learn to deal with problems on their own, the more successfull they are going to be at solving interpersonal problems in the future. (of course if it looks like impending bloodshed I step in :) )
     
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    Uh-huh, me too.
     
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    Well, I just got my pound of flesh out of the little heathens. I'm smoking hams and bacons right now, and just happen to have had a dead crab apple tree..................right outside the girls bedroom window. They finally went to sleep about an hour ago....................So I got the chain saw......... :hobbyhors :hobbyhors :hobbyhors
     
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    I'd be more concerned over the fact that other parents have left their children in your care and you are not sure exactly how many there are...yipes. Does that mean if one of them as left the building you might not even be aware of it? :)

    Perhaps it would help if you saw it more as some sort of coming of age ritual? After your own children have gotten some much needed sleep you could talk to them about some of the events of the party that make you feel uncomfortable?

    This too shall pass...this too shall pass...
    Marlene
     
  18. Ardie/WI

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    Me three!

    I always said that I'd rather raise 10 boys than one girl! With boys, they beat each other up, roll in the gravel, get up and go back to playing.

    Girls whine for years!
     
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    I have a sign at the end of the driveway stating that kids left over 3 days will be sold to Gypsys
     
  20. MarleneS

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    Thanks, that one truly cracked me up Tinknal - no wonder you house always has extras.

    Marlene