What have you given up to live in the country?

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  1. QBVII

    QBVII Well-Known Member

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    Just wondering: what have you given up (or what are you contemplating giving up) to get outta the city and INTO the country?
    We are sortof still in transition.
    We're "here", but now the challenge is finding jobs here in a more rural area.
    Seems like there will be a certain "trade-off", i.e., giving up more opportunities career-wise to go country.
    I'm in the process of adjusting, and I'm wondering if this has happened to other people - how did you deal with it?
    What did you give up and how did you work around that?
     
  2. Maura

    Maura Well-Known Member Supporter

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    I had to give up being surrounded by concrete. I don't miss it. I gave up television. No problem. We have TV now, but no cable or satelite.

    Gave up broadway plays that I couldn't afford to go to anyway, now I pay $7 for a play and all the seats are good.

    Gave up paved roads for gravel, and traffic jams for peace and quiet.

    I do miss being able to take college classes.
     

  3. snoozy

    snoozy Well-Known Member Supporter

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    I gave up having plenty of diversity and good bus service, and I miss them. Other than that, it is hard to get people to come out and visit, mainly because you have to take a ferry. (Why people think it is easier for me to take the ferry into town than for them to take it out here, I do not know...:rolleyes: ) Thus I have become somewhat of a hermit, not that I was ever Ms Socialite O'Theball, but I used to have small dinner parties and Pictionary parties, etc, but no more.

    I also had to give up on people ever understanding that I want to be a responsible meat-eater and so I raise my own pork and chicken and duck.

    Worth it? You bet!! I don't think I could ever live in the city again.
     
  4. MN Mom

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    We haven't moved to the country yet(we're still trying to sell our house), but I think the biggest thing we'll have to give up is my husband's time. He'll be adding a bit more onto his already long commute, but it's worth it to us(we think!! :haha: )

    Sara
     
  5. evisr8

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    we are looking at buying 40 acres 8 miles from town. the only thing we are giving up is being debt free in 4 years (including our mortgage). if we get the acreage, we will be debt free in 15 years. by that time, i will be 59 years old, but the homestead will be paid for ;)
     
  6. mtman

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    you can take classes on the computer your on it anyway
     
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    next weekend we make our last trip to the rarm when we come back we put the house on the market we will be giving up the traffic the noise lets see what other good things will we be giving up
     
  8. auntieemu

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    Pizza delivery it actually the only thing I miss from time to time...........
     
  9. Siryet

    Siryet In Remembrance

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    We sold a going business, sold my motorcycle, gave up restaurant eating for the most part, gave up a six figure income, gave up being squashed in a subdivision, gave up rising high taxes and still going up.

    Boy are we glad
     
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    A marriage. That was difficult, but I'll recover.
    The spouse pulled out for 'new found' something else. :confused:
    That doesn't deter me, or want me to move back into town.

    Other than that, I didn't have to give up a job. It's close enough to town, but hopefully next year some retirement pension could kick in for supplemental income along with some farmstead income to get by.

    I gave up cable t.v. ....big deal. Hardly ever watch it anyway.
    Other things I gave up was town pollution from the mill, which here there is clean clear air. I gave up some social aspects and used to eat out WAY too much, but don't miss that now.

    To be honest the gains living out here in the country outweigh anything that I felt at a loss for in the city. Oh, I guess the town water was better, but it also was heavily chlorinate. Every time I try to think of what was given up in town, I realize I'm not missing much.
     
  11. bergere

    bergere Just living Life

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    Did not give up anything, and gained a lot.
    Peace and Quiet, being able to hear the wind in the trees and the birds singing, being able to have animals, being able to wave hi to the nieghbors down the road. Not being able to see any nieghbor's a houses double plus!

    I love living in the country, but it is not for everyone.
    You just can't run to town for every little thing. We just go when we have many things to do, and normally only go every couple of weeks.
    So learning to stock up on food and goods is a wonderful thing to do.
    We are 20 mintues away from any Police station, so you must rely on nieghbors for help.
    Can go on, but you can get the idea.

    For us it works!! :D
     
  12. heather

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    we will be moving soon & the only things that I can think of are DSL & cell phone -

    DSLs not avail & the cell phone doesn't have service on our side of the mtn

    O well! Nothing I can't live without -
     
  13. Jen H

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    Pizza delivery and 24 hour movie rentals.

    Ok, so my waistline is better off without the pizza delivery. Besides, the place 10 miles away makes a pie that blows the socks off of any of the pizza delivery joints in town (crisp crust, LOTS of honest to goodness garlic - no such thing as too much garlic).

    There's a little convenience store a couple miles away that does have movies for rent. The selection is pretty small, and they close at 9. I do miss being able to head out and rent a movie at 2 am when insomnia hits.
     
  14. QBVII

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    Well I appreciate your responses....but you don't have to convince me of anything.
    We're HERE and I love it here.
    I'm just working a few things out, I suppose.
    I mean.......I think a person, if they are trading one lifestyle for another, should be clear about what they are giving up - or rather, what they are trading.
    For instance, I already know that there are certain things I am giving up:
    -access to employment opportunities
    -high-speed internet service :bash:
    -the more diverse population doesn't matter since we are out in the boonies, anyway (hardly any people here - not enough to worry about the demographics! LOL)

    .......and I'm not sure what else yet.

    But I do know that I am GAINING much, much more than I could ever give up. I love being in the country. We are all so much closer.


    :)
     
  15. Gary in ohio

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    The thing that most concerns me is the lack of ethic diversity. Our county is 99.8% white. I have had a lot of diverity in my life, I am worried my son has not.
     
  16. manygoatsnmore

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    About the only thing I think I've given up is the chance to work in a really top-level high-risk L&D/NICU unit. I've always wanted to get into this area of nursing, but I'm not willing to drive through city traffic to do it. Instead, I work closer to home, only 60 miles round trip, and I only have a little bit of traffic in the morning when I get off work. I probably make more $$ in terms of actual take home pay after gas is factored in. And I like my job, the people I work with, etc.

    I grew up country, hated living in town, and don't feel like I gave up a thing to get back to having some land and space. Would like to be even more rural, since I can still hear the neighbors and the speed bumps :grump: have been installed on our gravel road. :rolleyes: Talk about bringing the city to the country....
     
  17. MaineFarmMom

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    Me too. When I've been working hard all day it would be nice to have supper delivered.
     
  18. MarleneS

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    Actually I think this question is sort of like the philosophical question of whether your glass is half empty or half full...

    If I were a half empty sort of person I would see no longer working as giving up a 25+ career in the business world, or selling my vehicle as giving up my transportation, or moving away from long term friends and family as having given something up...

    Like everyone has pointed out -- the "What you get" is far greater then anything you can see as having given something up. So I see myself as having a new career, helping to save the planet by not adding any more fossil fuel burning to the air quality, and I've made new what I know will be long term friends...I do miss my family...but they are starting to relocate up here too so that might not be a long term problem either.

    The best thing about being human is our ability to adjust to our surrounds if we'll just relax and let it happen.

    Thanks for sharing all.

    Marlene

    P.S. And for those of you who have not come to know that homemade pizza can be better then anything anyone can deliver. That next food in a hurry without much work thing can be met by making and freezing your pizza dough in large batches (the making part not the freezing) - those need to be one pizza size -- defrost - top bake. And for those of you without freezers -- a single pizza crust can be prepared and ready to top in under 30 mins. The sauce can also be made in large batches and canned or frozen...good things come to those who plan ahead as well as to those who wait... M
     
  19. Steph in MT

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    I gave up stress. :D
    Steph
     
  20. crystalniche

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    I didn't give up very much that I miss. It is more of a trade off for what is the most important to you and your well being. I do miss being able to walk to the store and mall. I can now drive there if I really want to go or simply stop and pick up things after work which is better anyway. It was getting dangerous walking with all that traffic, now almost impossible as a casino is just up the road within easy walking distance from where we lived. Most of our city friends stopped coming around after awhile but we made new country friends. All in all we are by far better off in the country.