We are in the process of adopting a sib group of two. The bio mom of the boys is sort of friendly to me, I know that she likes and respects us since she wants us to have the boys. The bio dad is a whole nother nightmare. The older boys therapist is telling us that he needs a clean break from his mom. Reason is, she was/is a heavy substance abuser, is known to runaway, will prob have more children and the therapist seems to think that at some point the boy's will be abandoned by her again. It won't affect the youngest, we have had him since birth. So does anyone have any experience with this? I feel sorry for the mom, she hads made some really rotten mistakes, has had a horrible life because of them and right now this boy is all she has. But my first concern is J. if his mom just stops coming then it will only add to his probs. We are already dealing with so many........Any thoughts?