Really want to get along with my new neighbors in TN. I realize I'm not one of them but I want to get along and be aprt of the community if possible. There are churches on every block seems like and they come up in conversation. I don't attend. Don't want to insult or offend anyone. They use "Miss," in front of a woman's name and though I cringe at that, I understand it is their upbringing. I've caught myself saying "yes sir" and "thank you ma'am" when I think I should be saying something else like "it's such a hot day today." I'm 41 with grown children, when does a woman stop saying sir and ma'am to younger folks? Any southerners able to help me with general Southern etiquette so I can blend?