I'm getting custody of my great neice and nephew. He's 20 months and she's 5 yrs. old. Well, I've raised 2 girls, so I think I can handle that, but I've never raised a boy. A good friend lived with us from the time her son was a year old until he was 10 yrs. old. But I was still together with my ex DH then and the boy spent a good deal of time with him. Now that same boy is having major problems with no man around and a mom who really isn't a good parent. I know he'll need lots of love, respect, frequent deposits into his love bank (hugs), structure, routine, knowledge of the Lord, education (home and school if we go the school route), good food, creative outlets, and the freedom to discover who he is. I don't oppose spanking, but only as a last alternative. I only spanked my girls a few times growing up and they have turned out great. But myfriend's son...Good Lord, that boy has always tested the water. Grounding, punishments, spanking... He was just so head strong. My little fellow seems to have a more gentle spirit, but he's very boy, rough and tumble. Do I need to do anything differently with him than I do with the girl? I don't want to stymie him, but do want to channel him in a positive direction. I want him to grow up into a self-directed, kind, loving, virtuous man. I want him to be able to lead his family in His light.