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I have a 6 year old son.I watch my friends 6 year old little girl after school.Today for the 4th time I caught them playing house?They have done this twice over at my friends and twice now over here.That we know about!This started at the begining of summer.
I was sitting down (the first time today it felt like)and I notice the kids are real quiet so I sneak into my sons room and catch them lying in bed next to each other...with guilty looks on thier faces...I KNEW..I didn`t freak out but talked to them individually and got the truth out of them both.They were looking,TOUCHING and lying on top of each other.
Ok so..I have 5 other grown children and THIS has NEVER happened before although I`ve watched other children when they were all small too.So I`m not a prude..I know children check each other out but this is happening to much..They have both been told gently that our bodies are private and that we are to keep them to ourselves.
What is up with these two?I know my son is Strictly monitored when it comes to TV..so I know he`s never seen anybody lie on top of each other having sex..My door is locked so he`s NEVER caught hubby and I.Why would two 6 year olds even CARE about this stuff so Much??
My Friend has kicked out her husband several months ago,for Drug use and he was verbally abusive to her.While cleaning out her hubbys stuff(they are divorcing) she found several Porn movies..so We think maybe her daughter saw these at one time..though they werre in a box in the basement on a high shelf so i really don`t see how.
sooo anyway has anyone else had this happen?
It`s really bothering me that they are so #1 SNEAKY,#2 Interested in this SO much and #3 so disobedient!,because they have been told over and over since those other times NO FUNNY BUISNESS.
 

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I would make them play where I could keep an eye on them - no more going off into the bedroom.

that`s what we did for several weeks after the second time...(the first time I just excused it to nature)
Sometimes you`d like to be able to trust that they will listen.NO more though...now they will play at my feet like two toddlers.
 

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1. If you literally said, "No funny business," they may not know what you actually meant.
2. You have told the other parent, right?
3. I think you did great by speaking calmly to them about privacy. Also think you are doing right by not allowing them alone time at all.
4. If the other child is from a broken home, then she's looking for positive feedback and comfort. She may need some help from a family therapist.

Hang in there. Fifteen years from now, it's a funny story. :)
 

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Does your son go to public school? If you know he has not seen it on tv, I would think that one or both of them are picking it up at school. My girls are forbidden to associate with one of their friends because she has a "kissing boyfriend" and she is 7 years old. I asked her what a kissing boyfriend does and she said they "kiss and cuddle." Apparently it is a big thing at the PS here for the girls to compare their "boyfriends" and then she told me that next week her and a friend were trading boyfriends for the week!

I will get flack for this, but I don't think it is just natural curiosity - at least not until hormones kick in. I think it is taught by our society.

Praying you get to the bottom of it and there is no lasting damage.
 

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RockyGlen said:
Does your son go to public school? If you know he has not seen it on tv, I would think that one or both of them are picking it up at school. My girls are forbidden to associate with one of their friends because she has a "kissing boyfriend" and she is 7 years old. I asked her what a kissing boyfriend does and she said they "kiss and cuddle." Apparently it is a big thing at the PS here for the girls to compare their "boyfriends" and then she told me that next week her and a friend were trading boyfriends for the week!

I will get flack for this, but I don't think it is just natural curiosity - at least not until hormones kick in. I think it is taught by our society.

Praying you get to the bottom of it and there is no lasting damage.

They go to public school yes,they are both in the 1st grade together(there is only 1 class per grade k thru 6 at our little country school,68 kids TOTAL)There was a boy last year in K with them that was made to leave school,I could see why I am at the school a lot..he was MUCH trouble.Though I never heard anything of a sexual nature out of him.Although it`s possible.
I have to disagree with you in that I truley think it`s a natural curiosity because a million years ago when I was 9 there was a neighbor boy of the same age and we "looked" at each other once in my bathroom.No parents ever knew.But see that was it...it was that ONE time...we were to embarrassed to even mention it ever again.
 

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Rose said:
1. If you literally said, "No funny business," they may not know what you actually meant.
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Oh they knew what I meant...I explained to them very carefully.
 
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