I insisted that we meet for Thanksgiving dinner like we have for the past forty years, It and Christmas eve is the only times we expect to see both of the children. They go to their mothers Christmas day as they have since we divorced 25 years ago. This year the daughter said she could not make it at Thanksgiving as she wanted to do something else, I requested that I only expected to see her and her brother at Thanksgiving lunch, (which we have at a buffet at a hotel) usually for a couple of hours at most and for dinner out at a resturant on Christmas eve. She has been to the farm only twice in the past 11 years, my son has been four or five times in the past five years. She and her suginificant other was there for Thanksgiving along with her mother , her brother and me and my wife thats the usual Thanksgiving group. Shortly after Thanksgiving my sons siginifant other had surgery and since he was recovering she emailed everone and said lets put off the Christmas eve dinner untill January or probably Feberuary so they would have more time to get over the surgery, So ok. Tonight we got a call from my son wishing us a merry christmas and chatted for a little while and then said he had to go as traffic was getting worse, and I asked him where he was and he was on his way to meet his sister for the Christmas eve thing. Seems they all made it but me and the wife. So here we are no kids for the first time in 45 years , we are not going to see anyone. \ This is typical of the daughter she has gotten even for feeling I made her meet us for Thanksgiving. The wife knows I am upset and so is she as she treats them as her kids not step kids. She accepts them and their partners even though most of their family does not, Both of my kids are gay, I have always accepted it and their pardners but seems they care more for the people that have disowned them. Sorry just a rant , Merry Christmas. My wife wants me to tell them that the doctors have told me there is nothing more they can do for me, I have not told them because there is no reason to upset them. Personally I look at it as sure I have several heart blockages they can not reach , this I know but other people just do not know about what is wrong with them..