Poor DD13 came home, and after spending over an hour doing music practice (a bit unusual) said English teacher had told them all off for talking too loud in class; that she had stopped as soon as told, but teacher not noticing her and other innocents punished whole class by assigning them to write out 5 then 25 times a paragraph long sentence of "I was bad... I will accept my punishment without whining...." etc. Sounded like teacher had a bad day, and is not a very consistent disciplinarian. I told DD I knew she was innocent (she certainly believed herself so) but that I had to support teacher's discipline and that group punishment might be the teacher's goal, and she could write an essay about her innocence and unfairness of punishment if she wanted or if not done doing 25 copies by bedtime I'd write an excuse. No other homework except for later in week. She was very upset crying and demanding to know why (and not understanding what I was saying) I was making her. As I realised she was resisting MY commands I pushed her- sent her to a time out and then pointed out she had to do the work. Dh was out of town and I called him and was actually wimpily hoping he'd tell her he agreed with me (she often and is sometimes right- a marital issue indeed- thinks DH would not make her do something I'm making her do). He reminded me to resume parental authority and demand obedience (without him as a crutch!) and also to remind her that even if she didn't finish all that night she'd get to do it all week (I'd told her no computer or TV until done already). Anyway she got it done in time, calmed down some, and yesterday came home and said teacher didn't collect it! I called teacher who said "I told class as they left [on day assigned] they didn't have to do it, and to tell everyone...." and reassured me my girl was wellbehaved and should have come and asked not to have to do it and would've been told she didn't have to. My DD does sometimes have a communication problem at school (thought it was only in England but maybe change to AL/US causing it here as well) but I fear it is the teacher who does in this case. So what to do? Decided with DH that any future noneducational and argued as unreasonable assignments we'll let her not do it unless/until an actual written demand from teacher comes home, possibly the next day. But what a lesson- "gee you're right you CAN just ignore punishment handed out by your teacher." And maybe I needed to see how close to rebellion my girl is but I am mad at the teacher for precipitating a near nuclear meltdown in my daughter's obedience and my command over the teacher's apparently total lack of discipline and consistency.