She's 93 and really needs to be in a nursing home. My mother is not able to take care of her. But my mother is unable to live without Grandma's SS check so she keeps her at home with her. this morning or sometime during the night Grandma, who can barely walk with a walker, made it outside and down the ramp. She then crawled up under the porch. No one knows how long she was out there or why she went out......she doesn't remember going out. They took her to the ER and have given her warm fluids thru an iv to warm her and xrayed her and have found no broken bones which I think is a miracle. She's still cold to the touch they said and complaining about her hip hurting. Whatever pain meds she gets mother will take if at all possible. Its amazing that my dh's grandma who also has no assets was able to get in a nursing home when mil could no longer care for her but my grandma with no assets supposedly "can't" get in a nursing home because she has no $$.....my mother's words. This makes me furious. My grandmother, who has always helped anyone she could is suffering because her stingy daughter wants her SS check to live above her means. I want to go see Grandma, but that means seeing mother.......which right now I'm not really in the right frame of mind to do. I'd also have to take all the younger kids with me and after having everyone sick I really don't want them in a hospital. Maybe tomorrow I can go when one of the older girls will be home.