I would say you were fortunate that things worked out as they did. Your uncle was apparently in a position where he was able to accept another person into the home, and the additional costs involved were covered.Second hand experience. As I explained earlier in the thread, my uncle kept my grandmother in their home (he was a dairy farmer) with the help of home health aides (Medicare, a county agency, and later Medicaid) until she deteriorated to the point where she went to a specialized care facility. He lost part of the family farm to pay for what Medicaid paid out for her care.
You have personal experience with Medicaid, I believe? I think I read that in one thread or another. Does your experience differ?
When my wife's grandfather was in need of care, her mother took him in, but not everything was covered. Fortunately, she used to be a nurse so was able to handle some of it herself. That's not always an option for everyone. So yes, my experience differs. Again, we were fortunate to be in a position where we were able to take him in.
My first-hand experience with "the system" has often been a nightmare. From them constantly changing my daughter's doctors, to the denials of service, and the times where she was removed from SSI without us even being notified - times where I have had to solicit my congressman for help - I have to constantly stay on top of it. Again, I am fortunate that I have a job where I can take time to handle stuff like that on the regular basis that I must. In fact, I have another one of those matters to attend to next week because of a paperwork screwup on their end.
That single mother is someone who lived in my apartment building. Her having to take in a parent was, thankfully, not something she actually had to deal with. But I used the example because there simply was no possible way for her to bear the costs, not just financial, but emotional and to her time (there are costs beyond just money).Again, if a person wants their alert and oriented person in their home and out of a nursing home, it can be done.
At that time, living in that ghetto, I wouldn't have been able to do it either, not matter how much I wanted to. Today I am in a much better place, and can (and am) doing what I can for a family member.
You have personally seen things work out. That's not always the case. Don't extrapolate from your personal experience to everyone's. Please, try to have a little bit of sympathy and understanding for people who are not as well off and don't have the options you have had. You're making a blanket statement that simply does not always hold true. I'm just asking you to remember those whose life circumstances don't offer them any choices, or at least no viable ones, on such matters.