Is this child autistic?

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  1. ladycat

    ladycat Chicken Mafioso Staff Member

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    This is Dylan, the 2 year old boy of my brother's stepdaughter.

    Last night I saw him for the first time since he started walking. In Christmas of 2004, he was an infant. Several of us noticed there was something "funny" about him and remarked on it.

    Christmas of 2005, he was a little over a year old and didn't interact with anyone, including the other children. He was fascinated with the jingle bells hanging on the front door and spent the entire Christmas Eve last year shaking them, with no interest in anything else. If anyone moved him from the door, he would crawl back to the door as soon as he was let go.

    Last night was the first I had seen him since he began walking. Several of us noticed his peculiar behavior, although his mother seems oblivious that anything is wrong.

    He spent all evening very purposefully walking around the house while holding his arms close and shaking his hands. Periodically he would stop at a certain throw rug and very methodically scrunch it up. As soon as that was done he would go walking again.

    Several of us tried to get his attention but we were not even able to make eye contact with him. It was as though everyone around him was invisible. He showed no interest whatsoever in toys or in unwrapping his gifts.

    His mother says he is obsessed with watching TV, but he never plays with toys, nor does he play with his sister. In watching him last night, he doesn't seem to know his sister exists.

    The walking was so strange. Down the hall and back, around the kitchen island, around the couch, and back down the hall. The same route over and over and over while doing that hand shaking. Everytime he came around from the inner side of the kitchen island, he would stop and scrunch that rug.

    He does not respond to his name, not even when his parents call him. He's not deaf because he will react to a sudden sound. He seems to be completely in his own little world.

    Any thoughts?
     
  2. mpillow

    mpillow Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Yep sounds like it...and probably made worse by mom and dad not trying to capture his attn.....he'll stay in his own little world as long as they leave him there :shrug:
     

  3. Cheryl in SD

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    He needs to be evaluated. His mother knows, she may just not be ready to admit it yet.

    I am so sorry. It is possible that he is a late developer, but early intervention can sometimes help if it is autism.
     
  4. ladycat

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    I wonder what will happen when it's time for him to start school?
     
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    flaming flagrant classic and obvious. Needs eval and parental coaching. Earlier intervention is better.
     
  6. ladycat

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    His mother is self centered and a little "slow". She also has a drug problem. She's had several miscarriages, presumably from drug use, because she doesn't stop drugs or take care of herself when she's pregnant. The drugs used by the mother probably has something to do with the problem, or at least exacerbated it. I really don't think the mother "knows".

    My mother is going to talk to my brother (the step grandfather of the child in question). Hopefully something will get done.
     
  7. chamoisee

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    Sounds like it to me.

    But, if his mom did drugs, it could be something else. I've seen children who were born addicted to meth, and they also act different, even though they're not autistic.

    That said, I have Asperger's, an autism spectrum disorder, two of my children are just about to get evaluated for it as well, and yes, this behavior sounds autistic. I certainly hope people aren't going to drive this kid nuts with sensory overload and insensitivity, but...they probably will. :Bawling:
     
  8. chamoisee

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    Another possibility- I saw a teenager that I was 100% certain was one of my kind, so I asked his mom. Nope, he's not autistic....he has shaken baby syndrome. His sperm donor shook the living daylights out of him when he was a tot and almost killed him, caused bleeding on the brain. But he appears autistic to the outside observer. Really sad. :grump:
     
  9. Cheryl in SD

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    It could also be FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome)(Fetal Alcohol Syndrome

    If there is known drug/alcohol abuse, this needs to be brought out at an evaluation.
     
  10. Cyngbaeld

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    Yes, does sound autistic and should see a specialist. Possibly his mom is on the spectrum too. She may see this as normal if others in her family act the same way.
     
  11. Pony

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    Sure looks like a Pervasive Developmental Disorder; no matter what label you put on it, it seems like the kid really needs help.

    Check out the National Institutes of Mental Health site on the topic. They have a lot of good info that you can either download to PDF, print, or order through the mail.

    http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/autism.cfm

    God bless your family's efforts to get this child the help he needs.

    Pony!
     
  12. titansrunfarm

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    My stepson was diagnosed with autism when 2 years old, he is now 16 and I believe it more Asperger's and suspect his father has it also. Please encourage an eveluation of the child, early intervention is very important.
     
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    Yup!
     
  14. caroline00

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    be sure you have his hearing evaluated anyway!

    both of our youngest sons were deaf as toddlers/babies... we didnt catch it until they were 2 and thier pediatrician never did agree with us...until after I hounded him for an eval.
     
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    My daughter who works with children 5 and under said that it probably is autism . She said the hand shaking is a classic sign of autism . She has worked with autistic children and children with other dissabilities for 7 years now . The diagnosis is way past due for Dylan .
    Poor little guy . . ... ... it's bad enough that a child has it with good parents .
     
  16. almostthere

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    YUP.

    Got a 6 yr old ASD who was eval'd at 4 1/2. Long story about why it wasn't done sooner but, he's going on his second year of therapy and doing quite well. His hand flapping did not start until recently, but he does it. The OCD and the pica will drive you crazy, as well as the parroting, but with a good amount of behavioral therapy and consistant rules it *should* lesson with time.

    Go to http://www.easterseals.com/site/PageServer
    see if they have an office near you. If they don't I am sure they know of where to go. The school system here has easter Seals for thier therapies and it starts at age 3. Head Start will not be able to provide what he needs, look for an ARC( Association for Retarded Citizens), they might have a link for developmental therapies for toddlers...there is a "Rehabilitation Center" here that does just this and it starts at infancy and goes thru K, where the public school picks up.
     
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    maybe... but if his home life is chaotic, he could also be doing it because of severe anxiety.

    eval by a doctor is in order.


     
  18. Terri

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    My son has Aspergers, which is like Autism but milder.

    He rocks and does repetitive behavior (like the hand shaking) to calm himself when things get too intense. I can see a holiday gathering as being intense! It is how he reacts to anxiety.

    Then again, it is how my ASPERGERS son reacts to anxiety: most kids react differently to stress.

    Yeah, an evaluation would be wise.

    I am sorry the Mom is out of it: a child with problems needs a parent who is capable. My son is doing very well, but, he NEEDED adults to help him!
     
  19. Bluegirl

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    A Developmental Pediatrician or Child Psychiatrist can make the diagnosis. Both are big bucks. We are talking at least $900 for one visit to the Dev Ped and even more for the Child Psych. Insurance is a must.

    The public school system can test, and has an excellent Early Childhood Special Education program starting at age 3. Look up your public school in the phone book, look for Special Services. Call and say you want your child tested.

    Mom to a dd with autism.
     
  20. ladycat

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    As far as I know, the mother has Medicaid. She's on welfare. I wonder if Medicaid will cover that?