Lol my granny always did say the devil is in the details. That year to get there may be a blessing. As you say, everything you really need to do you can do from town with planning. That gives you time to think through if living on their land is the best idea, or if just being closer would be better. We always liked the walton's idea too, but push came to shove and co housing did not work out. Worked better for us to have their own place, even if it was just sort of down the street lol. But that was us. Other families it can work fine.
But details to work out are fine points sometimes. Separate housing worked better for us so it could be "grandma's house grandma's rules/ mom's house mom's rules." That way if mom was cool with jelly hands wiped on the couch and grandma did not want that on her bedroom comforter, both mom and grandma had the final say--at their own home.
I ditto whoever said building or reno'ing is stressful. It is---in spades!! And whoever asked about the stairs: right on!! As we age we are only one day from waking up just absolutely unable to do stairs. Could be temporary or could be permanent, but either way a major hurdle for a while. Might be a good idea to work out an above ground solution. Also since you have the mobile home, if you are going to be all that useful to them, I ditto whoever said basically s-n-l can get his nose out of the air and accept your home on his land. Or deed you some land.
Sounds like you have a plan now of no fast moves and yet still working toward the goal of possibly moving to their place? Or no fast moves but possibly moving very close to them? I have extended family that basically did what you are doing for the time being. Then the grandpa died and they built grandma a tiny home on their land, but nice private distance from their house. And in a year the younger couple filed for divorce. And memaw was almost out on her can since 3 adults with opinions was part of the problem. Divorce was cancelled, memaw still lives there, but she no longer babysits/helps out, etc. If she moves back to town she would likely take up keeping the kids again. Go figure.
We have been married 50 years and lived in 15 homes. I know those 1-2 years things sound off to folks like us who like to "git'er done." But they really do save heartache. As you said, had to land somewhere at the break up, but now you can take your time and plan what YOU really want!
Peace and good luck!
But details to work out are fine points sometimes. Separate housing worked better for us so it could be "grandma's house grandma's rules/ mom's house mom's rules." That way if mom was cool with jelly hands wiped on the couch and grandma did not want that on her bedroom comforter, both mom and grandma had the final say--at their own home.
I ditto whoever said building or reno'ing is stressful. It is---in spades!! And whoever asked about the stairs: right on!! As we age we are only one day from waking up just absolutely unable to do stairs. Could be temporary or could be permanent, but either way a major hurdle for a while. Might be a good idea to work out an above ground solution. Also since you have the mobile home, if you are going to be all that useful to them, I ditto whoever said basically s-n-l can get his nose out of the air and accept your home on his land. Or deed you some land.
Sounds like you have a plan now of no fast moves and yet still working toward the goal of possibly moving to their place? Or no fast moves but possibly moving very close to them? I have extended family that basically did what you are doing for the time being. Then the grandpa died and they built grandma a tiny home on their land, but nice private distance from their house. And in a year the younger couple filed for divorce. And memaw was almost out on her can since 3 adults with opinions was part of the problem. Divorce was cancelled, memaw still lives there, but she no longer babysits/helps out, etc. If she moves back to town she would likely take up keeping the kids again. Go figure.
We have been married 50 years and lived in 15 homes. I know those 1-2 years things sound off to folks like us who like to "git'er done." But they really do save heartache. As you said, had to land somewhere at the break up, but now you can take your time and plan what YOU really want!
Peace and good luck!