Human Encounters 101, The currant waif

Discussion in 'Countryside Families' started by moopups, Dec 25, 2006.

  1. moopups

    moopups In Remembrance

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    Caught this thoughts of one a couple of weeks ago, a small male person, exits the bus, black backpack, slumped posture, apparently no friends - the other kids do not offer any communications. He is maybe 10 to 12, I do not know.

    Answered him once when he asked, 'has the bus ran yet?' I answered 'I do not see any other school aged people, probably so'. He trudged back to wards his dwelling. I do not know anything else about this situtation.

    We are not teaching our children how to 'see'. We are failing them. Conferred with neighbor 'L' to the left rear, she also picked up on this, and said she had also entered with encouraging words to wards him. I give full trust to neighbor 'L'.

    This male child is in trouble, much as I was back when. There needs to be some kind of intervention, I am not enough of an authority to say what it should be, suggestions?
     
  2. suzfromWi

    suzfromWi Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Moopups, I always want to FIX things for kids. I love them and want them to have a good life. I dont know what you can do for this poor child except befriend him. Maybe try to befriend the mom if possible so you could see whats going on. Maybe she works and he has to get himself off to school, that being why he was running late. I once found a neighbor child playing in my driveway in the sand. I invited her in for milk and cookies and discovered her mom had told her to make herself scarse for a half hour. Inviting the boy in of course wouldnt be a good idea but you could visit with him outside. Things may be fine at home.
     

  3. Maura

    Maura Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Maybe you've got some little jobs that you need help with.
     
  4. Grandmotherbear

    Grandmotherbear Well-Known Member Supporter

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    I read The gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker, the security specialist. One time he spoke to a group of prisoners, and one asked him "Why are you out there and we in here?" meaning, Gavin had the same kind of life they did in childhood. Crazy mother, shot stepfather in front of the boy and his sister, lots of poverty, drugs and drinking by parents, lots of abuse endured...
    gavin went home and thought about it, then researched it. He found that the difference between young men who went "wrong" and young men who, despite the same background, stayed on the straight and narrow, was that at sometime, in childhood, the young men who were redeemed from a lifetime of criminality had an adult who took an interest in them.
    Possibly you could give this young man a kind word or two or otherwise see what develops? But do stay always visible to the street or in the company of another adult - sad world but you have to protect yourself against any possibility of accusation of any misdoing....