We have a developing situation here that is starting to get me stressed. There is a little girl in my DD's class at school whose Mum is a bit of a problem. She is nice enough and I get on alright with her but..... she has a habit of making a "friend" then they live in each other's pockets for a while and then they fall out amidst much nastiness - and I appear to be the next on her list. For a start I am not into that "in each other's laps" type of friendships - they just don't appeal to me. also knowing what I do about her cycle of friendships I want to keep her at arm's length.
I should explain that I am known for doing fancy dress for my daughter. So in a couple of weeks we have a sort of carnival week and one of the events is a "Disney Parade" so this woman starts trying to organise my daughter to go in with a group of kids that she is putting together. I said that I thought my DD's dance troupe was going to be in the parade anyway so she couldn't go - I have since found out that they aren't so I have organised a fancy dress for DD. So today she phoned me up to say that she had checked and that the little ones weren't going to be with the dance troupe so my DD could go with her lot. I sort of lied and said that my DD wanted to go with her cousins. It is actually the absolute truth as DD does want to go with her cousins - unfortunately they will both be playing in the band
so will NOT be in the fancy dress.
Then last year I had a party for DD's classmates to be - a going to school party. I have been trying to decide whether I was going to do another one this summer - if I do one it sort of sets me up as the party giver for the next 11 years
but at the same time I think it is nice to get them together again before they go back to school so I don't really mind doing it. I am also a stickler for DD only being allowed 5 or 6 at her birthday party so this is a chance for her to invite the whole class and repay any parties she has been to. So this other woman asked if I was having a summer party this year and I said I thought so but hadn't totally decided yet. So now she is trying to organise herself into that. She doesn't want to have the party and be responsible for it - she just wants to be my new best friend and muscle in on DD's party. So now I can't figure out how to talk myself out o fthis one. Without being and rude and telling her where to go
Also, I am guessing that if she comes in and tries to take over she will want her son, who is a couple of years older, to be able to come and invite all his mates too, but the idea of the party is for DD's class to get together.
The only thing I can think of is to have it all totally planned and ready to go before she asks again - she said she would get back to me about it after the carnival week so I have a couple of weeks to get moving.
Any other ideas? I am totally hopeless with people and I really don't want to offend her - just want my own space LOL
hoggie
I should explain that I am known for doing fancy dress for my daughter. So in a couple of weeks we have a sort of carnival week and one of the events is a "Disney Parade" so this woman starts trying to organise my daughter to go in with a group of kids that she is putting together. I said that I thought my DD's dance troupe was going to be in the parade anyway so she couldn't go - I have since found out that they aren't so I have organised a fancy dress for DD. So today she phoned me up to say that she had checked and that the little ones weren't going to be with the dance troupe so my DD could go with her lot. I sort of lied and said that my DD wanted to go with her cousins. It is actually the absolute truth as DD does want to go with her cousins - unfortunately they will both be playing in the band
Then last year I had a party for DD's classmates to be - a going to school party. I have been trying to decide whether I was going to do another one this summer - if I do one it sort of sets me up as the party giver for the next 11 years
Also, I am guessing that if she comes in and tries to take over she will want her son, who is a couple of years older, to be able to come and invite all his mates too, but the idea of the party is for DD's class to get together.
The only thing I can think of is to have it all totally planned and ready to go before she asks again - she said she would get back to me about it after the carnival week so I have a couple of weeks to get moving.
Any other ideas? I am totally hopeless with people and I really don't want to offend her - just want my own space LOL
hoggie