I seem to have a personality defect according to my BF. Scene - 26 inches of snow falls in town, BF is stuck at work for 36 hours straight, working with no relief because "they" can't get there. Meanwhile my 84 year old neighbor, WWII vet, digs out several cars on the street with a garden shovel, but "they" can't get out of the house. BF calls "them" yesterday afternoon and ask when "they" will there to releave him since it's now been 32 hours and quite frankly he's hungry and tired. He woke "them" up! So one of them finally gets someone else to drive her to work so BF can be relieved. BF shows up at home, showers, eats and grabs me and pulls me back outside... we are off to shovel "them" out at there home! I already spent my day helping the apartment dewellers get their cars unburried from 2 feet of snow. Those apartmnet dwellers were showing up curb side with a dust pan and broom and they are ready to work to get their cars out. So of course, I offer an extra shovel and lend a hand myself to help. I have no problem with helping those that are willing to help themselves... but I apparently have a HUGE issue with helping those that will not even lift a finger to help themselves. So I spent my evening shoveling out a driveway and three cars, across town. I was really sour about it and still am. I don't like feeling this way, all this anger I have now, I need to vent a bit and also ask for some advice on how to handle this stuff in the future. I have no problem with helping those that are willing to help themselves, but if you won't lift a finger to help yourself, why should I help you? We didn't even get a "thank you" for shoveling them out. ****BF said to look at it as helping himself. If he shovels out their cars, there is a better chance that he will be able to enjoy his 3 days off and not have to cover for one of them becuase they can't (won't lift a finger) get out of the house... We also helped numerous other people on our way across town, I even found a very expensive cell phone in the parking lot. We managed to get the phone returned to the owneres - they had been stranded at the airport the day before on a lay over... so they were really grateful that we went thru their phone book, found an entery for parents - called his parents who called the wife and we arranged to drop the phone off at their hotel. It in some way reminded me of some of the Katrina victims .... come save us, but don't ask us to work to save ourselves.