Have some choices to make dealing with my 84 year old Dad. He presently lives 250 miles south of us in suburbia. Has lived there in the same home now for 54 years..the home I grew up in as a child. His wife of 30 years..my step-mother died last Feb and on the eve of her death he suffered a major MI..heart attack. After a week in ICU..we buried his wife. He is now totally alone even though my sister lives less than 20 minutes from him. She is not "warm and fuzzy"..very matter of fact about life etc. Sees him when necessary and "does her duty" as she puts it..she says.."he isn't nice to me"..that is her reason not to see him..and yes he is crabby to me too but.. My Dad is not an easy man to live with in the fact that he has been always set in his ways as we all are. He is "very British" to say the least..Royal Marines..never give up..trying to be the man he was 50 years ago..you get the idea. But he is my Dad..a good father..and I love him dearly even though he has been driving me nuts with several phone calls a day..getting into throwing his money away on in the mail fraud sweepstakes and the crooks on the phone to him daily. His judgement has gotten worse in the last year after his illness. He frequently calls with needed advice on simple matter and says things like.."is that OK..should I do this??" We are looking into a retirement home near us..he is very capable still of taking care of himself and his small house..but needs care with $$ matters and a social life..He has no friends still alive..You get the picture. But..yes he could afford a retirement home near us that is very, very nice and there is no entrance fee or waiting period. I have been a nurse for many years and am very familiar with dealing with the elderly in their daily lives and the care that is needed and the downward spiral they (we) all take as we get even older. It's hard physically but more so emotionally. NOW...would living with us be an option ?? Have looked into actually moving to more land and found a house with a separate apartment with this house. We had no "too soon" plans ourselves to move..money always an issue..selling present house etc..It is now just my husband and myself..with our ever growing animal family...Does anyone here live with the aging parents...and give me some ideas and thoughts please...!!! Dad seems to be in agreement about moving somewhere that is less responsibilty for him and selling his home...Ideas ??