P.S. Wow... now I see that you've posted that kids and adults are equals where opnions and choices are concerned and I see that this is hopeless...
HAAA hardly, when they can work pay for their own car and home they might be considere equals as far as adult behavior, human equals yes yes yes.
I use spanking as the last resort and seem to have more patience in my old age.. LOL But children in my home show respect or they dont receive any
couldn't agree more and I tell my tween this all the time!!!minus the old age part, i haven't settled.
My dad did spank us and I remember once having the belt used on me and frankly looking back I deserved it! He would talk to us first and by the time he was done I was wanting to be spanked and have it over with.
my mom in my case, dad was a no show,frankly i deserved it too, snuck out my window and stole moms car for a joyride and got caught by her coworkers, she worked for a sheriffs department, imagine that?? i learned REAL quick then
in the case of talking my kids know I will beat a subject to death with talking they practically beg for me to spank them so they can move on.
not that they like it but me giving a speach even the wife asks to get it overwith.
It is a lot easier to conquer a two year old than a fifteen year old.
tell me how??? i have twin five yr olds, 1) 1 yr old, and a 12 yr old
i get headaches i get so mad at em sometimes, i will say this we do spank, and i believe it works with the methods we apply as well, my 12 yr old is a bit much at times but is now saying she would like to work with the FBI when she comes of age, or the military in inteligence, and she is smart as a whip!!
the twins are my wife made over which she never lives down, my youngest is me now and then, HELPPPPP!!!!!
seriously, religion has no place in my life when it comes to teaching my kids the right thing, I will get flamed for that one, but it is my home and how dare anyone tell me I am wrong, thats the problem i have with the "faithful" so ready to tell me how wrong I live when they can't sweep their own porch.
i have a wonderful family and in spite of my help plea, they ARE kids....... and kids should be taught not idealized and treated as equals,
when a child is treated as an equal that child loses sight of their place and tends to insert themselves in adult scenarios all too often, I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE, not an OPINION.
in my career I see so many kids that act out and cause such a problem if they had a spanking it might have saved them or saved the other kids from being shot. (Experience)
this is what happens when you coat bad behavior with sugar, I am not saying all kids grow up this way, but it does not help them either.
as for my kids there is not a day that goes by when they go without hugs, oldest hates kisses, she turns red and well shes a tween, but all of them can't sit 5 minutes without coming to us for hugs and sugar, and I love you's.............and we spank.