[blue8ewe]

This has been going around lately because of some guy who is giveing/or selling paddles to spank kids when appropriate for punishment.
I know that there are many old timers so I was hoping for a well rounded view.
Is this a "fad" that was once and is no longer? Or have people become so afraid of "abusing" a child that they dont use corporal punishment any more?
Or is this more of a thing for the city, worldly types?
I realy wonder what has changed so much? Is it the increase of people comming away from God? The ever increasing public eye?

I only ask that this thread stay civil. There have been a lot of bashing and pure hatred towards "spanker's" in the conversations I have been fallowing.
If that starts here Ill ask a MOD to close the thread.

 

[Puddleduck]

I did. Now that I'm older and much more mellow, I wouldn't. I would find an alternative punishment. Funny how time changes a person.

 

[PyroDon]

for extreme disobideince not minor offenses

 

[Snugglebunny]

Spanking here is a last resort - when everything else has been tried, and it's never EVER done in anger. We try to encourage listening skills more than punishment - we talk about good choices vs bad choices, consequences, etc.

 

[WindowOrMirror]

We have only spanked for direct disobedience (continued and direct defiance).

It's been a while since we spanked as the kids are really too old for that to be the most effective method of imparting wisdom or modifying behavior

(flame on)

R

 

[LostnEurope]

I will spank but only after I have tried all other avenues..That being said my 11yo DD really doesn't know what a REAL spanking is, not like I used to get....LnE

 

[Guest]

Yes, I do. I don't need a paddle. My hand suffices for the job.

But my kids get ten times as many hugs and kisses as they get smacks on the butt.

......Alan.

 

[Lynne]

like Snugglebunny and Rose
as a last resort and just a swat or two the butt with an open hand

 

[Tracy Rimmer]

Yes, but I haven't had to for YEARS -- not since the boys were little.

And I would never use a paddle, or any other "tool", other than my hand.

 

[Jan Doling]

I know someone who adopted 9 kids....she had a consequence chart posted on the fridge, listing the consequence for different offenses. Spanking was only for something God would have punished by death in the Bible (lying, stealing, etc.).

I swat still sometimes, but am more creative now than when they were little. My oldest loves her food, so I will ground her from sodas or desserts for day or a week, depending on the severity of the crime. I will leave an offender home and take the other kid to a movie. I will assign an oderous chore. Somethings really get to them. You just have to figure out which kid hates which punishment the most.

 

[Bob_W_in_NM]

Spare the rod - spoil the child. A good quality razor strop would be a great investment for any family. We've been through a couple of generations of "enlightened" child rearing and look at the results. "Case closed" in my book!

Bob

 

[Ohio dreamer]

I'm a mom of "young" kids (4 & 8) and I voted spank. I also would describe myself as a Christian and feel that spanking is a command from God. But that does NOT mean that my children are spank for every little thing they do wrong. Only one thing can earn them a spanking...dis-obedience. Any other "infraction" warrants a discussion in which we determine the root of the problem and work from there trying correct the behavior. They can fight, argue, act like kids and have no fear of being spanked for it.

This is working for us, it's not perfect. My kids aren't perfect and I'm not perfect so mistakes happen.

 

[vegascowgirl]

yes I do, but only as a last resort. First comes a warning, then time out/ possibly a grounding. After that though, if my children are still doing the same thing that had them in trouble in the first place I will spank. A spanking in my house is on the backside or on the hands, with an open hand. belts, spoons, switches are not used.

I can't stand going to the store and seeing mothers with children running rampant . While the mother sits there, either ignoring them or pleading with them to be good. For goodness sake take control, instead of standing there with a little meak voice saying "now, johnny, you shouldn't do that" ."Johnny, don't open that potao salad". "Johnny, potato salad doesn't belong in your pants" "Well, Johnny I guess I'll have to pay for that potato salad now". ....It should have never got to that point.

No my kids aren't angels. My five yr old has a major stubborn streak. However, she also is tought respect. I require and demand respect from my children. A child who does not listen to their parents is disrespectfull.

Now if a non spanking method works for your children, fantastic. And of course every child is different. What works or doesn't work for one. may be the opposite for another.

 

[ginnie5]

Well all I can say is I survived my Grannie's whoopins. Keen little hickory switches, and now that I'm older I'll be honest and say I could've used a few more! I remember one time we snuck down to the pond when she was watching us...we weren't allowed to go there ever. She tore my backside and legs to pieces when we got back.......seemed she's been calling us and we couldn't hear her. She'd called my dad home so I got another one when he got there.

 

[TC]

yes, we spank, but I can count on one hand the times we have and that's with 4 kids. As others have said, only if it's the last resort. THat being said, I am creative with disiplines. I bet my kids wished I spanked more, rather than the highy thought out punishments I usually come up with....

 

[Pink_Carnation]

Is this a "fad" that was once and is no longer? Or have people become so afraid of "abusing" a child that they dont use corporal punishment any more?
Or is this more of a thing for the city, worldly types?
I realy wonder what has changed so much? Is it the increase of people comming away from God? The ever increasing public eye?

People are afraid of being accused of abusing their child...depending on where you live cps will pay a visit if you spank in public, especially with a paddle or other item.

Some who were abused will worry about abusing too.

The city living increases the problem of "they" are watching.

I don't think it is as much comming away from God as it is changing standards of behavior and the desire to give the children a carefree childhood.

 

[A'sta at Hofstead]

No. There are better ways to teach.
Violence begets violence.

 

[southrngardngal]

I spanked mine when they were children. As some others have said "not for every little thing." but when they were disobedient and/or disrespectful they were spanked.

When I worked as a teacher assistant a little boy asked me in a shocked tone :"You spanked your children?" I told him that I did and not one of them grew up to be axe murderers and that they were all responsible adults. He couldn't believe that I spanked my children. His parents didn't spank. Well, I saw him five days a week and believe me from his behavior in the classroom he could have used an attitude adjustment. LOL

southrngardngal-Jan

 

[Terri]

I used it as a back-up for mor peacefull punishments. The corner WAS more effective....excepting when it did not work.

If I spanked a child more than every 6 months or so, I would stop and review the less physical punishments available. I hated spanking, and so I used other methods when I could.

The fact is, the other punishments did not ALWAYS work, they just USUALLY worked. And so they were occasionally spanked.

 

[Snugglebunny]

Around here, nothing ALWAYS works... not spanking, corners, talking, time-outs, removal of privaleges... nothing always works. I try to discipline according to the wrong. Spanking is usually a result of more serious behavior - lying, hitting or pushing, or when a child is simply refusing to listen for a long period of time. We expect our boys to listen to direction the first time.