[paulaswolfpack]

I am not wishing to get slammed to much. but this is the only way out of this idiots live at least to some degree. There would be only one 13 year old son involed as my DD plans on moving out in Oct. when she turns 18.
My name is on the deed my so pays nothing and not even when we were renting did he, 3 years ago I found this land with 3 mobiles on it we are disabled and needed to live in seperate households to get the medical we needed and my 21 year old DD lives in the thrid one.
There nothing between us anymore when it came to the S word he only wanted one thing and that never meant pleaseing me.,But thats not really why I want and need this he does not help with the house payments or the homeowners insureace instead he buys junk and his loterty tickets just last month he he went to tunica twice once he got a check from the oxicontin drug lawsuit and ran to Tunica,Ms. then came back and sold his truck and went back for a week never once did he tell me where he was going then he called me in the middle of the night to tell me he won $9000.00 I asked him to please make sure he brought it home because he neede a car,but he lost it said it was my fault for being negitive he had my son with him too. of course john was locked up in the hotel room most of the time,now my son needs school clothes and the So doesnt know why I cant afford them.
I live in the state of MO. what is the cheapest way to get a DIVORCE? I just dont have the money I was wanting to wait until my son turned 18 but thats 5 more years. He has not beat me in over 10 years but he has guns in his house and is a ex felon. He has been driving my truck which is my baby it was my mommas I bought it from my dad when she passed away 3 years ago he has put 3 large dents in it he is not insured to drive it,My son told me he had a set of keys made for it when he drove it one day I always keep it on full every trip I make to town I fill it up and he has not been so know Iam trying to make tank empty.
Can I put a ad in the paper saying that I am responsable for my own debt, will that help me out with the credit card people and mail orders that he is getting and not paying for? or will I be stuck with those bills we have seperate addresses and phone numbers so if you know of the cheapest way to DIVORCE please feel free to PM me I need out but I will not leave my homestead I have put all the work into this he will not even mow the grass. Iam trying to save some money or maybe borrow from my dad to buy him a piece of junk but running car for him to drive since he seems to have to go a 70 mile round trip every day it seems and I only go some where maybe 3 times a month. Iam sorry that I am ranting so much but I just cant take it. Its my kids that suffer mostly when it comes to christmas and birthdays he makes all these promises but nothing ever comes from it. I just want to live a few years without him before I die I know that sounds so cruel, me and my kids never go over to his house not for anything he is the one that comes to ours and starts the bull. I know it takes money to get a divorce but there must be a cheaper way, thanks for letting me bend your ear but I was in bed crying and needed to tell someone,paula :flame: :Bawling: Mods if this has stuff not allowed please delete it.

 

[Laura]

You can fill out and file your own divorce papers. If you are low income, you should be able to get a waiver for filing fees from the county clerk. This waiver also covers the cost of having the sherriff's office serve the papers. Your only cost would be making copies of your papers. I believe you need 5 copies. It really is that cheap, unless he contests the divorce or stipulations.

If you need help filling out the papers or figuring out the process, call your domestic violence hotline and ask for an advocate to help you through this process. They are more than willing to help you through a divorce and offer help in protecting yourself and your kids.

 

[EarlsNan]

http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/missouri.shtml


Check out this link or google Missouri divorce laws. You will find quite a bit of info. When I got my divorce in Illinois years ago I contacted legal aid and it didn't cost me anything. I think you can file as a poor person and then you don't have to pay court costs, either. At least, that's how it works here where I live. If he has guns and used to beat you, I'd check into getting a restraining order, also. That may force him to leave the property depending on how close his home is to yours. Good luck and God bless. ~Nan

 

[susieM]

Either hide the truck or call the police when he drives it.

 

[Alice In TX/MO]

Yes, you can do all the paperwork yourself. You'll have a couple of court appearances, and it will take a couple of months, but you can do it.

Go to the county clerk (as mentioned above) and ask questions. They will be able to either point you in the right direction or guide you through it.

May angels guide you and the Spirit bring you peace.

Rose

 

[Bink]

If he's an ex felon, is he allowed to own guns?

 

[Cabin Fever]

...My name is on the deed my so pays nothing ....

Don't worry, you don't have to get divorced from "significant others." :shrug:

 

[muggins]

Paula,
Since he is a convicted felon, he cannot be in possesion of any firearms. I would call the police and tell them he is a felon in possesion of firearms, have them take the guns and while he is in jail, get a restraining order and the extra key to your truck. I would also do an eviction. You will have to check the MO laws on landlord/tenant evictions. If you are not married, you do not need a divorce. Both of you are getting medical assistance, live in separate housing and that is proof that you are not married. Does he have a parole officer? If so, I would also contact them. He can be put away for a long time for the firearm violation.
Good luck!
Prayers to you and your kids!!

 

[ceresone]

Thats what I was wondering--are you married to him, or not? If you are, Missouri is a community property state--can you keep him from claiming half of everything you have? And, dont forget, in our part of Missouri, the "good ole boy" rule is still in effect.
Went with a friend of mine to a lawyer, to see about a lawyer, despite them having been married 15 years, the lawyer told her it would "be hard to make him sell everything, to give her half" So--she's stuck in a rotten, abusive relationship, because she's in her 60's and bad health.

 

[dashley]

If you have not married him and you live apart, I'd think you could just evict him for not paying rent.

 

[Tracy Rimmer]

If you have not married him and you live apart, I'd think you could just evict him for not paying rent.

Wouldn't she need to produce some sort of a rental agreement to prove that rent was owing?

I agree, if he's an ex-felon, the best place to start is by calling the police and telling them about his guns. If you're scared of him, try calling a women's hotline in a nearby city.

And don't let your 13yo son take off with him again if you don't know where he's gone or when he'll be back. That's asking for trouble.

 

[Ozarkquilter46]

Mo is not a common law state. That is one of the reasons at the time my boyfriend and I moved here. If he lives on your property go file paperwork to have him removed. Tell him if he takes your car again you are going to report it stolen. If he threatens you go straight to the courthouse and file a restraining order and have the police come and remove him right then and there. The people that live next to our farm just went through this. He didn't have a clue. He said they had thanksgiving and everything was fine then a couple days later the police showed up at his door and told him to pack a bag and they would wait for him and escorted him off the place. He could not return. Seems his his wife wanted a divorce and didn't have the nerve to tell him so she filed a report saying that he was being abusive and had him removed from the place. Then she went straight down and filed divorce papers once he was gone.

 

[FiddleKat]

He has not beat me in over 10 years but he has guns in his house and is a ex felon.

1. You could file a restraining order against him, stating you are in fear of your life. Since he's been known to hit you and he has guns.

2. If he has guns in his house and he's an ex-felon, that is grounds for him going back to jail.

Getting him put back in jail might make it easier for you to get a divorce from him.

I would go to your local police and discuss this with them.

 

[MarleneS]

You referenced this person as your SO and as our husband? Which is he?

Frankly, if you do not feel you have what it takes to understand your rights, legal ownership, etc. it would be well worth the expense of retaining an attorney to look after your interest, and your welfare. AND especially the welfare of your underage child.

No amount of material possessions are worth living the life you discribe.

Best of everything,
Marlene

 

[paulaswolfpack]

Thank you for all of your advice the guns would be a bad thing to report as he would not be in jail but a couple of days that would make matters worse for me.
Yes we are married did it in 2000 after being with him for 24 years at the time the disabilty people said would be the thing to do that was before my disabilty, we got married at a gas station thats where the justice of the peace was working he owned the store at guess what that was in the state of Arkansas if you can believe that Iam going to the court house monday wish me luck,paula

 

[Bink]

Thank you for all of your advice the guns would be a bad thing to report as he would not be in jail but a couple of days that would make matters worse for me.

But they'd confiscate his guns, wouldn't they? If you're trying to pry him away from the cushy life he has now, he's not going to be a happy boy anyway.

I wish you the best of luck whatever you do.

 

[ceresone]

humm, my divorce in early 1966, lawyers told me Mo. WAS a community property state--in a divorce, unless one can prove fault, the property is split in half. Paula, let us know how you do. Good Luck.

 

[ceresone]

In re-reading the above post--there is a difference in a commom law state--and a community law state, I believe.