STILL not Alice
This is our greatest concern. We do not go into an ER/hospital situation without someone to be our advocate.I know in my own family there has been hesitancy to go to the hospital because you have to go alone. Here you still cannot have a person go in with you, either to the doctor, the ER, or inpatient. Which breaks our cardinal rule of always having someone with you when you're incapacitated so that you don't end up missing a limb or something worse. Passed down to me by my surgical nurse grandmother who also didn't trust the system because she worked in it.
Unfortunately, recently we've had an ER visit in which I wasn't allowed into the ambulance or into the ER with my immediate family member. I sat in the car for 9 hours, interspersed with periods of me walking into the ER, being hysterically yelled at to get out, and being a Karen until they updated me on the family member's condition (who luckily was conscious and able to give permission for me to know, or else I'd be sitting there having my own reason to go to the ER).
Another family member had a minor surgery, in which I also had to sit in the car waiting for them to call me with updates. Couldn't even be with them in pre-op or recovery, or leave my car to help when they loaded them into it afterwards.
We've fully landed in crazy town. I wonder if it's going to continue this way even after restrictions are lifted because it also removes any witnesses to potential malpractice that they had to contend with before.
Back when we were first married (20 some years ago), I had to go to the ER. The doctor ordered a drug that caused my blood pressure to drop precipitously. DH went to fetch a nurse, who initially blew him off. But he was persistent, and she came back to find me passed out.
Had he not been there to insist that she come and check on me, who knows what would have happened? As it is, the doctor ordered a drug to counteract the med I was given, and I recovered quickly.
DH and I solemnly promised that we would never leave the other alone at the mercy and whim of fallible humans with the power of life and death over us. We have discussed that promise recently, in light of what could happen in a world where the govt and powers-that-be have decided that they can dictate what is best for us, whether we agree or not.
We live in perilous times.