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On Wednesday of next week I am going to be interviewing for a job. Although it is probably not the best job in the world, and something that most people would consider "beneath me" considering my experience and education, I rather enjoy the work and think I would like doing it a lot.
My dh and I are very, very close to each other. We are together 24/7 and I mean that literally. Whenever I have worked outside the home in the past, dh has always taken a very active interest and role in my looking for a job and working. Including usually going with me when I have a job interview.
Lately I have shared this information with others and they are just simply horrified that my dh would go on a job interview with me. Frankly, I do not see why this is such a big deal because I am very proud of the fact that my dh loves me and wants to take an active interest in my job hunting efforts. But people have said that perhaps one reason that I have not gotten jobs in the past is because he was there with me for the interview.
Dh really likes to go so that he can see where I might be working. It helps me a lot because I miss subtle things sometimes which are important. I like having him there so we can compare notes later about the place, people, etc. It has always been a very imporant part of the process.
I am not desperate for this job, but I would like to get it and I am concerned that if that person was right, that having my dh there might be viewed in a negative way. But I am even more concerned that if I mention this to dh he is going to be really hurt that I don't want him coming along on Wednesday.
I know he is already planning for it because he is quite the "scheduler" with his time and he plans his days way in advance and he is leaving time for the interview. I don't want to hurt his feelings and make him feel like I do not want him there. Frankly, I DO want him there, but I am fearful that it might be viewed in a negative way.
I am wondering how you would handle this situation. Would you just go (with dh) and hope for the best, or would you tell dh you didn't want him coming along and hurt his feelings? I'm just stuck here on how to handle this touchy situation.
donsgal
My dh and I are very, very close to each other. We are together 24/7 and I mean that literally. Whenever I have worked outside the home in the past, dh has always taken a very active interest and role in my looking for a job and working. Including usually going with me when I have a job interview.
Lately I have shared this information with others and they are just simply horrified that my dh would go on a job interview with me. Frankly, I do not see why this is such a big deal because I am very proud of the fact that my dh loves me and wants to take an active interest in my job hunting efforts. But people have said that perhaps one reason that I have not gotten jobs in the past is because he was there with me for the interview.
Dh really likes to go so that he can see where I might be working. It helps me a lot because I miss subtle things sometimes which are important. I like having him there so we can compare notes later about the place, people, etc. It has always been a very imporant part of the process.
I am not desperate for this job, but I would like to get it and I am concerned that if that person was right, that having my dh there might be viewed in a negative way. But I am even more concerned that if I mention this to dh he is going to be really hurt that I don't want him coming along on Wednesday.
I know he is already planning for it because he is quite the "scheduler" with his time and he plans his days way in advance and he is leaving time for the interview. I don't want to hurt his feelings and make him feel like I do not want him there. Frankly, I DO want him there, but I am fearful that it might be viewed in a negative way.
I am wondering how you would handle this situation. Would you just go (with dh) and hope for the best, or would you tell dh you didn't want him coming along and hurt his feelings? I'm just stuck here on how to handle this touchy situation.
donsgal