My husband is 45 and has one sibling, a sister who is 50. They were bought up in a rather stressful house with a mother who was very angry and verbally aggressive, and a father who basically came in from work and sat in a chair all evening ignoring everyone. They both still feel very bitter about how their mum treated them even though she died 20 years ago, and how their dad never got involved and stuck up for them. The other problem is they really seem to resent each other too. About once a year something or other starts a huge row and they explode at each other. Last night it happened again. His sister stays during the week at his dads house in London and my hub had been there at the weekend cleaning his old bedroom out, and after hoovering he left his old matress leaning against the door of her room. She wasn't in London at the time and he didn't realise she was coming down mid-afternoon but then he got a message on his mobile of her absolutely hysterically screaming "I H-A-T-E Y-O-U!!" He went around and she was flipping out about where he had left the matress. Now she is 6ft 2" and as strong as an Ox so would have no trouble moving it but she exploded about it, he exploded back - the pair screaming at the top of their lungs with every swear word and insult, then he stormed into his old room with her following and he slammed the door (accidentally) on her hand. Now I wasn't there but he told me all about it and I am just horrified that anyone other than stroppy teens or drunks in a bar could ever fight like this!! I honestly don't know anyone else who fights like this at their age, but when I said it to him he totally rubbished what I said, and now it's got me thinking maybe other people do behave like this? Would any of you think this is normal?