Three day rule?

Prismseed · #1 09/30/12, 05:17 AM

I didn't want to hi-jack Raven12's thread so figured start here.

There is a 3 day rule about contacting someone after you get # or what not?

I just don't get it. Please explain the reasoning behind this rule and how following this rule is beneficial?

rkintn · #2 09/30/12, 06:32 AM

Some really wrong and seriously outdated thinking to make it appear that you're not eager. If it was me, and I spoke to somebody and didn't hear from them for 3 days, I'd figure they had no interest in me. If it took them 3 days to get back to me, I'd think they must have been talking with somebody much more interesting who dropped them, so I was the "Oh, well, I'll check out this guy" person.

WhyNot · #3 09/30/12, 07:06 AM

I don't know anything about the three day rule. It sounds like it might be women's magazine advice that's made it's way into hard and fast rule land.

oregon woodsmok · #4 09/30/12, 06:59 PM

I think it is a guy rule. They seem to think that if they call right away they will appear too eager and lose the upper hand in the potential relationship.

lonelytree · #5 09/30/12, 07:03 PM

Guys don't care about "upper hand" Guys are about "right now". You give a guy your phone number, he'll call you before you turn your back.

FarmboyBill · #6 09/30/12, 08:06 PM

Cause he knows that if he dont move and move fast, thereby showing his interest and enthusiam, hell lose out, and he KNOWS, theres a doz guys waiting in the wings waiting their turn. They may be on the back burner for right now, culls, if you will, But he knows , make a mistake, and he joins them, and one of them is trotted out

City Bound · #7 09/30/12, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by zong

Some really wrong and seriously outdated thinking to make it appear that you're not eager. If it was me, and I spoke to somebody and didn't hear from them for 3 days, I'd figure they had no interest in me. If it took them 3 days to get back to me, I'd think they must have been talking with somebody much more interesting who dropped them, so I was the "Oh, well, I'll check out this guy" person.

I totally agree. If the connection feels good why wait to get the ball rolling.

Terri in WV · #8 09/30/12, 11:08 PM

I always thought rules were made to be broken. But that's just me...

whiskeylivewire · #9 09/30/12, 11:20 PM

Wait, I thought it was "eggs were made to be broken" Are you sure??

whiskeylivewire · #10 09/30/12, 11:24 PM

I've never adhered to that rule...

Then again I'm usually so excited someone talks to me I'm like "whoo hoo, new friend!"

littlejoe · #11 09/30/12, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by FarmboyBill

Cause he knows that if he dont move and move fast, thereby showing his interest and enthusiam, hell lose out, and he KNOWS, theres a doz guys waiting in the wings waiting their turn. They may be on the back burner for right now, culls, if you will, But he knows , make a mistake, and he joins them, and one of them is trotted out

You're spending to much time on those dating sites, Bill.

catalekid · #12 09/30/12, 11:49 PM

Just do whatever feels right to you. The relationship will either flourish or not. However, if you spend time worrying about "rules" or playing games, as this appears to me, you will surely add a straw or two in the camel's load.

tiffnzacsmom · #13 10/01/12, 03:19 PM

I don't worry about such "rules" I'm an adult, games like that are for children.

InvalidID · #14 10/01/12, 03:23 PM

I've heard of the 3 day ue but I've never givin it any credence. I got a girls number in Safeway once and texted her before she made it to the next isle... LOL Fun girl but married as it turned out...