
11/13/04, 08:17 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: Very North, Very West, Very Canadian
Posts: 343
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I have been crocheting hats and scarves. Everyone will get one of those (I'll need 27, my fingers are aching thinking about it!!!) and I have some huckleberry jam left for some people, and canned salmon (because it is free and plentiful here). I may have some canned crab for a few... flannel pajamas for my partner and new slippers. I also do coupons for people. "this coupon entitles the bearer to 4 hours babysitting in my home" or some such thing. Free, but very useful.
"Now here's a question: For those of us who have relatives and friends on our list who are expecting something from Nordstrom, what is a tactful way of letting them know (1) that you do not expect an expensive store-bought gift, and (2) they are not going to get one. I'd like to do this in a way that does not stir a year-long controversy about my being "cheap," since the reality is that a handful of them are not going to "get it" . . ."
I don't tell them in a tactful way. I give my gift and expect people to have the grace to accept it in a civilized manner. Like I do when I receive a gift. If then they ask why they are getting what I gave them instead of what they expected, I tell them that I don't do 'those kinds of presents' and that i would rather give AND recieve things that people have put their hearts into rather than stuff that people have gone to walmart for. If the don't like their hat (or whatever) they can freely give it to charity -my feelings won't be hurt, but they won't get a gift next year. Not as punishment, but because a) I don't buy gifts - period, b) I'm not going to make something for someone who doesn't want it.
now, I have been known to give people options too "Would you rather have socks, a hat & scarf, slippers, or a can of jam?" If I think that they are difficult.
If they think I'm cheap - I think they are extravagant. Who cares what they think.
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