Homesteading & spouse insn't supportive?

3girls · #41 10/01/04, 10:13 AM

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You'd have a hard time tearing me away from there! That is one beautiful area. You will have a lot of fun developing the place.

Sandi

**Cabin Fever** · #42 10/01/04, 10:22 AM

Say Quiver, if the ol' man needs some advice with the purchase of ATVs, snowmobiles, tractors, rifles, chainsaws, ice augers, hydraulic woodsplitter, or other "toys" have him drop me a line....okay?

romancemelisa · #43 10/01/04, 10:42 AM

3girls, hey! just looked at your pic's. Wish i had those mountains! lived three years in chambersburg, when i was akid. (military brat. , PA. was my most favorite. I'll be in the s.e. texas red clay at the end of the month, sure do wish i had those mountains to wake up to everymorning, did find a hill on my property,that's where i'm going to put my house trailer.

thebeav · #44 10/01/04, 10:44 AM

I have two grown children 19 & 22. Both have significant others. I tell them every day NOT to find someone you like and then try to plan a future with them. Decide the road you want to go down then find someone that wants to go down the same road. I learned that from my own experience. After divorcing their mother I’ve been planning my move to a farm. With luck, in the next couple years, I’ll have a new truck, 5th wheel toybox (to carry the Harley) and enough money to pay cash for my farm. My new wife and I will hit the road and look across the country for our place. I spend countless time reading this board and surfing the internet for farms. Being almost 50 I hope I have enough time to finally fulfill my dream.

MorrisonCorner · #45 10/01/04, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by thebeav

My new wife and I will hit the road and look across the country for our place. I spend countless time reading this board and surfing the internet for farms. Being almost 50 I hope I have enough time to finally fulfill my dream.

Don't be discouraged.. I'm 45, the husband is 48, we're just getting started really rocking on our farm. My mother was 50 when she got hers rocking. I think of this as a second career, a new lease on life, and, with her in front of me, I know I have time. She built up her farm, ran it a while, and then retired from farming to start another career.

Ok, she is a little scary

Quiver0f10 · #46 10/01/04, 03:40 PM

Posted by Cabin Fever "Say Quiver, if the ol' man needs some advice with the purchase of ATVs, snowmobiles, tractors, rifles, chainsaws, ice augers, hydraulic woodsplitter, or other "toys" have him drop me a line....okay?"

Thank you so much for the offer! I will passs the info along to him :-)

ebriggs51 · #47 10/01/04, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by sisterpine

ebriggs: I am so sorry your marriage turned out that way. My husband was not thrilled about the homestead idea and building our own home either but he is slowly coming around (which means letting me have what i want if i do all the work and foot all the expense) But that works for me rather than being here alone for the rest of my life. If I were not married I would volunteer to share your farm and its responsibilities as I can not imagine retireing anyplace else! Kathleen

Thanks Kathleen, A sweet thought anyway! I'm sure things will work out for the best, I just wish she would have been honest with me from the beginning. I guess she thought I would change my mind about moving to the farm.
erv

3girls · #48 10/02/04, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by romancemelisa

3girls, hey! just looked at your pic's. Wish i had those mountains! lived three years in chambersburg, when i was akid. (military brat. , PA. was my most favorite. I'll be in the s.e. texas red clay at the end of the month, sure do wish i had those mountains to wake up to everymorning, did find a hill on my property,that's where i'm going to put my house trailer.

THose pictures were from a previous post. There's nothing like it here, fer sure! I wish I were back there, believe me.

Sandi

mtman · #49 10/02/04, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Upham

Well I've been very discouraged lately. My dw kinda makes fun of me for being a hick. I got her to move out in the country (she hates it being 14 hours from her family) but I had to buy her a new home because she won't live in someone elses dirt as she puts it. She gets mad at me when I put on my bib overalls and she won't eat anything that didn't come from the store except veggies. She told me if I get chickens we can't eat them.
On the otherhand she loves animals, plants and the country.
So because of you ladies I think I'm just going to do my thing. I'll start out slow and see what happens. I'll plant my garden this spring and get some chicks.
Who knows she may stick around.

i can relate to what your saying my wife was just like that these days weeks months and years im very happy with easyday but dam i still miss my dog

Mutti · #50 10/02/04, 04:34 PM

I am soooo blessed to have a DH who adores the country and hates even a day trip to town. I always told my folks I was gonna marry a farmer...he wasn't but was a wannabe,too...by the time we were married a year we had a big garden and a yearling colt on our 1/4 acre suburban lot...then on to 20 acres in the country and now 120 acres in the Ozarks. you name it;we've done it. Cows,pigs,horses,goats,sheep,chickens,bees. He calls me the "brains"--I call him the "brawn" I organize,plan,find the deals since he hates that kind of stuff (and computers) and we work together on most projects. As journayman toolmaker there isn't anything he can't fix. He hates to pick stuff but will wash jars and help can. He works the bees cause I'm allergic but we do the rest together. He hates new clothes,his truck is a '78 beast,goes to be by 8 everynite so he can wake the birds come morning. Me, I'm a nightowl, love my parttime job in the big city where they have bookstores and movies and I'll keep my car payment as I'm not much of a roadside mechanic. But we compliment each others strengths and weaknesses and plan to be carried off this farm feet first!!! DEE who thinks everyone needs to steer their own path. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. As your children grow you can get them interested in your dream....my kids claimed to hate gardening growing up but funny how they all have patches now!!! Daugher even "farmed" the front of her rental house in college!! You can plant the seeds for the future.