How to address others on this site

Every now and then, I misunderstand someone.

Every now and then I am misunderstood. Angie once tore into me (rather nicely) about a post i made. In that case, as with others, I PM at once to clear things up. The printed word can be mighty hard to understand sometimes, no facial clues, no sound or tone of voice.

I never INTENTIONALLY insult or demean anyone, but I sure have done so UNINTENTIONALLY.

Ed

BTW, if you address me as Mr. Ed, I will take it as a Southern form of address and not as an insult relating to a famous equine. LOL

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"Agriculture is our wisest pursuit, because it will in the end contribute most to real wealth, good morals, and happiness."
Thomas Jefferson to George Washington 1787

This is pretty much what I do ... there are certain subjects I do not discuss in public forums or on public lists. I do not like confrontations and too many people have very *established* and rigid beliefs and are not tolerant of other views. I'm comfortable with my views, I know what my hot buttons are ... and to the extent possible, I avoid them.

I also tend not to post about personal/family issues as there are always a wide variety of opinions on how to manage these things. I will occasionally post a *rant* about something, but I usually do make a point of saying it is simply a rant, not a request for advice. The one time I've been rather blindsided by someone (and I don't even remember who, now) was when I was ranting about the weather here in KY and the fact that for a MT native, some questions/attitudes common here are things I was brought up to believe were not polite. Someone, apparently a native KY person, posted if I didn't like it here, why didn't I just leave. ?????

Personally, I think the moderators manage to do a very good job on what is essentially a balancing act on a highwire ...

Mr. Ed was a very nice horse, Ed.

And certainly smarter than most people.................

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For we used to ask when we were little, thinking that the old men knew all things which are on earth: yet forsooth they did not know; but we do not contradict them, for neither do we know.

So if you could be King or Queen for a day here what would you change? Anything not just moderation levels.

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Do not meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup........

Anything I would change would be strictly for my own convenience and personal preferences, which isn't what you really want to see in a forum like this. I've learned to navigate around my 'dislikes' ... I'm assuming everyone else can do the same ... and I absolutely enjoy 90% of it.

I think the moderators do very well with a difficult task.

For us of the older generation, how about putting a port-a-potty and a comfy recliner in here!

Like we haven't been askin......

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Do not meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup........

I think the moderators do a great job here- many opinions are expressed, usually kindly and sometimes bluntly. I was a little taken aback at the bluntness in response to my first posted question , but they were right and it probably saved my doe and her litter's lives. The information on here is great, and I don't want it sugar-coated!!! I love this forum!!!!

honestly this place is a picnic compared to most sites I have seen lately,even though snark and sarcasm occur here they aren't to the extreme or a personal attack but I have only been here a short while so I'm sure I have missed quite a bit.

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I wonder......If everyones Avatar was a picture of themselves would people be so likely to go into attack mode?

As far as changes or additions go, I would like to see a whole separate sub-forum with how to threads that had lots of pictures. Even build threads where folks post their progress on a goat barn or rebuild of a tractor etc.

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I just popped on having little time today, but I so agree with your post grandma

I've found what goes around, comes around in this world and it has never harmed me to be kind. If people have a problem with that, well, it is their problem, too bad for them.

The most important thing I've learned in life is that I don't know what it is like to walk in someone else's shoes. On this sort of site, I expect people come here for lots of reasons, but one for sure, is to find a better way of life than what they have had. Heaven forbid they find a better breed of people.

I am not always patient and tolerant of others I feel frustrated by because I know how much better I am?? Ha! Not likely.

I'm with you gm Denise

hmm, my kinda people here Hope I get to know more and see you around CP Denise

Oh really? So where else might "fragile" people go? Those who might be house bound for fear of coming outdoors? Ever meet anyone like that? I don't like to put anyone "in their place" since I might be in that same place one day.

Denise

so because it's better than some lesser place that makes it a good place?

Never did get this philosophy

why don't we just not let this thread start getting all up in arms? Seems it's doing pretty well so far.

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One last thing I want to say here is that the most debilitating disease in this world is ignorance, and the worst kind of ignorance is that which is chosen.

nite grandma and hope I don't get kicked out of the forum because there are some people here I would love to get to know

Denise

I'd say Ardie as a more established member with a history on what's been the history of this site, and HuskyBoris as someone new may be two of the people that would be great people for a new person to get to know and make friends with.

Just a suggestion...

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I think most here are considerate posters and it's a very good community to be in. There does seem to be a rise in people's inability to let things go though. For the life of me, I can't see how some are banned for a few comments and a few are consistently snarky, yet remain. Thankfully that's not my job to decide.

I remember way back when, I read just about everything posted and I learned so much. Now I find myself overlooking quite a few posts and particular posters because of the inane things that they continually post about. I would get myself banned if I expressed some of my thoughts, so try my best to use the back button. Others can't master that and have to get the last word in(sometimes over and over). From what I've seen, it seems that the more un-homesteady a thread is, the more likely the rise in snarkiness. It's bound to happen in any community that grows larger and more diverse.

As far as the question, what would I do if I were Queen for a day? I'd clean up the members list so that when one member is hunting for another, they don't have to wade through 200 names of folks that have posted twice, five years ago and haven't been back since. Divide the list into active/inactive.

That is the beauty of the internet!
When I ask for an 'opinion', and someone who has been in / been through the situation I am asking for advice about 'gives straight, honest, no sugar coated, advice'?
I totally appreciate it!!

I know there are folks on this site that will do, just that.
Willow, Ardie, Tiempo, Mekasmom, Shanzone2001, and a few more.
Do I agree with their every post? Heck no.
Do they agree with mine? Heck no.
But, I know when they may seem 'mean' to those who don't know them / appreciate their straight forward no bull spit approach, they are just being honest and trying to offer helpful advice.

I think I have been coming here 3 maybe 4 years, not a long long time, but long enough to know the difference between a person who is just being honest, and a person who is just, plain, nasty.
And there are a few of those here too.

Queen for a day?
1. I would give each member a 24 hour window once a year to delete ANY post they have ever made.
2. I would give Angie a raise, send her on a cruise, something. She's awesome.
3. I would be thankful I only had to moderate, for one day!!

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