What should I do ?

jen74145 · #41 10/04/12, 11:41 AM

He clearly is not a healthy, balanced individual, and I'd be calling the police too.

Randy Rooster · #42 10/04/12, 11:48 AM

I can't believe some of the answers I'm reading here.

grandma12703 · #43 10/04/12, 12:00 PM

I think I would just call the police station and ask them if there is anything they can do. Maybe if they just talked to him it would be over. It needs brought to their attention since you do not know if this man is a sexual predator or what. I would be concerned if I were you. 35 is a little old to just be a son (kid) up to mischief or a cheap thrill.

ramiller5675 · #44 10/04/12, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Randy Rooster

I can't believe some of the answers I'm reading here.

Neither can I, I had someone that was trespassing on our farm once that pointed his rifle at me and used the scope on his rifle to "check to see if I was his son". He came about a half-second from getting shot by me since I tend to assume that whatever a rifle is aimed at is about to get killed and I ain't gonna be the one killed if I can help it.

Don't ever use the scope on your rifle to look at anyone, unless you are willing to take the chance of catching a bullet.

ErinP · #45 10/04/12, 12:19 PM

Precisely what I was going to say, RA!!

#1. Report the creep. Take photos if possible to share with the LEO.

#2. Get some binoculars!!!

This is very basic gun-safety than anyone over the age of 5 should know: You NEVER point a gun at anything you don't intend to kill!
A rifle scope is NOT a stand-in for a telescope.

Ardie/WI · #46 10/04/12, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ErinP

Precisely what I was going to say, RA!!

#1. Report the creep. Take photos if possible to share with the LEO.

#2. Get some binoculars!!!

This is very basic gun-safety than anyone over the age of 5 should know: You NEVER point a gun at anything you don't intend to kill!
A rifle scope is NOT a stand-in for a telescope.

WOW, isn't that the truth

Nimrod · #47 10/04/12, 12:37 PM

Video tape him peeping. You need proof. Take the tape to the police and press charges. This will put it on record that he was peeping. If anything happens after that he has already shown that he has a problem.

The police will check to see if he is on probation or a registered sex offender. In either case he should go to prison.

This is a serious situation. He may escalate to actually assualting your wife or someone else. Talking to him or his dad doesn't put it on the official record or let the police check him out.

meanwhile · #48 10/04/12, 12:50 PM

I would first get photos of him peeping. Use the zoom feature on the camera and get several photos.

Then, I would call the police and report it. They probably cannot do anything but, at least there would be a report. One reason I would report it is "just in case" this jerk has peeped on other people, then there will be a pattern of reports which might help someone else out. Usually when people are "peepers" then they do it more than once to more women. A report would be important too in case it continues, then there is a record of it.

I hate to say it but after I had the photos and made a report, I would not sun bath any more this season. The weather is getting cooler and although it is annoying to have to stop using your own property the way you want, then safety is more important.

I would be sure all my windows are covered so he cannot look in other windows. Especially the bathroom and bedrooms but even the kitchen, I would be sure he cannot see if the windows.

I don't think I would go flashing a gun around. Just not safe for a variety of reasons. If people know when someone has a gun, they might haul out a gun or they might come try to steal it. I would make it very clear that more people are around. Ask friends to walk around outside and you go walk around where he can clearly see that men - adult men - are around.

Sorry this has happened. It is annoying but also just not safe and it is upsetting too. Glad you saw him so at least you know there is a problem person nearby and you can take steps to be sure your family and property are safe.

And.....about the 4:00 AM part.......many times I write a post and don't post it till later. The time does not really mean that was the time the "action" or activity was taking place. It only means that is the time the person posted it here on Homesteading Today. Sometimes I write something but then want to look at it later to be sure I spelled things right or just sometimes I want to double check and be sure I did not say something stupid or that I would regret later. So.....the 4 AM part doesn't worry me.

Have a good weekend and stay safe.

coup · #49 10/04/12, 04:48 PM

first of all we need a pic of wife or at least what she is wearing or not.
is it your property he is on,or his.
scribble a suicide note from him on the ground and place a rope with a loop in nearby tree....he will then have something to think about

sisterpine · #50 10/04/12, 04:57 PM

I personally don't care if others watch me sunbathe as I am an old woman LOL...might scare them to death though. It is not the peeping that is the problem, the problem is what is causing the peeping and that in itself can be a danger to your wife or even you should his sick mind decide she loves him and you are keeping her from him! I dealt with this many times as a cop- people always wanting to wait till the creep did something illegal. Please don't wait, make a report and ask the cop to tell the guy that you did. With a bit of luck and prayer that will stop it. KC

ldc · #51 10/04/12, 04:59 PM

DarleneJ is right about some peepers turning into serial killers. Happened here in BR; the police/FBI didn't catch the 2 "peepers" until there were 79 dead women in a 20 yr. period. I wouldn't take your case too lightly....

Maura · #52 10/04/12, 05:11 PM

Yes, it is illegal. It's called stalking.

DebM · #53 10/04/12, 05:22 PM

Go to the police. You've noticed/caught him twice. That means ... how many times has he been watching that you DON'T know? Chances are, a whole lot more than twice.

ramiller5675 · #54 10/04/12, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by coup

first of all we need a pic of wife or at least what she is wearing or not.
is it your property he is on,or his.
scribble a suicide note from him on the ground and place a rope with a loop in nearby tree....he will then have something to think about

If you were stupid enough to actually do something like that, who do you think is going to call the police?

Then, try explaining to the nice police officer and judge exactly what you intended to accomplish with that hangman's noose and suicide note. They aren't going to even listen to your claim that he was peeping, stalking, or intending to start a killing spree.

Talk to police if you think he is a legitimate threat.

fordy · #55 10/04/12, 06:41 PM

...............I was remembering the old joke about the boy's mama catching him stimulating himself where upon she tells him , "you're gonna go blind if you keep that up" , so he asks , can I keep going till I "need glasses" ?
...............I'd find one of those laser Red dot deals that'll put a red dot on his forehead then fire your rifle at some target close by so he hears the sound a milli second after he detects the red dot on his face ! He'll run home and spend an hour looking for 'the hole' ! Then , he'll have to change his skivvies , lol ! , fordy

poorboy · #56 10/04/12, 08:03 PM

and send them to the police.. If that don't work put 'em on light poles and bulletin boards...Mail the first one to his house when you notify the law!

chickenista · #57 10/04/12, 08:04 PM

Whatever you end up doing... please let us know.
Nothing eats at the brain more than the beginning of a tale with no ending.
We still ask about things from a year ago that were left dangling...

julieq · #58 10/04/12, 08:08 PM

At 53 years of age, carrying a bit more weight than I did back in my 20's and 30's, I think DH would be highly impressed if I were out tanning and a neighbor was taking notice!

No neighbors take notice of me though, because I'm most likely to be out working with the goats or in the garden, fully dressed these days.

Ardie/WI · #59 10/05/12, 10:58 AM

I'd like to know if the OP told his DW and if she is continuing to sunbathe.

Big Dave · #60 10/05/12, 11:20 AM

Yep Ardie/WI I asked that same question. Wonder what is happening? Getting to cold to sun bathe. What is the next step huh?