ungrateful people

There is nothing like the wisdom of experience. Please, keep sharing it your thanks will come from a far more powerful source.

I understand!

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I know people who will type me out a message on Facebook, asking some random question, because they know that "Angela will know that..." Well, if they would have typed the question into Google, they would have received a wealth of knowledge instantly, rather than waiting 10 hours for me to log onto Facebook and answer their question.

There are times too when I have received good information but simply did not realize it at the time. Sometimes also I have been so preoccupied with a situation that I did not take time to properly thank some one.
Sometimes it is irritating to have explained something (like why my neighbor should really close the door on an air tight stove rather than keeping it open to watch the fire and complain about the smoke) and not seem to get the person's attention.
But I am only responsible for my behavior and not another person's. I wish to think of myself as a helpful person and let the rest roll off my back.

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If you are running a business or have professional knowledge then your knowledge is part of your assets and you should not be answering questions for free. No thank you required when it is a transaction. People need to stop asking professionals for their advice in social situations. If on the other hand you are in conversation with friends and family and they ask you for your opinion, advice or information and YOU CHOOSE to give it then that is really just normal human interaction. A thank you is nice but not really required. If you choose to do more than just give advice, opinion and information then a thank you is required and expected but be prepared to be disappointed.

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I know this is a little off topic, but I have noticed the same thing with gifts to family and friends too. I have continued to send family Christmas gifts, usually in the form of checks since it is easier to mail and allows the parents of the neices and nephews to buy what the children need. The last few years, we don't even hear back that the check was received without calling to check with them a week or more later. Then they kind of acknowledge it.
I don't expect a thank you necessarily, but at least let me know you got it so I don't have to worry about my check getting lost in the mail. I always call them to let them know the day I am sending it so they know to look for it.
And as a general rule, I think people are less nice. I used to wave of lock eyes and acknowledge every one I see on the road. Lately I have gotten the old stink eye or not so nice gestures from people as I pass them. What is that all about? I was just trying to be nice! It does seem to be the closer to town the worse the attitude of the other person is however.

We live on a farm and many people over the years have stopped to ask questions about gardening or raising animals. They often show up on nice days which are critical for farming, gardening , haying etc. as we live in a climate that does not always co-operate with farming. We get a lot of damp foggy weather so sunny days are busy. My husband is kind and tries to answer everyones questions and most times he never hears a thankyou even when they they take him away from the garden or hayfield. He won't speak up but I DO if I am available to intervene. I tell people Bill will be happy to answer their questions if they come back on a rainy day or anytime in the winter when he isn't so busy. Usually they never return and sometimes have said they had no idea they were taking him away from precious work time!

Three principles we follow; Advice is free if you want to come at time convenient for us.

The second principle we follow is; We will help anyone in anyway if it is within how power to do so. This includes giving what they need if we have it to give. We don't ask money for advice or anything else we may give someone.Giving is free with no expectations of any return.

The third principle is; We don't loan anything that we are not willing to give because often folks don't return things let alone say thankyou!

It takes a lot of stress off us not expecting consideration or thankyous from people. We were raised different and taught manners. We raised five kids who grew up to be very polite and thoughtful too. However we run into more inconsiderate people than considerate one these days. Its their problem not ours though. I will continue as will my husband to say "thankyou "and "you are welcome."

Rags, I wish I didn't know what you're talking about. I teach at the college level at an online university, and despite the fact that we have almost entirely "adult learners" (i.e., people who are already out working in the "real world"), they still expect to learn things without really engaging. My biggest gripe is the people who just don't bother to read directions for assignments, and then get mad at me when I return the work ungraded telling them to please re-do it according to the directions. I mean, seriously? I've already taken the time to tell you how to do it--you just have to read what I wrote. I'm not writing it out again in a private message just for you.

At least I get paid for what I do--a salary does help to make it a little less frustrating, though I thought I was being paid to teach, not to shepherd lazy people . . .

I love to try to help people out when they ask questions that I may know a little about and I don't expect anything in return.

That being said it sure makes you feel good when someone says "thank you." It just makes you want to help others even more.

Now, maybe a bit off topic but I want to say that I have appreciated all info I have received directly or just from reading topics on HT. If I have not said thank-you sometimes please know that it was all appreciated. I know I could just google it but sometimes those with experience give much better advice than a book or website. Again, thank you to all that help others. It is an awesome thing and I believe what goes around comes around so you will receive reward someday.

HT has taught me many things. Having been around the world in many different places then going to Denver airport and meeting a taxi driver that from my past experience told me that his attitude was dangerous in a anti American way. Then later the Taxi service was connected to a terrorist plot I stated that I might have meet a terrorist. For this I was call different things from a troll etc.
I run a Lumber Sawmill business where a large part of my business is explaining ways to build. I answer few questions here now. Why be beat for a statement

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There is also an added change when I meet some one that is thankful they get an extra dose of kindness and help.

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Sadly, it has become a huge surprise to have anyone say thank you while on-line. People seem to still say thank you in person locally, but that doesn't seem to apply nationwide.

I've got nephews who never said thank you, not for anything, not ever, l so I stopped sending them things. Never heard anything back about that, either. Obvious to me that they didn't want any gifts.

I've decided to treat it as funny when someone comes on a forum, asks a question that was discussed not more than 6 notes down the page and then comes back no more than 4 minutes later saying, "Well, doesn't anybody here know?"

The general population continues to get more and more self-centered. Doesn't make me optimistic about the future of our country.

What bothers me is when people already know what they are going to do . But yet they "ask for advice," but what they are really doing is looking for validation for their decision.

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