Why so rude?

AngieM2 · #**101** 10/09/09, 02:50 PM

Oggie - you are terrible

, (in the nicest way possible, of course)

looptloop · #**102** 10/09/09, 04:15 PM

This is a tame forum compared to a scrapbooking site I belong too! In the Non-Scrapbooking Related section, I've seen it go DOWN!

I am also a newbie here (and to homesteading) and I guess I just figure I'm going to learn a lot here, from people who have BTDT, and I don't take anything personally. Because it's rarely personal. =)

seedspreader · #**103** 10/09/09, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by mamita

rude is in the eye of the reader. for instance, I think I mentioned once before that my brother called me..FURIOUS! I was at a loss..said 'WHAT???' he then said I 'demanded to know where he was and what he was doing'. ok..I did send off an email and asked what he had been up to, as I hadn't heard from him for a while. see...it's all in the mood of the reader. he read it nasty, therefore it WAS nasty. words will never replace conversation....and so it's difficult to determine if someone is being evil or just saying what their opinion is matter of fact. sometimes I type...I'm all silly, or laid back, yet it reads to the poster as rude. because they see it that way on their own. sometimes I am cranky...as the post rubbed me the wrong way, and I am someone that vents it out.

then again..there will never...ever...ever be some happy go lucky forum you visit, where everyone is full of sunshine. that's not even................normal.

if I worried about who liked me...or who didn't.........I wouldn't be...anywhere. I have a life, and people on the net don't know me. I do like having internet friends, but I figure I can't control those that form opinions I have no control over. no biggie. I'm just happy in my own little world. lol

I could feel a lot of fury and anger in this post.

Phillip · #**104** 10/10/09, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by FrontPorch

I've been on a lot of different forums over the years, but this one always ends up leaving me scratching my head. I'm not trying to start anything. I honest to goodness just want to try to understand the psychology behind the flame throwing that goes on around here. I'm not talking about the political debates, I'm talking about the innocent beginner trying to ask a question and being told the're an idiot (of course they're an idiot they're a BEGINNER). I mean, does it make you feel better and help you sleep at night after you've been so rude? Or are you just having a bad day and need to take it out on someone? I don't get it.

Wouldn't it be easier to just ignore them if you didn't have anything nice to say? I mean why spend the time and effort typing? I know the internet is bringing the end to civil discourse but considering the logo up there in the upper left corner says "Neighborly help and friendly advice" why does every other post end in flames? I honestly and truly am just trying to understand it. Maybe there's a reason? Did I miss something?

This is just the general attitude on the internet. "They can't see me, so why not bite them?"

This forum has much less flaming then many I have been to before.

AngieM2 · #**105** 10/10/09, 09:20 AM

You should see us mods running around with our fire hoses putting out fires as much as we can, but not putting the fire completely out. Some fire is good and warming, too much burns down a thread/house.

Angie

ronbre · #**106** 10/10/09, 09:24 AM

i guess i missed something..better read more

AngieM2 · #**107** 10/10/09, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by ronbre

i guess i missed something..better read more

You've probably only missed interpretations or deleted posts.

Interpretations cause someone's direct answer is another person's rude answer.

And if really rude - it's probably been deleted.

Ravenlost · #**108** 10/10/09, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Oggie

FrontPorch,

I don't know if you are aware of this, but some of the people who post on this board have cats. I guess that you have to cut them a little slack if they are dealing with that sort of evil in their household...

Some of us have more than one!

angelsprite · #**109** 10/10/09, 07:34 PM

I haven't been on this forum very long. If ever I am perceived as being rude in my posts, I apologize in advance. I don't often mean to be rude. I don't like fighting on-line because I consider it a complete waste of my time. But, occasionally, something I say may be taken as being abrasive or coarse. I don't mean it that way. I'm just a social cripple, really. I've spent way too much time reading and tending animals in my life to learn perfect tact. But, I do know one thing. Diplomacy gets us out of what tact would have kept us out of in the first place. So, I hope I don't seem rude ever and if I do, I will try to grow some diplomacy.

GoldenCityMuse · #**110** 10/10/09, 10:34 PM

HT is a really nice forum compared to some others I have been on. Personally, the survival board is where I like to spend a lot of time, but it is slower than the others.

ronbre · #**111** 10/11/09, 01:52 PM

well i just received a rude comment myself in my instant messages..from someone that said i should do more research before commenting on these threads.

well i did not thing that opinions required research. sure sometimes if someone askes something specific i might look it up for them and send them a thread..but when I just make a comment on a persons behaviour i didn't know i had to have accurate research behind my opinion..it is an opinion for heavens sake !!

if people can't realize the difference between an observation or opinion .....welll..if they can't they can't..