Why so rude?

In general I find the posts helpful and polite, but there are some topics that bring out the worst in some people. Also there are some people who just cannot see that their way isn't the only way-I find that more here than on other sites. Those people tend to get rude to people who in their mind are too stupid to see things their way (as in the right way). I just try to move on to posts that are more helpful when I come upon that.

As an aside-
OK-I had never been to General Chat, and of course I had to check it out. I did find some very interesting information, but it is scary there!

Well at least you got the MR. part right. And don't you forget it.

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The fact that some people can say that they've never seen a rude posting and other say they have, shows that the definition of rude ranges over a lot of ground.
There are a few (4 to be exact) people who "express" themselves in a way that irritates me and spoils my enjoyment- they are on my blocked list which has made reading here so much of a better experience. You might give blocking a go. At first I was worried that I'd really miss something but it's been ok- mostly I already know what will be said by those individuals.
There are some people who are unkind- not gruff or opinionated but unkind. They do not seem to notice the difference between a remark that is an opinion (I prefer x over y) and an insult (anyone who likes y doesn't understand the issue) Such is life where there is a pretty open forum.

FrontPorch
I respond to probably too many posts here. I have a varied background and I will help anyone. Often I spend a lot of time trying to meticulously explain in detail how to get a well pump going or how to do rotational grazing and I answer some mechanical questions. If you ever asked a question on one of these subjects I likely responded. We are all adults with these type discussions. I am not a hand holder. If I want for conversation I go to the coffee shop. I try not to lead anyone astray or give bum information. I try to compose my replies to where they cannot be misconstrued. My patience with dealing with objects or interpretations will equal most. On the other hand, people can think and should be able to reason. Failing to do the thinking and the reasoning is very trying on me and I may give a short reply! If you only knew how often explicit and lengthy responses to questions that are complicated are given only to have the person to disappear into oblivion. Such actions by the individuals seeking inputs sometimes creates attitudes and responses that could be conceived as harsh or rude. If you cannot roll with the punches and get back up the internet itself is going to unfortunately be hard on you. Callous up a bit and learn to run with the pack, otherwise you are going to be left on the porch or under it.

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Agmantoo
If they can do it,
you know you can!

Well the way I see it,is Homesteading Today all forums are just one big family.
And just like all families,every now and then we say things that after we've thought about it,we come back and apologize.And again just like a family,we accept the apology and forgive whomever apologized.
I know I for one joke around probably way to much, and never meant to insult,harm or hurt someones feelings.I have probably deleted more posts than I've submitted,by taking a second look at what the post said and saw where it might hurt someone.But every now and then one slips by and an apology is posted or pm'ed.
These are the most understanding folks on this forum,one will ever find.Sometimes threads seem to be a knock down drag out fight,madder than a wet setting hen and a bunch of folks seem ready for war,but in the opposite direction these folks are the best at forgiving and apologizing.Don't believe it?Wait till anyone in the Homesteading Family needs help,needs prayer or just need a friend to talk to either out in the open or behind closed doors with a PM.That friend is there waiting And if you look real good,that friend lol,just might be the one that posted something you swared yo'ed never have no use for that insulting son of a gun poster no more.Now look,thats your friend you can count on for support.Ain't that funny,kinda reminds you of family now don't it?? eb

Well if we're going to compare it to family...my Mom is meaner than a snake. Good point!

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Front Porch Indiana Blog
Come on up to the porch and sit a spell. We'll talk about the day's events and maybe even tell a story or two.

There will always be rude people, rude posts, rude thoughts, flames wars and trolls.

On every forum on the internet and in real life all over the world.





On the whole this is one of the top five nicest (meaning people) I have been on (and ofcourse lurked on if you compare my post count to when I signed up).

I have seen a few parenting forums that leave many people crying, so compared to that this forum is like all fluff and love.

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One big thing to remember is that tone doesn't come across in the written word. If you were to hear the words spoken, they might not sound so rude.

Also lots of folks are more than a mite edgy nowadays, and might give short answers without meaning to be abrupt.

A time or two I have taken offense to something someone said, and I took the matter up with them in a pm and things were fine afterward.

Ed

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Thomas Jefferson to George Washington 1787

people are rude in real life. Why do you expect them to act any different when they can do it and be more or less anon while doing it?

that and there are a lot of people in the world with inferiority complexes who need to drop others to elevate their own personal self in their mind

Rude is a subjective term what some see as rude others see as matter of fact. The majority of members are adults and should be able to deal with a bit of bruskness now and again. I try to be polite but at times when the same poster has the same issues over and over again then the politeness wears a bit thin. I'm sure I am not the only one who reacts that way. The moderators here tend to jump on rude behavior, or the appearance of it, more often than those at most other sites. If active and vigerous discussion is bothersome perhaps the Internet is not the best fit.

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I ask for so little. Just let me rule you, and you can have everything that you want. Just fear me, love me, do as I say, and I will be your slave. Jareth, Labyrinth

I remember reading a thread where a certain individual had left HT for a while and folks were wondering where they went. It seems that there was an argument between two members and as I read the original thread, I felt as if the missing HTer was rather rude. Then I started looking at the HTer's other posts...guess what? Short. Every single one was to the point and hardly ever laced with humor or emotion. Just pure succint wisdom. Some folks simply don't mince words. Add to that that you cannot always distinguish emphasis and intonation in a forum...not everyone likes emoticons! You ought to hear a bunch of new recruits in basic training...this place is nothing compared to the infighting there!

Frontporch. You say your mom is meaner than a snake. I see you are from Indiana. You aren't my nephew are you? LOL <>UNK

Frontpoarch,
Yes there are some rude people in this online community. There are also many non-rude members. As any community though its the rude, obnoxious and snooty residents who smell the worse and are the most noticable to newcomers.

Hang around and you may get to enjoy the spectacle of watching some of the participants turn into a torch toting mob targeting some innocent noob just because they arnt just like the mob or the mob has forgotten when they were noobs themselves.

When those mob scenes happen , they die down or are addressed by mods and admin fairly fast, but it still offers a good view of who is what sort of poster for future reference.

As you get to identify who acts like what, you will find it easier to enjoy navigating through the various boards and core groups who participate on the HT site.

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"I didn't have time to slay the dragon. It's on my To Do list!"

Whenever I got flamed here, I deserved it. Well, at least sortta anyway.
(where are the smilie thingies when I need em?)

I've found a lot of "friends" here on HT and have actually become close enough to some of them to drive and meet and do business with them on cattle and machinery. Through the years I've seen a lot of different "big-cheeses" come and go for the different sub-forums who generally have a genuine expertise in their field. I've found many times that a poster posing a question generates their question directly toward this "big-cheese" hoping for a response.
I like the fact that I can come here, hang out, and communicate with some great people. If in fact I do get slandered I don't have to reply. I'm only looking at words and don't wear my emotions on my shirt sleeve.
Hang in there FrontPorch. You're welcome to come here to HT and hang out anytime you'd like.

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Francismilker

"The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much" James 5:16

Its always a challenge to moderate any board. You don't want to overmoderate every thread, that annoys more people than letting one run a little critical. What insults you probably doesn't bother others. Hit the report post button and get a second opinion. Everyone has to be nice but you do have to have a bit of a thick skin to speak in public. HT has over 3000 active members. That's a pretty big room where everyone is talking at once

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ETA: General tab...Sorry, I was already on General tab and missed that part.

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I have experienced the very rude. But to defend them even the one that though it was necessary to PM me to call me an idiot, they are a part of a beautiful Collage of thinking that even though because my experience and theirs are so far apart they must try put my intentions where they are misplaced they are people too. I will love them pick them up off the road when they crash or help them build from the sawmill. That is my choice in this world.

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Agmantoo
If they can do it,
you know you can!

I think this is the epitome of what HomesteadingToday is all about - this is that "Love thy neighbor as thyself" that - even though we might not like someone - we DO love them because they are "part of a beautiful collage of thinking" and, to me, is almost "mystical". Thank you so much - I feel the same way - you would have to dig pretty deep though to find it sometimes - but it IS there.