Why so rude?

Front porch,

I can understand your question as I have read numerous posts that I considered rude. However, if you get to looking at the poster, it is usually the same few people doing that posting. I have noticed that the moderators do a great job in taking care of most issues. Be patient and take some people's attitudes with a grain of salt. The other 99.9% are a wonderful bunch to hang around with. Blessings, firegirl

I have to say I felt the same way when I first joined. Take a look at my number of posts,I just stopped posting. I will admit I am thin skinned and that is not a good thing here.

There are many good people here with a wealth of information. Stay awhile and you will figure out most of the personalities. Oggie is downright funny and when I need a good laugh I look for his posts as he always makes me lol!

Sorry you feel that way but please stay, pop in to learn. It is a nice place with great people.

Seedspreader that was rude...lol

I think a lot of it is the fact that most everyone on a forum like this spends a lot of time working and doing their own homestead thing. They don't just sit here waiting to answer questions nicely, many times they've had a rough day with their own problems in their world.

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My personal opinion is, this is the least rude forum I have ever been a member of! Lurk first, get to know the posters. I did and even thou I don't post much, I love this place!

Denise

This is a community of several 100 people, with thousands viewing.

In such a community, you will have bullies, shy people, always cheerful people, always sour people, folks with a bad sense of humor, vulgar people, sweethearted people, smart people, airheads, and many others.

In a face to face environment, the conversation is more controlled by the person who brought up a topic, and it begins & en ds in a few minutes.

Here on the web, it is _very_ hard to put any emotion or fun or breaks in the flow of the conversation.

Many get right to the point, rather than type 3 paragraphs leading up to the point. That makes discussions very _frank_ and to the point - much more so than intended.

Many people on the 'net come from a rather dark place - we - er they have issues going on in their home life, don't have a close network of friends, and come to the internet for a 15 minute escape from the day's problems. Sometimes those problems follow us - er, them to the web, and the tone is much darker than intended.

I've had my share of conversations around here where I disagreed with what others have contributed to a thread. So? They disagreed with me too, and that is fine. I didn't consider them rude and hopefully I wasn't either - wasn't trying to be.

Some questions by new folk are kinda out in left field. There was one about stringing electrical wire overhead through trees, then on the gtround for a spell, then hooking it into some questionable wiring in an old building.

I think a question like that _should_ be met with some reality & gasping - I'd not want to see people ignore it or be polite & just sweet talk about such a serious thing.

The internet does not treat thin skinned people very well.

I am a very mild, very wallflower, very thin skinned person in 'the real world'. I don't like to speak out around people I know.

So, perhaps a place like this is a chance for folk like me to get a little conversation in - meant in good spirit, sometimes a little too blunt, but always meant to help.

Don't know if that helps or not, I'm not sure I see this place the same way you do, so it is hard to really give you the 'right' answer.

--->Paul

I like this forum too. of course it's the only one i have ever joined. i have asked some downright stupid questions on here like the time i asked if we had a store called lost leaders up here and other stupid things but i have had nothing but respect and i have learned so much.i was able to fix my retaining walls myself and so many more things with the help i was given here. i do hope you stay front porch.~Georgia.

Wow, this is exactly the type of info I was looking for. As someone pointed out, I've been a member for a long time and a lurker even longer. I can honestly say I come here, look around for awhile then wonder what the heck is wrong with everyone and leave. Then after a while I'll come back, try again. Same thing.

I'm no sissy. I can argue with the best of 'em and boy am I ever opinionated (just ask my DH). I'm a born and raised farm girl and not much would shock me so I don't think I'm overly sensitive or anything. Maybe I'm just picking the wrong threads to read.

Thanks for the input everyone.

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I've got my eye on you Mr. Marshmallow fluff.

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Christine
Front Porch Indiana Blog
Come on up to the porch and sit a spell. We'll talk about the day's events and maybe even tell a story or two.

Picking which threads to read is VERY important. Also, which sub-forums to read. I read the Goat board, Melissa's Countryside Families, and this one. Never go to General Chat.

Alice

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I try on these boards to stay with the helpful post questions .You can soften the blows a little it takes thought or thinking . (i know i am using faulty equipment) I have been on here posting when i should of went to bed a few hours back or on some bad meds You know like the past month So hang in there and watch out for this guy too

I am sorry if I was rude to you but I answer many questions with sarcasim and some with the truth. Sometimes it is hard to get. I wish they had a sarcasim alert so that I can post that. and a speling checker that will work on Foxfire.

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Actually I should clarify I've not been personally attacked. Generally I see a question that I think I might be able to answer, open it ,and then realize the poor OP has probably already headed back to the city licking their wounds.

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WOW! All I can say is that the op needs to get out more, lurk on a few other forums and toughen their skin a little. (And I don't mean that rudely, although I'm sure it sounded brunt)

IMO, THIS forum is one of the kindest and most enjoyable on the internet. Although I don't know anyone here, most of the HT posters are really nice people who provide a lot of advice as a result of their own experiences. (wisdom) You are free to take their advice or not - your mileage may vary.

Although I don't participate very much, I do read a LOT on this forum, and it's a fantastic place to spend time, and learn, learn, learn.

Pull those feelings back in, and enjoy the wealth of wisdom here, and simply ignore the stuff that bugs you.

jmo

b

Actually seems like most stay and become one of the HT group.

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Excellent post, here! Only one out of 31 so far rude.

I have had posters on a sub-forum tell me they would not run wire carrying 120 volt AND 12 volt power in the same conduit. I replied why?, and gave three guesses. They never gave me the courtesy of a reply. I am certain they read it as it is a small, under-used forum. To me, that borders on rude.

Not much of an explanation, just my 2 sense.

If people are personally rude to you, can't you block them? I heard that somewhere....

If people are just being rude in general on a thread, try to avoid that thread. Thats what I try to do. Most threads dont contain rudeness!

Only one person here on HT has ever been rude to me personally. I try to avoid/ignore them when possible, and it works!

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Okay, I'll bite.

120volt is alternating current, and 12volt power is "typically" direct current. I guess the answer to your question depends on what you plan to use the 12 volt direct current for. "IF" it will only be used for say, charging a 12 volt battery, then, no problem.
However, "IF" the 12 volt power will be used as primary power for sensitive equipment, then I would suggest that might be a problem. The reason, is that during heavy current draw on the 120 volt circuit, the rising and collapsing flux field will "impose" alternating current onto the 12 volt circuit, which could be problematic for some equipment.
Now, having said that, the ac riding the 12 volt dc circuit can be filtered out at the end use equipment.

Okay, I apologize for hijacking this thread, but just wanted to answer Rick's question.

b

I sure wish someone had been 'rude' to me 20 years ago... unfortunately the internet wasn't around... I'd'a saved a lot of callouses and headaches if someone had rightly pointed out that I was clinically insane to be trying to do some things the hard way when easier was staring me in the face.

At the time, I'm sure I'd'a felt someone was being rude... Now, probably not...

Now if you meander down to General Chat... you'd best be prepared for anything... I disagree with a lot of folks... but I still respect them.

Just like in the real world, if you find someone disagreeable, simply ignore them... skip their posts, if you must... but remember, sometimes behind a seemingly rude attitude, there's wise advice.

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If it's rude to not respond to every post, where you've posted, well, then I'm sure I've been rude. I post a lot. If I see new comments where I've posted, I'll read through them again... but sometimes the forum is down, or I get busy with work and life and don't get on for a few days, and a thread gets two or three pages back, and forgotten.

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I've been to chat rooms and forums where it's all out brawl. No mods and no censoring. If somebody annoys me or is rude I just ignore them rather than report it. Some of the Facebook forums are that way; people have verbally attacked me for one belief or another rather than attempting a resonable response.

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