Your last wishes

My kids and friends know I want cremated and my ashes, lost, spilt what have you. Growing up a neighbor's father died and the siblings were bickering over the ashes. She had been driving away with the ashes in the trunk of her car until they decided what to do with them. One day her teenage son was nearly in a car accident and had to slam on the brakes to keep from hitting someone and things got tossed around in the trunk. He came home and cleaned the trunk out including all the *dust* in the back with a shop vac. Mom hadn't told anyone where her dad was being stored and whoops Granddad got vacced up. I like it and my kids know I like it.

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I ask for so little. Just let me rule you, and you can have everything that you want. Just fear me, love me, do as I say, and I will be your slave. Jareth, Labyrinth

I've made it clear to DH I do not want to be embalmed & I want a simple box. But I suppose it would be good to write it down so he doesn't feel the need to defend himself from people who mean well, should something suddenly happen to me. There's a Folk School around that offers a casket making class. I SO want to take that class!

visiting the gravesites of my ancestors is a really big deal to me, so I want to be buried. Unfortunately the place I'd really like to be buried is 1 1/2 hrs away, so without being embalmed I'm not sure I'll make it there.

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Time to do the research now, With dry ice you can last for days.

http://www.wfda.org/public/faq.html#6
Here's some WI info.

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I want creamation.
Watched a program on the t.v. the other night about "green Burial" in California and thought it was great.
There are several places in the united States that have green burial, you just have to look for them.
These are just a few to read on it.

http://www.greenburialcouncil.org/news.htm
http://greenburialpittsburgh.org/
http://www.greenburials.org/
http://www.greenlaneburialfield.co.uk/

OMG ROTFL! ::belly laugh::

I don't care what they do to me after I'm not me. Well I guess I wouldn't want to be taxidermied, and used as a hat rack....

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All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure.

Mark Twain

My late husband realized he was dying...so for just a brief period in the hospital, before he slipped into a coma...his mind cleared and he told me what to do...
First he told me he was sorry for all the many years he had verbally and mentally abused me...ask my forgiveness....Then told me he wanted to be cremated in OKC where he died instead of being brought back to ARK...It cost half over in OK ...$765...He didn't want to fancy urn...just a gal. jar with a tight fitting lid...so he won't blow out on the way back to the farm...He wasn't a fan of my driving..lol..He told me that he wanted to be spread out in the pasture where his beautiful little Jersey calf was buried...Then he told me he wanted me to go on with life...that I was too good of woman to stay by myself and I deserved to be loved and cherished...Lastly he told me not to let anyone screw me out of anything....land...money...tools...etc...
He died shortly there after and I followed his wishes...I have remarried to a wonderful man and am living a life that I always heard of but never had....
I told DH that I want to be cremated and spread on the farm....he wants to be cremated and buried in the family plot in MO....So I told him he could take a pint of me with him if he wanted to and I would be here at home and there with him...MissKitty

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Just country lady nothing fake about me.... :baby04:

Cremation for DH and I as well, spread in a lovely country location or a mountain.

But just to let those of you who put your "last wishes" in a Will, be cautious. I work for an attorney who practices in estate planning and probates. He won't allow people to put in what they want done with themselves in the Will because if no one knows (or forgets) about it, you will most likely be in a grave before anyone gets to reading your Will. We do have a new form (not sure if it's just WI or not) that we've been using the last 2 weeks that you can specify who gets your remains and what exactly should be done with you after you pass away. You can fill that out and give it to whoever needs to know.

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My grandmother chose to not be embalmed. Had a visitation, had a funeral. Cheap casket (she wanted a pine box but they were out when she died so the director used a metal one and only charged us the wooden box price). Already had a grave site. Believe the totally was four thousand something.
Due to not being embalmed, she had to be in the ground within 72hrs of her death (and she was).

I just wish to be cremated, a memorial at a park or homestead, and to have a young tree seedling given to each person who attends to plant somewhere in memory of me. Throw my ashes in the flower garden (I originally said in the compost pile for the veggie garden but my wife said NO WAY!! So we compromised )

Creamation Isnt and option for me.
I would like the Military Honor Guard to do my graveside service.
Other than that, as long as they speak the truth at my funeral
i dont care. By the time they get to that, I'll be running the streets
of Glory

And when I say truth, the last thing I want them to say Is
I got along with everyone, never had a enemy LOL.
Cause all that would be a Lie, I consider myself a good person,
but Im human nonetheless

Over 2 million gallons of formaldehyde are dumped into the soil in the USA each year from what I have read. All for embalming. Most people consider their body has a soul. I like to think my soul has a body and that when the body is no longer functional I don't need it. Certainly the last thing I do should not be to contaminate the environment.

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If they can do it,
you know you can!

My great uncle used to make stuff out of walnut trees. Bird houses, dog houses and caskets. They were really pretty caskets and sometimes folks would buy them several years in advance and use them as storage cabinets or coffee tables until they needed to use them as caskets.

Went to a funeral awhile back where the coffin was metallic blue with chrome trim and where it wasn't metallic blue it was blue plush. It was an amazing thing. Dunno if they buried it or not, it seemed awful ornate to only use once.

Some other friends of mine live really close to a scenic spot and occasionally they will find plastic boxes of "dust" in the bushes along the road in front of their house. You can't really tell there is a house behind the bushes, it looks like wild jungle right along there. Apparently there are services folks hire to "spread the ashes" of their loved ones in scenic spots and apparently these folks are little lazy about the spreading part. If you hire the ash spreading part to be done by other folks, I haven't a clue how you can determine if they actually do what they are supposed to, though.

For those wishing to be buried, especially in cold areas and small cemeteries, here's something to think about. Just because you died and need to be buried doesn't mean mother nature is going to cooperate or that the person digging the grave will be able to dig it. Last year a family friend died up north. Small town with a small town cemetery in the beginning of winter. They had the funeral and had to put her in storage for months before they buried her. I can't imagine the expense and the lack of closure for that extended period of time.

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Robert Frost

Thanks for the link, I'll check it out. I should have clarified that the cemetery is in MN, so it would involve crossing state lines. So I'll research that!

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