Like you I am building to make something that will last for hundreds of years. I've restored several wood frame houses and that work has convinced me wood is not the material to use for most of the structure even though one of the houses is over 200 years old. Wood eventually rots and the traditional houses require a lot of upkeep.
As to dishes breaking on hard floors: It takes about 1/10th of a second for something to fall from counter height. That gives you three chances to grab it before it hits the floor. If you can't be bothered then was it really that valuable?
Seriously though, I try not to be emotionally attached to the
china. My mother keeps trying to give me heirloom
china and other fancy things and I explain we don't live a life where antiques or fancy
china belong - this is a farmstead.
I have made almost all of our own ceramic dishes and yes they do break. My son broke one the other night that I have had for over 20 years. Sad but not the end of the world. I'll setup a kiln again one of these days and make more. He felt horrible but he was trying to be careful. Sometimes things just slip. By the way, that was on a wooden floor.
On the rubber tiles, we have friends who put that in their kitchen. Looks great. I am a bit concerned with volatile out-gassing so if I were doing that I would let the tile age unstacked outdoors for a year. I don't want my family breathing toxins. That is one reason for avoiding plywood and other laminates.
In the new house we are working on I'm doing the floors in stages in order to be able to learn and experiment as I go.
Stage 1 is a slab on foam on grade. This is the structure and the thermal mass.
Stage 2 in the tiny cottage we're soon moving into is to pour a thin self-leveling floor that gives us a smooth surface over the rough slab.
Stage 3 will be to experiment with radiant heat in the floor, tile, natural stone, stained concrete, sprung concrete, etc. Different rooms will get different ways.
I want hard floors so they'll last. We do live on a farmstead so dirt comes in. It is the way of life. I've allowed head room for this build up process. Practicing in the tiny cottage will give me more experience and ideas for the long term expansion to the full house. I tend to do things in incremental practice steps, small projects at first so I can learn. The house before this one was a pig hut.
Cheers,
-Walter
in Vermont