Is this wrong? (and any good ideas?)

I hear the red ones go faster but the green ones get better mileage.

Perhaps you misunderstand his intent... he did say the finer things in life, not the best things in life. I'm thinking that there's nothing wrong with a little frivolous adventure occasionally, and there are some things that proving some cash and/or assets can facilitate. Try getting a test ride on a 150' yacht without proof of ability to buy, or a test flight on a Lear jet, or even a test drive of a Bentley or call a realtor and ask them to show you that $4,000,000 house on Grassy Key or even that $1,000,000 house in Aspen.

I think my 'holier than thou' detector is going off...

Go for it, Tink - just don't forget where you came from, cause if you do you can't go back....

Do I hear an Amen to that?

If you want to be where there are tons of people acting like they have money, get on a plane and go to Naperville, IL.

Lots of people with leased Beemers and interest only loans on their McMansions....

I'd say that only you have to look in the mirror in the morning.......
The right thing to do is usually the hardest thing to do.

You don't need lots of money to do those things. Nobody's going to check up on you until you actually attempt to buy something - and even then, only if you're planning to purchase on credit.

Credit's the thing. Use that money to pay off all your debts - an excellent, responsible way to use it -- and imagine how high your credit score will be! The credit score will earn you a ticket IN to all the upscale offers. You'll get credit card and loan offers in your mailbox every blessed day. Ask me how I know this. People who sell anything and everything will line up at your door ready to get you into debt once again.

mmmmm what a quandry!

Are you feeling quilty for wanting to enjoy some fun stuff? That's what I'm reading.

Sounds like you want to go shopping without buying. Lot's of people do it all the time with no harm done.

Are you afraid you'll want to buy? Well, why not? Unless you want to live a life of regrets... You are allowed to reward yourself, you know.

I had the oportunity to take a trip to the far east for 3 weeks. A single mom with two school age children. Rational? No. Did my friends pitch in & help out? Yes. Did I have to pinch pennies after? Yes. Do I regret it? NO! Memories to cherrish, children learned a lot from being away from me, lot's more positive things happened because I didn't listen to the nay sayers.

To me, life is a balance. That includes what you do & what you spend your money on.

I would suggest first of all:
take a portion (percentage) and invest it to get a reliable return for retirement, so
you do not have to rely on SS when you reach 65+.
The leftover percentage, do the repairs necessary on house, pay some loans, or bills,
THEN and only then, spend the balance however you want.
Most people when they inherit or win the lottery, forget to set a portion aside for
the future and blow it all on trivial things which have no futures. You can have fun
with a lot of money or with a little. But make sure you take care of your future first.

I would go to the Grand Canyon and see every bit and i guess i think it would be incredible to ride with a real motorcyle racer and go like heck around the track - the corners are the best with your knee almost touching.
Since i have no idea to ride, i'd just want to be a passenger.

Also, maybe buying a little vw camper in europe and traveling around for a while to see different places.

First off congratulations on the inheritance. Now, as long as the finer things or new adventures are legal; go for it! I had the unique chance to experience the high rollers VIP treatment when I went with a friend to a casino. I didn't realize this person was a high roller until we arrived at the casino; so I was in a completely different world where people gave tips bigger than some folks daily pay! Luckily, I feel comfortable in most social situations so my awe at this new side of life which was quite different than my country lifestyle wasn't too obvious.
The service and attitude that the staff gave us was incredible. It's not a world I'd want to live in all the time, but I sure did enjoy my time seeing how the 'other half' lived.

Enjoy all of those experiences & the thrill of being affluent for a few days/weeks. They'll be great memories for you when you finally put your inheritance to work & you're debt free. One day you can sit on your porch and tell the grandkids about how neat it was driving that Hummer or just what it feels like to test drive a small plane.

And if you get to drive that new Hummer or fly that plane, post some pictures of your adventures.

Well, I guess I certainly am missing something because you never needed the money in the first place to do any of those things. You could have done them all last week or last year, nobody was going to call your bank account to test drive anything. Just remember that these people do work on commision and I would hate to see you "yanking their chain" so to speak.

Now if you want to go to Vegas and blow a bunch of money on some nice cloths, best room, and play the tables, if only for a weekend then I guess go for it. It certainly wouldn't make me feel better about my life but whatever floats your boat. Something like this would certainly require you to spend some of your money though.

Lastly it's true that some people with millions in the bank look like they just climbed out of a dumpster. A couple went to my husbands competition (he builds swimming pools) and asked about putting in a pool, they were told they only do "in ground pools" and don't have anything in their price range. They were completely offended and came down the street to my husband and wrote a check for $150,000 to have a pool put in for their eight kids. They are worth millions and own half the town they live in.

Aside from my earlier post I guess i'm just too practical. I can think of adventures if money weren't an issue like traveling, etc. but i think things just own you.


I think if i won/inherited lots of $$ i would buy more of the land abutting me to use for more pasture, etc. and to keep it untouched, and pay off all debt and invest the rest except what we would need to live on so hubby wouldn't have to work a full time job anymore. I would invest in the homestead with barns, animals, etc.

Just a thought, will it make you hunger for the finer things in life and possibly cause you to become dissatisfied with what you have? Only you know that answer. As far as if it is morally ok, I think it is fine.

BTW, congrats on the inheritance; glad you're putting it to good use. I would probably spend some time on the self sufficient board just to get into a good panic and then have a huge shopping spree at Lehman's or some such place along with solar energy stuff etc. Woo Hoo, that would be fun!

Now I like this idea. Go to vegas, buy $20,000 worth of chips, get the vip treatment, gamble away $100, cash in the rest of the chips, and go home..........

I won't be able to get much in this respect, but it will put me in a position to work on it in the future. I am seriously considering an outdoor wood boiler though.

Why taste the other side unless you intend to go there?

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Because I like to expierience life?

And We Are ALL Needy~!!!

I have been there and acted as IF I had money, It IS fun~!! I sat in the Bidding section of a Arabian Horse auction. Now this was back when Arabian horses went for 1/2 million and more. This auction Also was held in combination with the Big National Horse show in KY. It was cool sitting with people that were bidding and buying horses at those prices. OH BTW I had to send in a Financial Statement on my worth. YA RIGHT. well I put down I was Worth 500K they DID NOT check one bit hehehe. So I had a blast hob nobbing around with the Rich and Famous.~! Drinking there champagne and eating cake after there horse won some world title. Neat~! I think everybody should at least one time in their life do this just to see how the Other side lives hahaha.....

My question to you is how would the person you inherited this from want you to handle this money? I've always considered what was passed down to me from my parents a blessing and have tried to handle it the same way they did. They lived through the depression and worked hard and pinched and saved to have the little in life they had. There's no way I could go out and just throw it to the wind. It's very hard to come by, but can be gone in the blink of an eye. Be wise.

Well I came into a bunch of money couple months ago,gave a Tenth to the Church and the needy,went on a Hunting Trip,got a small place by a Lake,and made a Deposit on another Hunting Trip.Didn't pay off any Bills,just had fun,figured wasn't expecting the money,Bills would be taken care of as planned.

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In an utter and complete thread drift...Im curious - if the guy looked like he was on his last dime, why would you have risked taking a personal check from him?

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