Bitten by the worst bug in the world

Ah heck, my parents couldn't afford me when I came along, nor little sis.

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Your house sounds like mine!! We just had our 6th this summer, he is 7 weeks old now. I was not overly excited when I found out I was pregnant, but boy oh boy are we ever in love w/him now!! :baby04: I think it is great that you want to have more.... usually I hear.."Don't you know what causes that?" Are you DONE YET? etc.... I think you have a great attitude and I am sure you will blessed accordingly!

Cheers,
Jenn

I have one (16) and could afford more; my brothers' girlfriend has three (9, 4, 1) and she can't afford any of them, I figure those of us that have one keep the universe balanced

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Amanda

"Live and let Live!!!"

"Courage is being scared to death--and saddling up anyway" John Wayne

We are paying our debts down. We have twins that are 3 1/2 yo now and they out of pocket costed 30,000 for a healthy normal pregnancy till I hit 32 weeks 6 days pregnant and ended up in the hospital for 8 days and costed us 15,000 for one day and 2,000 there after. If that happend again (god knows i love my twins) well it did happen but I lost the second set, We would be totaly sunk. We do not get assistance at all. Im vbac (vag after c-section) first one was c section the rest were vag. My last childs birth was in tomah closest town to me. they didnot want to deliver me due to no on staff surgon 24/7. Just in case something went wrong. I deliver to fast to go to the nearest big hospital 60 min away. With the last baby I went from oh no im in labor to 9 in 40 min. dear midwife wouldnot let me push due to lip and lip never went away after 4 hrs of I gotta push. they called in all the staff when I was in labor and I had to pay for it all ins would not pay it was 6,000. On top of normal delivery fees and new born care.
who knows in a few years we may have another one two or heck 5 more.
I often get "dont you know what causes this" UMMM yep I do and yes I planned this. I get many coments most negative. I enjoy my kids and couldnot see life anyother way. my kids do get one on one time they have me when they need me. they get one on one time with their dad. My kids understand they are a link in a chain in life and its not "ALL ABOUT ME" They know what they do affect others good or bad. Life isnt about stuff. My neighbors kids (they have 2) never see their parents and their parents feel that life is all about money vacations and stuff. Where are the kids my house playn with the animals cause their mom feels animals are dirty and smelly.

I "babysit" 3 neighbor kids ontop of my children. We have lots of fun and the kids can see life isnt all about money. A lesson their parents teach. Im totaly off subject here oooops sorry.

I hope the feeling goes away soon. Im trying to think about all the things I can do with more fee hand and hip time with "g" more active (shes 1 now) Trying to keep myself busy tryn not to think about it. Well see if we win the lotto Ill have 20 more and adopt. Hummm Need to start playn the lotto.

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I'm so done here.

For whatever reason God chose not to bless us with money or possessions, but he blessed us with children, 5 of them. Our newest is 3 months old. The best thing we found is homebirth. $2500 for the whole thing from start to finish and NO NEEDLES! I use to hate it with my other ones that I had in a hospital, the doctor's first question was "What are we going to do to keep this from happening again?" Oh, that use to make me mad! Our last boy, I had a catholic doctor and so he didn't ask me that and then our last one I had a midwife and it was by far the best. I'm glad I never got fixed though everyone has tried to convince us that we should because we don't have a lot of money. But I'm a firm believer that the God who gives you the baby will also supply what you need for that baby. Kids don't need all the junk they think they need and are actually probably better off without it.
As for being sad about them going away to school, then why not homeschool? It's not for everyone, but it's worth looking into. Then you might be glad you don't have any more kids! LOL

We have been tossing around the idea of homeschooling for years. Oldest I just cant teach. the 4-5 are for the most part homeschooled. #4 wants to see what school is like Ill let her is she then finds it way to boring then ill keep her home and teach her more.
Im against us getting fixed. I just dont feel right. I feel if god says were done with kids well be done.
They will not do a home birth here. If we have another one we may have no choice due to my rapid labors.
I know this mth well be careful when dh is home.
Next mth he'll be transfering to a new part of his company so well see how paychecks are. They might be better. they might be worse. well just wait and see.
Gods plan wins in the end.

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I'm so done here.

I became cured of this bug when my youngest finished potty training!

How about foster parenting??? There's a LOT of children out there that need families....

I know we have some here...bless you all!

I know what you mean. I'm there with you. I have 4 kids, and would love to have more. We do homeschool, and I am busy with other things. But I still have such longings for another baby. It's so hard to be patient and wait to see what's in store for our family.

From the way you worded it, I wasn't sure if you're against the idea of homebirth, or if you've been unable to find a homebirth midwife. If you're looking for a provider, midwifery today's website has a database that may help. You may also be able to find some good info at the (MN and WI) 'find your tribe' section of the mothering.com discussion board. There's always the possibility of an unassisted birth, as well. The c-birth yahoo group is an unassisted childbirth group that is very active. There's also a UC forum at mothering.com.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

One was enough for me!! It wasn't about the career vs kids argument either; I'm just not all that enamored with children. I think some folks have stronger mothering instincts or else I was just behind the door when they were passed out! I'm one of those women who was relieved when menopause hit since that turned off the potential baby making machine.

I never wanted kids either. I was just never that taken with babies. But, a long time ago I prayed that God would teach me patience and teach me to have a gentle and quiet spirit. Well, that was a mistake, because what tests patience and a quiet spirit better than kids? Especially when you have two older kids fighting over who was sitting in the chair first (even though there is 4 other chairs) and a little baby crying because she's been in her swing long enough and is now bored and wants to be moved and a toddler crying and pulling on your shirt because you're not getting what he wants fast enough and a puppy underfoot trying to chew on your shoe while you're walking?!
Those are the times when I long for a one way trip to Bermuda! LOL
After every child I've always said that this is the last one, but then, uh oh. Then when I'm up during the middle of the night when everyone else is fast asleep and I'm so sleepy I can't keep my eyes open but I can't go to bed because the baby is bright eyed and bushy tailed, that's when I'm reminded real quick why I said I wasn't going to have any more! LOL God never gives us more than we can handle in his strength and uses each problem to teach something.

For me, pregnancy #2 was very difficult, not to mention VERY costly!! ($15,000 & we made $18,000 that year!) Then, to add to it all, baby #2 was very demanding and to this day is quite a challenge. So, shortly after her birth we were "cured" of the baby bug. Or so we thought!!
Fast forward ten years, and the urge came back. We had baby #3, and 15 months later, #4!! What blessings - for the whole family! We are all in love with the two little ones.
The babies have taught my older kids patience, selflessness, and bring an overwhelming joy to our whole day. As for DH and I, we can't imagine a life without children in it. In our case, with teenagers AND toddlers, we never have a boring moment in our house!!
Now that we have four, our feeling is along the lines of... What's one more??

we would LOVE to foster parent but then to have that child ripped from our gripped arms to be returned to its screw up family. My in laws have fostered parented and my fil works child protective services i know how it goes. We want to adopt but is cost so much money. I get attached to children very easly. To have them leave my side is heart breaking. I have my two nephues here this summer and I miss them so much. I call and talk with them as much as there mom lets me. If i could id pay there mom off and take the boys in I raised my oldest nephue from the time he was 2 mts old till I left michigan and moved to wisconsin. He was so mad at me for leaving. Oldest nephue cried so hard and screamed when he had to leave. I show my 2 nephues what the dont get at home love affection respect kindness and they belonge. So many girls wanted to give me and dh their babies when they found themselvs pregnant and in no shape to care for the baby. But yet again adoption cost alot and more than we can afford. We realy would love to adopt kids. We know some great people whom have adopted 13 kids ontop of their already 5 kids. granted the 5 origanl are grown and gone but how wonderful it is to adopt 13 kids from very bad homes and make them into upstanding wonderful kids. Its is so amazing what love will do to an unruley child. I just had an experiance almost two weeks ago with two kids. Their grand mother passed out infront of us. dh being and emt took care of the grandmother while we waited for the ambulance I took care of the kids. I asked the kids weher their mother and father were and I go one very sad story. their sick grandmother was all they had when we had to leave and the kids go with someone else the little girl ran after me dont leave me dont leave me let me come with you please. It killed me. I dont know where they are or if theya re ok But I pray that they are safe.
dh and I talk everyday about more kids we both want more but we know it is not the time and realy hope god see it our way also. If he dosent well what can we do other than prepair. We have all we need.
We have payed off 8 credit cards ontop of other debts which totals 35,000 so far this year. we are working hard to pay off the house and cars.
I have been around kids and taking care of children and a household from the age of 13 to me this is normal. I never had time to just sit and think for myself and its kind of scary.
My second child was the child from HELL she screamed non stop for 3 mts. IM NOT KIDDING. with dh being a truck driver he was never home. I was alone to care for her and first child. And the truth is she was not planned she was concived out of a rape. Im very against abortion so it was not a choice. evern tho I concidered it everyday but couldnt do it. I prayed very hard for god to take her but he needs her here. I love her so much. she is very strong willed. SHe is going to do something great for this world I know she will. She is so determined. She is so smart. she is so loving and yet so bossy. she is so girl. she is the apple of her daddies eye and grandparents.
will see what the next few years bring us. tilll then we will try to keep the stork at bay and love the 5 we have plus all the neighbor hood kids and kids friends.
Gee i better shut up sorry.

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I'm so done here.

oh yeah im not against home birth I just didnt know anyone to deliver me at home Id prefer home birth. Ill have to check the information out thank you.

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I'm so done here.

Well I dunno about your state but... Here in AZ if it's a Child that's in CPS's custody & the parental rights have been severed, there's subsidy monies to cover the adoption if it's an AZ child moved out of state. Actually it's free in state.
You are right tho, a private adoption is expensive.

Why not check it out.

I think childbirth may be the cure.

Try working/volunteering in a day care, volunteer at the childrens library, visit sick kids at the hospital, be a homeroom mom, find a mops group and volunteer to babysit........

I've walked in your shoes. We have 10 homegrown children and are now in the process of adopting. Yes we checked into adoption and yes it's costly. We are being pulled to Africa adoption but until we get some bills paid down we feel this isn't the right time. I was having a conversation w/ my hubby one day and asked why he wasn't helping me pursue adoption. He said he was just sitting back and waiting to see what happens. I said right, like someone is just going to stop by our door and ask us to adopt their child??? It would NEVER happen! He said oh yea? With faith it can happen. I said God isn't going to have someone just drop by with a baby and say...would you adopt him/her? Well I'm eating those words. We have been caring for a baby on and off since the beginning of the year. Due to circumstances we have had him since May 30th and he has only been gone 4 nights since. His parents came to us on July 3rd asking us to adopt him. Last Monday they signed the TPR papers and we are awaiting a homestudy now. If you would of told me this was going to happen I would of told you ..you are crazy!! As far as costs go it seems like we will only be putting out between $2,000-$4,000 for this adoption. We are not using any agency. So we only have court costs, attorney's fees and homestudy cost.

I say have more children by either homegrown or adoption. Fill up that suburban! We have a 15 passenger van and we still are not filled. Plus our oldest just got his license so we have lost 1 child at times. We both feel we are not done having children and are praying to see what children will be coming our way next

Michele
Crewmom to 10 homegrown and 1 newly transplanted

I, too, am waiting on Grandchildren!! For 27yrs. we spent every minute, every penny and every ounce of energy on our children. I am 50+ and would not change a thing. DH and I are still healthy, happy and are able to spend our resources on things we want. My children are all young adults, with their own lives and good jobs...they have never given us a mintues real trouble and they are healthy... BUT I haven't been able to talk not one into a baby YET!! QB