Where would you die?

hopefully I'll die doing something I like instead of being slaving away for someone I only tolerate for the $$.

That said I hope to die at home with my wife by my side.. Seeing her would ease away all the fear and put me at peace.

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"Let the beauty we love, be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground." Rumi

Yup again,you folks got it right.

BooBoo

Another vote for home. I'd rather be in a comfortable place, surrounded by people I love. Even a nursing home would be better than a sterile hospital.


I'm a very home-oriented person. My kids were born at home, I prefer to entertain at home rather than go out somewhere- I'd be most comfortable passing at home (regardless of where 'home' is).

Home. I would want my family around me. I don't want the last thing they remember of me to be me lying in a hopsital bed. My grandmother was at home when leukemia took her from us but she was comfortable and with people she loved and loved her. Family took care of her up till the end. They had help from hospice but it wasn't strangers that took care of her basic needs....it was her daughters. She was at peace, they were at peace, and it ws very intimate. Things got said that needed to be said and I don't think that could have happened in a hospital.
Jenni

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I had the wonderful experience to be with my grandmother as she passed. She was in the nursing home for alzheimers, but after she fell and broke her hip, it was downhill from there. Once she was unable to swallow, the family decided enough was enough. I told the nursing home to call me if she looked like she was going to die.

Got the call early in the morning and off to the nursing home I went. She hadn't been lucid for several days, but once there, I got her bible and put her hand on it while I held her other hand. I told her how her whole family loved her and would miss her, but it was time to go. I let her know that she had lived a full life (she was 89) and that she needed to go join her grandparents, parents, and siblings. It wasn't very long until she just quit breathing.

I was so proud to be there with her as she passed over.

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Michael W. Smith in North-West Pennsylvania

"Everything happens for a reason."

I want to be at home....

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Today is yesterdays tomorrow

I guess I don't care where I die, I'd quite prefer not to.
At least not for a while.
I would like to be debt free, on speaking terms with the family and at peace with God.
Home, hospital, nursing home, I don't care.

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Enforced tolerance is oppression

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If I can't die for what I believe in, or for someone - I'd guess the best place for me to die would be a place of 'no regrets'. If I can't have any of that - somewhere I can see the sunlight through the cottonwood leaves....

niki

Sitting on the side of a mountain, looking out at the wilderness in Vermont, with the wind in my hair and my DH by my side. Or at home surrounded by my friends and family with George Winston or Lorrina McKennitt playing softly in the background. DH wants to prepare me for burial, which will be completely run by him and my family. Homemade coffin, with wildflowers picked and placed with me. Simple and easy.

DH just said that he'd want to die while making love to me. I think I'd be just a LITTLE traumatized by that . Since I vetoed that option, he also votes for "at home with family and friends" and "side of mountain".

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"A mind once stretched by imagination, never regains its former dimensions." ~ Anonymous

either at home (old, wrinkled, and lucid) watching over my farm or on a battlefield (and there are many kinds) keeping people safe and free
--Michael

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Michael & Rebecca (probably Michael, the mouthy one)
parents of Caitlyn, Brendan, Keera & Alanna
keepers of goats, chickens, rabbits, cats & a dog

My great granmother died at home with my mother and me taking care of her.
I want to go in my back yard with my coffee mug in one hand a book in the other, with a chicken in my lap and the other one on my shoulder.

My Daddy wanted to die at home last year and that is what we did for him, but it was very, very hard on us, the living. We did it because we loved him and wanted him to be as comfortable as possible while he was dying. I'm still having nightmares about it though and wake myself up crying.

It doesn't make us feel weird about the house, but it does make us feel sad. Of course, I'm sure we'd still feel just as sad because the weird thing is being there without Daddy around.

Depending on what I am dying of I may want to be at home, or I may want to be in the hospital. I am going to leave it up to my family. Whatever they feel most comfortable with is what I want.

Hospice was not much help for us with Daddy...they only came by every other day and we had to call them for emergency visits a few times. NOT PLEASANT. Caring for Daddy in the last week of his life was the most emotionally and physically draining thing I have ever had to do, although I would do it again because I love him so much. I'm just glad he never has to go through that again and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

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