Self pity.. please forgive the drama part

GBov · #61 01/28/12, 04:08 PM

As I am dealing with similar behavior -not in my kids who are young enough to think goats are really cool but in my hubby who doesnt "Get" my animals or why I have them

- I had to say something.

Your mistake, and its one we are all prone to after a lifetime of protecting our kids from hurt, is holding your tears in till your son left. If you had sobbed your hurt out in front of him he would know that he hurt you. Chances are he has no idea how deep the wound he dealt you is.

TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE HURT YOU! They will not learn if we dont tell them. I have to push myself to tell my hubby when he has hurt my feelings and most of the times, no mater how much his words have hurt ME, he says "I didnt mean it like THAT!" and is really sorry.

Dont cover the hurt, talk about it.

(((hugs)))

Ardie/WI · #62 01/28/12, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Patrick

I mourn the loss of the traditional 2 parent (one male, one female) American family. That, and lack of discipline and personal accountability are the cause of most of society's problems today. Old time conservatives were seen as cranks when they predicted this, yet their prophecy has come true.

Wow, you must be new here!

mary,tx · #63 01/28/12, 05:10 PM

As the mother of a 19 year old son, I feel your pain. My advise is to not take stupid things he says too seriously. Hopefully they'll outgrow it. Most of us did, right?

mpete · #64 01/28/12, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by GBov

As I am dealing with similar behavior -not in my kids who are young enough to think goats are really cool but in my hubby who doesnt "Get" my animals or why I have them

- I had to say something.

Your mistake, and its one we are all prone to after a lifetime of protecting our kids from hurt, is holding your tears in till your son left. If you had sobbed your hurt out in front of him he would know that he hurt you. Chances are he has no idea how deep the wound he dealt you is.

TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE HURT YOU! They will not learn if we dont tell them. I have to push myself to tell my hubby when he has hurt my feelings and most of the times, no mater how much his words have hurt ME, he says "I didnt mean it like THAT!" and is really sorry.

Dont cover the hurt, talk about it.

(((hugs)))

You speak words of wisdom, but I just can't do that now. I haven't even told my husband about it. He knows parts, but he works nights and has enough stress as it is.

GBov · #65 01/28/12, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by mpete

You speak words of wisdom, but I just can't do that now. I haven't even told my husband about it. He knows parts, but he works nights and has enough stress as it is.

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Oh Sweetie, telling people how we feel is harder than hard. It takes me days to work up the nerve sometime. (((hug)))) in your own time and in your own way, do try to tell him. You will both feel better!