I want goat DW says no

Cliff · #21 12/16/09, 07:22 AM

You can leave the kids on the goat and share milk - lock kids up at night and milk in the morning. Then if you want time off from milking just leave kids out with mom.
And I agree that life's too short to let someone keep something as simple as a goat or two from you. As long as you make it clear she won't be expected to do any of the work your dw shouldn't be able to prevent you from getting a goat.

QoTL · #22 12/16/09, 07:54 AM

Forgot to mention..

You can always do what my dh does. First, he'll mention he's looking at a nice whatever. We'll gab about it a bit. I'll assume that's the end of it.

A few weeks later he'll bring that whatever home. When I say I didn't realize he was getting it, he'll mention that we had already talked about it weeks ago.

Cliff · #23 12/16/09, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by QoTL

Forgot to mention..

You can always do what my dh does. First, he'll mention he's looking at a nice whatever. We'll gab about it a bit. I'll assume that's the end of it.

A few weeks later he'll bring that whatever home. When I say I didn't realize he was getting it, he'll mention that we had already talked about it weeks ago.

Ha ha good one.

madness · #24 12/16/09, 10:01 AM

My husband put his foot down pretty darn firmly about getting dairy goats for our urban homestead. That was ok - I wasn't ready yet. I was just hoping to soften him up. Our schedules at the time just didn't allow for very regular milking intervals so he was right about it. Now we have goats at the family farm and since my mom bought them, he couldn't say no!

But sometimes your partner might see things that you don't. Really do take into consideration her concerns. Then either explain why it won't be a factor or maybe you'll realize that she is right!

wintrrwolf · #25 12/16/09, 10:30 AM

LOL I love this stream and seriously I would be the worst person to give advise on it since I've never been married. Spent my first 20 years having to ask my momma's permission wasn't about to do that for the rest of my life (happily unmarried for 43 years). But I do know to "just do it" and worry bout the fireworks later is so not the way to go. And yes you will need 2 goats to start, I started with 1 and had a very unhappy Doe. And though I have 2 children in my home full time a 14yr old and a 20yr old those are my goats and chickens so even if I am sick I still feed and water all my babies. I do have to fight my girls to get the eggs, both of them think that's cool its Easter everyday

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I will probably do what has been suggested here and leave the kid nursing and milk...we don't need a lot. Since you are dealing with a women definitely work the cuteness factor, the weed eating benefits, and the plus of manageable fertilizer...wish ya luck!!

Vicki McGaugh TX Nubians · #26 12/18/09, 02:48 AM

Is she crafty at all? Send me your address and I will send her a free bar of goatmilk soap

But I agree, I would get the goat....heck I did go and get the goats

I can count on one hand the times my husband has had to milk, maybe on two hands the times he has had to feed. But then I can count on two hands the times I have had to go roof a house or build a deck or......

with his business. It's not about asking for permission it's about being supportive, I never took no well as a child and certainly am not looking for a yes or no from a spouse. Vicki

shiandpete.1 · #27 12/18/09, 11:03 AM

Ha Ha Vicki, I feel the same way. My husband has never had to milk, he has never pulled a kid (I did make him help the vet winch the calf out of the market Heifer last year and there he was in flip flops and shorts all grossed out) John has never fed the goats unless we are at a show and staying the night and then only 2-3 Goats are left home. Then again I let him do his things he likes, and I have never had to fix the old pick-up or go to his buddies house and listen to the men gab!

I would simply show your wife some research on which breed you want, find a reputable breeder and take her there when they have kids. I guarantee that no woman can resist the sweet faces of kid goats! Afterall I am a woman! lol Good luck!

susanne · #28 12/18/09, 11:45 AM

i would not want to be married to a selfish person. just my very personal opinion.

thaiblue12 · #29 12/18/09, 12:54 PM

How is it selfish if he is going to do all the work and wants them? Is it selfish to say no you cannot have something cause I don't like it?

My husband has said " I have no say in what animals come and go, etc etc" So why would I ever consult him? He does not a darn bit of farm chores and it is not effecting him moneywise so why would I have to go over every animal purchase or sale with him? I don't, it is my farm and I run it all.

I say again you want to win her over bring her around goat babies. Within 5 mins they will melt her heart. Get at least two goats or you will have a lonely goat that yells for company and it will get on her nerves by the second day.

susanne · #30 12/18/09, 02:23 PM

it is not only about the chores on a farm, it is also about social life and family budget. goats can cost a lot of money, especially at the start. some farms will get profitable but most on the homesteading forum are not. just a fact.

hugh · #31 12/18/09, 02:30 PM

Get one. My wife keeps telling me she will leave if I bring home another animal. I keep bringing stuff home, she hasn't left yet. She did get a little excited the other day when the goat walked in the front door while she was bringing in groceries.