How do I convince DH?

All it took was for the first kids to be born...now he's hooked.

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My dh says as long as I'm happy he is happy We discuss things but usually if one of us wants something the other ends up saying "it's up to you". Sometimes we make a deal...you get Direct TV NFL Ticket, I get a new saddle. Works for us!

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it is not about asking a husband or wife but decide together if the new project is something both parties are wiling to contribute to. it is not only the financial aspect but the time that need to be spent on the project too. this is what partnership is about and not a one way road.

milking animals, be it goat, sheep or cow, is a commitment that cuts a lot into freedom. going to the cinema suddenly needs a lot of planning ahead. parties rarely be enjoyed till the end. vaccation????? maybe in wintertime when the does are dry????

i love my goats and so does my husband. this is a lifestyle we have chosen together

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These are all really good arguments. DH gets a say because I work 7on 7 off, so on my work nights he takes care of the animals. I'm thinking the perhaps I'll wait until september to get the goats though. Only because we are going to Penn. for three days to see my youngest graduate from college. I don't know of anyone who can milk goats (or cows) that we're frendly enough with to ask. A friend of mine is going to feed the others and gather the eggs for me. Besides, if I wait that long, maybe I can take him on a stroll through the State Fair pens to see the goats!

I was in the same boat - My husband works and I am at home.
In our home the husband makes the decisions and the wife carefully presents the evidence.
The problem my husband had with it was he was Not Going to Drink Goat Milk! He thought the idea was gross. So therefore he thought it would be a waste of money.
I got a quart of goat milk at the store and some whole cow milk and poured a bit of milk into two different glasses and told him one was goats milk but didn't tell him which was which. (I refuse to "trick" people about goats milk)
He tried them both and couldn't tell the difference. So then he agreed to two Nigerian doeling. Soon after came a girl in milk.
He likes them better than the dogs. At least they are useful!
The milk is so good! I learned to make cheese. And they are really friendly.
I am up to three nigerians in milk, four girls that are waiting to be bred - one buck, and two baby girls, and one La Mancha doeling.

the bonus to my husband is I do all the work for the animals (he is allergic to hay also) All he does is help me build stuff for the goats.

Hope that helps - ali

PS one thing my husband hates about the goats is I have to be home twice a day to milk. We have no one else that can do it for us. If he wants to go on vacation I have to plan a whole year in advance to have no girls in milk at the time of the vacation - even if he wants to go campign it is a real pain - we have to camp close enough to home so I can run home and milk in the morning and then come back to the campsite.

sounds like a plan but i agree with wags... have him hold a nigerian baby and it's done. maybe you can find a breeder going to the fair ahead of time that will let that happen.

my husband isn't an animal lover, we got the goats for lower taxes. the first baby that had to be bottle fed that nearly died melted his heart. he said no goats in the house but was upset when she was strong enough to go into the barn. he wouldn't let me sell her and she became his goat. he would take her with him when doing chores.
hee hee, i remember this one time he was on his stomach trying to get a rock out of a posthole he was digging and she looked in the hole, looked at him, then the hole again, then tried to climb into the hole.

Ok this is a male side. WE have goats 8 goats. This is the way i look at I work dw stays home. As long as the bills are paid why not. (Once the money comes home it is no longer mine its are money) Its something that makes her happy she does 90% of the work. And it gives dw something to do. She says I want another goat I say do we have the money. She says yes and off we go to get them. I don't expect her to ask just consult with me.

I don't know... if my DH weren't 100% on board, I wouldn't want to get the animals. Thing is, you never know what is going to happen- you get sick or injured, and he has to take care of them, is he going to resent that?
My DH does a lot of the grunt work for me. After his recent health stuff, and my own ongoing stuff, we've learned more about what we need and what we don't need. This is one reason why the goats, much as we love them, have to go. If you aren't working as a team, and something interrupts the flow of the way you are doing things, and suddenly he finds himself doing the animal care for these critters he didn't want...
I'm just saying.
Now, if you can build up some enthusiasm for them in him with samples of good goat products and "services" (like the bush-hogging) and he likes the idea, go for it. Then he would likely be more willing to help if the need arises. Just talk it over, test the waters, and then go from there. Marriage and farming are both about teamwork and good communication.

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My DH would agree with Emanuel. When I got my goats he got a hog(motorcycle). When he talks about getting something new I remind him that then I can get my pot bellied pig. Its all about balance - hehe

he cant say no, if not given the chance. I came across a great deal today hun and i couldnt get in touch with you, I can resell them if you really want me too, then pretend to find a buyer until he likes them.

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I have to agree with emanuel. That is how my husband is like that. He will said do we have money. I will say yes or no. It works out good. If I want something really good bloodlines he kinda complained but i told him I will sell some eggs and milk to save money up for extra money and it works out really well for us. It is more like teamwork.. Yeah..