Dirty situation

[wildcard]

Girl and I are in another fight. I say that it's okay to pile my fill dirt out on the street curb for anyone who wants it. Girl says that it's not and that it's an eyesore. She stuck a rusty bakers wrack curbside last weekend and I thought that was an eyesore. She said that went fast but my dirt will not and when it rains, it will run down the street in front of the neighbors houses. Aha! So now we get down to the nitty gritty. That's what she is really worried about!

Men, what do you think? Am I right on this? We may split over this because I am going to stand my ground.

[DEKE01]

1. If she doesn't like it, why do it? Is it worth the stress in the relationship? Think how happy you will make her when you tell her that out of respect for her wishes, you won't do it anymore.

2. Why give away dirt at all? I can't imagine having too much dirt unless there is something wrong with it. That stuff can be spread on the yard to improve your grass, put in raised garden beds, put on a compost pile to stimulate decay, lots of uses.

[sidepasser]

Personally I think that is not worth fighting about and would not be the hill I wanted to die on. A relationship that cannot withstand a pile of dirt sure won't withstand something serious like losing everything in fire, illness, job loss, or other catastrophe.

As well as you may be cited by the city if you happen to live where they have storm sewers/city sewage which may not allow substantial piles of dirt to run into the sewer system and clog it up.

[Harry Chickpea]

I think you will get washed down the street into a neighbor's yard.

[simi-steading]

One thing to ALWAYS remember... If Mamma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy...

My feelings.. I don't know many people that would stop in front of a house and take dirt piled up in the road...

[copperkid3]

Stick a sign in the pile.

Mention "free dirt" - will help load!

See how fast it goes (or stays). Give it a week.

Base your relationship on the response to the advertising.

Now . . . was it worth it?

[geo in mi]

If this girl is living in your house, best thing is to agree with her, and make for more comfortable homesteading. If not, let her sue you and lose the homestead. Standing your ground on a pile of loose dirt is dangerous. WTH does this have to do with the subject of homesteading, anyway?

My own .02

geo

[sisterpine]

Really? You both have so much lose time on your hands that you can fight about the placement of dirt? I wish you both only the very best but perhaps you could use some of that time and do some volunteer work at, say, habitat for humanity where they could really use the dirt on one of their progects Blessings, sis

[MO_cows]

Put up a sign, also post a free craiglist and/or freecycle ad. If someone comes and removes the dirt in a short period of time, don't even think about gloating. Great news, honey, the dirt is gone, period, end of discussion.

The time to take this opinion poll was BEFORE you piled the dirt where momma didn't want it. You are now in a salvage operation. Good luck!

[mnn2501]

She's right and you're wrong.
Is this really the hill you want to make your stand on?
Leave the dirt in back and put an ad on Craigs list.

[Fire-Man]

Originally Posted by wildcard

Men, what do you think? Am I right on this? We may split over this because I am going to stand my ground.

Wildcard I think you are Loosing Here On HT! Plus sounds like you will be loosing at your Homestead too! I am a Man, but To me there is a big difference in a rack set by the street and a pile of dirt. If for what ever reason you feel the need to get rid of the dirt, just put a sign out by the street "free dirt". Keep the pile of dirt in another area so it can be got to.

I own a Farm with plenty of dirt and I can not see any reason to give away dirt, for a matter of fact I just had my 3rd big dump truck load delivered a hour ago. I do not Argue with my Wife/GF on how she wants to keep the house/front yard looking(these are Hers--to do her thing with). I keep my shop and my MANY storage sheds like I want them. I help her if she wants to do something different in the yard even though what she is "doing" Might not be something I would do----doesn't matter its hers to fix up "ANY WAY" she wants----You will get along alot better if you do not argue with her on this. Be good to her and good will come back to you----like yesterday--My Wife went into my shop, cleaned the bathroom, dusted every thing and mopped-----Do You Think for One Minute I would Argue With Her over a Pile of Dirt and Loose ALL this-----NO WAY!!!! LOL

[Meconella]

I've been very grateful to find good, clean dirt piled near the road with a 'free' sign on it. I've made a good number of trips to various curb-sides to bring it home. It's an easy way to get rid of it, though I'm not sure why one would want to... In my area, such piles of soil go fast.

It's just lovely dirt, not smelly garbage.

Ps, I'm female with the heart of a gardener.

[RJMAcres]

If it's good dirt, I'd stop and get it.
I've been known to stop and get chunks of concrete thats been dumped in a ditch.
Had to cops show up 1 time while I was loading up chunks of concrete wanting to know what I
was doing.

[YamahaRick]

When you guys break up, PM me her phone number. I'm single. ;-)

[AngieM2]

Build a raised box, put the dirt in it, plant either flowers just for pretty (maybe petunias, the nice dark blue ones that smell good at night) or flowers that keep misquotoes away (marigold, catnip, etc), or better yet some pretty lettuce or such -

[oregon woodsmok]

So, you are going to break up over what the front yard looks like. It can't be much of a relationship, then, and she is better off without you if you are completely indifferent to her wishes.

Me, I'd build myself a nice raised bed and use that dirt. I can't even imagine giving dirt away.

[newfieannie]

he did say "fill dirt" he probably just wants to get rid of it. I see that quite often around here in the yards with "free fill" on it. I wouldn't think of putting it by the curb though not to mention the fact that I would probably have city field at my door in no time. ~Georgia.

If something as small potatoes as a pile of dirt may split you & her up I'd say pile it wherever she doesn't want it & get it over with , the sooner the better .

[Michael W. Smith]

wildcard - you are in a losing position. By "fill dirt" - my definition is dirt that has stones, clay, rocks, etc in it. "Fill dirt" is used to fill up ditches, holes etc - it is NOT good for flower beds, gardens, etc.

If my definition is correct, I'm guessing you aren't going to have any takers. Even if people need the fill dirt - they are too darn lazy to come to your house and shovel it onto their pickup truck.

Find another place to put your dirt pile - get it OUT of the front yard - and in the meantime, look around for signs "Clean fill wanted." Once you've found a place, load up your pickup and get rid of the problem.

If you are willing to let a pile of dirt break up your relationship . . . . . perhaps your woman deserves better.

[anniew]

Sign: Free dirt in exchange for new girlfriend.