oppurtunity/change..

nbone · #1 06/10/13, 12:31 PM

I just took the time to type a very long detailed post about sharing my homestead, I guess it timed out?, when I went to post it, it was gone. asked me to register? I want toshare my homestead, 18 acres upstate NY. I am 48 yrs old/ wife 53. Hoping to find someone interested in homesteading life style but for what ever reasons are unable to persue it on their own at this time We are "hippieish" I guess, nature lovers, animal lovers, drama free. Maybe there are single moms / women or older man, just needing a fresh start, etc, I s room to expand here, lots of potential, I have been warned by friends about offering to share my place, but what does it say about society , if I cant offer to do so? Maybe the concept sounds crazy to some, but maybe someone, "gets it" Its the most rewarding way to live, close to nature/ a tie to the past maybe? Message me if you have any questions, I cant get into much detail it seems, as my last post was soo well written, lol but is gone, and I don't have time to retype all that,, I love idea of this opportunity being something that can change/help anothers situation, As both me and wife have been in bad spots in past, I'll end it here, if you have any advice for me on finding right peeps, open to that too,, message me, I can give much more detail etc,, thanks Chris..

am1too · #2 06/10/13, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by nbone

I just took the time to type a very long detailed post about sharing my homestead, I guess it timed out?, when I went to post it, it was gone. asked me to register? I want toshare my homestead, 18 acres upstate NY. I am 48 yrs old/ wife 53. Hoping to find someone interested in homesteading life style but for what ever reasons are unable to persue it on their own at this time We are "hippieish" I guess, nature lovers, animal lovers, drama free. Maybe there are single moms / women or older man, just needing a fresh start, etc, I s room to expand here, lots of potential, I have been warned by friends about offering to share my place, but what does it say about society , if I cant offer to do so? Maybe the concept sounds crazy to some, but maybe someone, "gets it" Its the most rewarding way to live, close to nature/ a tie to the past maybe? Message me if you have any questions, I cant get into much detail it seems, as my last post was soo well written, lol but is gone, and I don't have time to retype all that,, I love idea of this opportunity being something that can change/help anothers situation, As both me and wife have been in bad spots in past, I'll end it here, if you have any advice for me on finding right peeps, open to that too,, message me, I can give much more detail etc,, thanks Chris..

I have learned to copy most every post before hitting that post button. It sure saves lots of aggravation.

One of the people I eat lunch with most every Friday does this in a way. He is retired and the live on does most if not all the work. He brags every once in a while. I think he pays the utilities and provides living quarters separate from the house. It has crossed my mind to do the same.

nbone · #3 06/10/13, 01:07 PM

copy/post,, TY, I will have to remember that, as I was about to blow a gasket when I realized all I typed was gone.Is kind of what I want to do, provide separate quarters, but share the projects, Is why someone with an intrest in raising rabbits/goats/chickens etc, fits so well. A love of gardening a big plus, Open to alternative lifestyles a big plus. Meaning, self sufficiency, less consumerism, etc.. I am drawn to a simpler time, and I know others must be too. I would to find someone that has the dream to live this way, and be able to provide an avenue to do so. I know its a long shot, finding the right chemistry, etc, but figured it doesn't hurt to start some dialog.

Wolfy-hound · #4 06/10/13, 01:08 PM

I would recommend having a contract detailing what each party is supposed to do and what each party is responsible for. You can say that either party can dissolve the contract and the non-property-owner party can leave at any time, etc.. but having it written out means that there is no misunderstandings about "I wanted to put a garden in there... " and "I didn't want pigs penned up next to my garage..." type things. Also, who pays for what, feed, fence, seeds, hired work, etc.

A contract often means less chance of hurt feelings and falling outs later on.

nbone · #5 06/10/13, 01:23 PM

good advice wolfy, thanks, yes I can see how it could be like opening a can of worms, and still not sure I want to expose myself to it all, but, man, what if its the situation that really helps someone along the path to self sufficiency/breaking the cycle of modern society. I am resolved to the fact, that no one is getting rich from living this life style, not monetarily anyways, but its so rewarding in other ways, and a select few , will understand that. Hope that's not too "hippieish" lol. we'll see what happens..

JoePa · #6 06/10/13, 01:41 PM

Boy - you better be real careful with what your planning - there are some real crazies out there - don't think that if you let somone live in your property that you can just get rid of them if things don't work out - if they don't want to go - what you gonna do - enjoy what you have with your wife and don't look for problems -

simi-steading · #7 06/10/13, 01:58 PM

I'd make friends with a person long before I'd offer to let them stay on my land..

I have one friend I've had for quite a while before we bought our place... He's the only one I've made the offer to stay at our place... He knows his stuff, he is very trustworthy, and we know each other well, and think very similar... My wife says it's scary listening to us talk.. like we've been brothers and together most our lives...

The only reason I have made the offer is because he wants out of this area. He's the prepper kind, and feels he may have to leave this area fast, so my place would be his bug out place... He is the kind of guy that would (and has already) actually help me and teach me things I don't even know I need to know...

I could never consider doing this with a stranger... I spent too many years where I had to have room mates to make ends meet and keep bills paid... It always ended up with me throwing them out. I even had to go through an eviction process to get rid of one, and I basically went and stayed anywhere I could until I could get them out....

They would lie and steal, or not pay bills... I've just had too many bad run ins to even consider a stranger staying on my land... I'd only consider a long time friend I knew well..

I hear you saying you want to try and help someone, and I get that, but you have to remember, YOU are number one to take care of, and is risking your sanity or home worth the risk to maybe help someone?

Your mileage may vary though...

wanttohomestead · #8 06/10/13, 02:13 PM

I have considered looking for a place to live where I could help on someone's farm or homestead. Being on the other side, I have not done it because of the same reasons the other posts have warned of. It works both ways. You may not have the best intentions or be who you say you are.
That being said, it still sounds interesting. I have a friend that lives in NY state and may going on a trip to visit this summer. We may be able to communicate then.

Ernie · #9 06/10/13, 02:37 PM

This is a good thing. Many of us have homesteads that are really too big for us to work as one family and we could certainly share with another family or two ... if it were the right family.

I don't need to repeat the cautions others have mentioned. You're not naïve. You know that there are some deadbeats out there and you've probably already encountered and ran off more than a few.

I just wanted to say that I support your notion. Our society is headed downhill rapidly and picking up speed. I think the only way any of us in isolated homesteads are going to survive is if we have multiple families and are well-armed.

It can also be a lovely way of life. Working together with others, worshipping and eating communally, and sharing the harvests. When it works, it's heaven on earth.

nbone · #10 06/11/13, 12:15 AM

Amen Ernie, when it works, it can be heaven on earth. Pretty amazing isn't it? what we envision, working together, helping each other, sharing, etc,, a way of life we should naturally be living, has become more of a fantasy than a reality, kinda scary.Speaks volumes as to how far out of whack we have gotten. I appreciate the responses, and heed your advice. I know it will be a long shot, finding the right person/situation etc. and as mentioned, lots of details to be worked out etc if and when right person is found. In the mean time, I will keep plugging away, I do a lot of business with an amish family locally, they do all my meat cutting now, great people, glad I met them.

BigHenTinyBrain · #11 06/11/13, 06:16 AM

I know several people with successful long and shorter term situations like yours, who have been pretty happy, overall, with sharing their farm/homestead with others. It can work! It can work really well! Good luck finding a like-minded soul who can help you enjoy your homesteading lifestyle... I'm sure there are plenty of great people out there who would jump at the chance.