Question. Would you recommend living with someone

FarmboyBill · #1 02/03/13, 09:07 PM

Who is definatly not interested in, or willing to help on a farm,, garden,homestead?
What would your recommendations be to someone just starting out starting a small farm, homestead who thought to include someone who had no interest in being a part of a homestead or farm??

frogmammy · #2 02/03/13, 09:21 PM

Generally, a hooker is cheaper, in the long run.

Mon

poppy · #3 02/03/13, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by frogmammy

Generally, a hooker is WAY cheaper, in the long run.

Mon

Fixed it for ya.

willow_girl · #4 02/03/13, 09:31 PM

I did it for 5-1/2 years and managed OK, but it's much more fun to have a partner who shares your values and interests!

primal1 · #5 02/03/13, 09:39 PM

roommate, paying rent yes no prob.
Lover, i am not so sure... i would def prefer someone who didn't mind getting dirty!:P

Raven12 · #6 02/03/13, 09:49 PM

separate houses next to each other

boundarybunnyco · #7 02/03/13, 09:57 PM

it's hard with a partner who isn't interested in the same things. My hubby helps, but he just doesn't care. Won't eat rabbit, etc.

Big Dave · #8 02/03/13, 10:16 PM

GET OUT NOW!!!
Is this really you? Not the way you usually express yourself????

FarmboyBill · #9 02/03/13, 10:30 PM

I did it 3 times, and it was definatly the most worst mistake s of my life. In a way ruined that aspect of my life going anywhere, and in ways endured throuout my life.

I like to believe that, had I never went to HS, where I never learned anything in 4 yrs, other than there was lots of girls in the world, and they all nearly looked good, and I made that my criteria. Iand if I could have started building a base of tools, implements and finding a job on a farm or 2 to make money till I was of age to get my own farm, and get it running well, AND THEN, I F I felt the need for a mate, Finding one of the grade school farm girls That I had gone to GS with and hooking up with them. I would MUCH MORE likely be a success today, than the has been I became lol

Old well.

fatrat · #10 02/03/13, 10:53 PM

No I would not.

CountryWannabe · #11 02/04/13, 12:10 AM

Depends on their attitude. My DH doesn't participate much in the homestead, though he will build or help build stuff if I ask. However, he isn't obstructive, either. He enjoys living out in the country, the peaceful atmosphere. He doesn't enjoy the gardening or animals -on the other hand, the reason we live out here is because that is what *I* wanted. He would maybe be happier living out here with 10 acre of lawn. LOL. Not happening, so we compromise.

Mary

How Do I · #12 02/04/13, 04:17 AM

Oh, if you love 'em you'll be happy. You just won't be woohoo happy!! They probably won't be woohoo happy either.

ETA - Now I'm getting depressed thinking about it.

starjj · #13 02/04/13, 04:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FarmboyBill

I did it 3 times, and it was definatly the most worst mistake s of my life. In a way ruined that aspect of my life going anywhere, and in ways endured throuout my life.

I like to believe that, had I never went to HS, where I never learned anything in 4 yrs, other than there was lots of girls in the world, and they all nearly looked good, and I made that my criteria. Iand if I could have started building a base of tools, implements and finding a job on a farm or 2 to make money till I was of age to get my own farm, and get it running well, AND THEN, I F I felt the need for a mate, Finding one of the grade school farm girls That I had gone to GS with and hooking up with them. I would MUCH MORE likely be a success today, than the has been I became lol

Old well.

It is easy to look back and blame OTHERS for what occured in your life. Just remember one can not go back only forward and we make our own destiny. Your choices then and now. Mistakes happen, heck life happens. The key is to move forward and live it! Would of should of doesn't do a darn thing.

nehimama · #14 02/04/13, 06:03 AM

Everybody got their own notions. They ain't got to understand me, just accept me and we're good.

Centralilrookie · #15 02/04/13, 06:11 AM

It seems that it is easier to live with someone with the same interest as you. It can be awful lonely sharing space for all the wrong reasons.

tentance · #16 02/04/13, 06:12 AM

yeah, i already live like that. he listens to me talk about organic food and the food production system, and lets me do what i want, but he won't really help me build anything or improve anything around here without the nag factor. like, for example, he says he is going to hang up a picture or build a frame for my fresnel lens, and does that stuff ever get done?

but at least he lets me do what i want. the next project is going to be homemade soap! laundry detergent turned out very well! (i live in suburbia, this kind of thing is thrilling to me)

SFM in KY · #17 02/04/13, 06:21 AM

It's isn't the 'ideal' but my previous marriage lasted for 12 years under those conditions. He married into it and it probably would have continued if he'd not chosen to leave. However, as I said, it wasn't an ideal situation.

JawjaBoy · #18 02/04/13, 06:33 AM

The more you have to work at it, the less fun it is.

After 12 years of marriage, my wife just rolls her eyes most of the time when I come up with something new I want to try. She does help out in the garden and with some other things around here, but I do the heavy, dangerous and really dirty stuff. Having common interests makes things much more enjoyable.

DAVID In Wisconsin · #19 02/04/13, 06:39 AM

I've known hundreds of guys that loved working on cars and talking about them. I only knew one who had a wife who did.

Big Dave · #20 02/04/13, 06:49 AM

FBB you are not a has been. YOu are a human doing not just being. We all learn alot from you. Do not sell yourself short. Just because you do not see the resullts of what you say on here does not mean it does not do good.