Growing my food saved my life!

[myheaven]

I have just been released from the hospital again! I was rushed to the hospital by ambulance. My strong healthy baby passed away unexpectedly about a couple days ago. I was pregnant. The baby was born quickly today but I hemorraged. I lost half my blood. I knew I was in bad shape. I have some medical training. I am Friends with everyone on our local department. so it's hard seeing your friends coming to save your life. And it is harder I for them seeing a friend slipping away. knowing they can't do much. My bp was evening out. My poor kids were so scared. I felt so bad. I knew I was in bad shaped.
I had a great dr at the hospital. She was so sweet. Just like the dr last night when we found the baby passed on. I didn't need a blood transfusion due to my blood was so healthy.
So thoses who wonder is growing your own food worth it. I can give you oh heck yes. I bet my life on it!

[tinknal]

So sorry for your loss I will pray for you

[Oma2three]

So sorry about your baby. Praying for your recovery.

[NickieL]

myheaven, so sorry for your loss and your scare and thankfull your children still has a mother...get some rest and take care.

[Rainy]

I am so sorry for your loss...

[willowworker]

so sorry for your loss and pain.

[Chixarecute]

I'm so sorry. What a difficult time. <<<hugs>>>

[Common Tator]

Aw, My heaven, I'm so sorry! I'm sorry your baby passed away. I'm sorry your kids were there to see it, and I'm sorry for your blood loss. Please don't downplay what a monumental thing losing a baby is. You and your whole family need to grieve.

The good thing in this story is that you survived and you are recovering.

I'll pray for you and your family.

[MO_cows]

It is amazing that you can find the positive in such an unfortunate happening. Glad you are OK.

[samm]

oh my you've been through a time, I'm sorry for your
loss, hang in there I will keep you in my prayers
samm

[GrannyG]

Prayers for comfort and healing.....

[Sonshine]

Sending cyber hugs and lots of prayers for you. I pray that God will send his angels to comfort you during this time and also pray for a speedy recovery.

[JanO]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and prayers for your quick recovery.

[Lizza]

Lots of hugs and prayers. I lost #2 that way and ended up in emergency surgery too.

{{{I am so sorry for your loss}}}

[Terrabus]

I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you get better soon.

[ELOCN]

I'm so sorry the baby died. I'm glad you're okay.

[myheaven]

I promise I'm not down playing my baby's death. My baby was perfect in every way. The sweetest litte tounge. Such small finger, toes, knees, feet, hands and elbows. He was perfect. I have cried for me and not getting to see him grow and be the boy we dreamed of. But I know he is in a much better place and has 3 brothers and a sister to play with

The dr came in and told me my "rbc are really good." you must eat well. I told her I grow my own food. Meat and dairy. She said "that explaines it."" That's why you have such great reserves" well and the not smoking drinking or doing drugs helped a lot.
I'm super sore from all the envasive external massaging of my spine threw my belly button. But I will recover. Meals are already taken care of till next Tuesday. Kids are off at friends till we are ready to have them back. I'm on strict bed rest for the next week. Not the way I wanted to spend my sweet husbands much needed Vacation.
Question? How do I help my husban deal with this. He is taking the passing harder than the last 3 Im thinking being so much farther along and he was already rubbing and talking with the baby. Yes we know the baby couldn't hear him yet. But a son was what he was hoping for. He gets quite and has said a few things. He is Normally quiet and reflects. But this loss is harder. I listen when he talks an never down play his feelings.
I was able to bring the baby home so we can burry him at the new property and watch him grow( his life tree). My baby was perfect.

[lexa]

I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine what it might be like to loose a child.
I can not give you much advise except that just continue supporting your husband in the ways you have done. Let him grieve as long as he needs to. It helps that you can burry your child at home. Any sort of ritual makes process of closure easier.
I do not know if you are familiar with it or no but on mothering forum there is a large section for grief and loss and specific one for pregnancy loss. It has a large number of people on there who support each other and I think they might have good advise for you on how to help your hubby.

[bama]

i am so sorry for you and your family's losses.

is there a pastor or preacher that your husband can speak to? that may help a bit.

[Cliff]

Everyone deals with things differently. Not our place to judge