Hate leaving my homestead

unregistered168043 · #1 03/24/12, 07:36 AM

Anybody else feel the same? I have a wedding to go to in another state and I'm dreading it. I'll be gone for three days. I feel like I'm risking my animals, and my seedlings.

I'm not an old man but as time goes on I just want to stay home and do my thing.

Welshmom · #2 03/24/12, 07:42 AM

I know exactly how you feel!
Last year I was gone for three days -each day we lost a baby pig

Also the year before, my sister was watching the place,and a 110 lb. feeder pig mysteriously up and died while we were gone. The worst part is she didn't even notice one was missing!

I hate leaving, too.

springvalley · #3 03/24/12, 07:51 AM

No, I like to get away from time to time, makes you appreciate your homestead even more. We have not been on a vacation in three or four years, and by that I mean being gone overnight someplace. It is very hard to get someone to do chores when it is just feeding animals, it is super hard to get someone to milk cows. Had a dear friend of mine did milk our cows a time or two for us, but he has gotten older and won`t do it any longer. So that means we don`t go farther than a day trip, and that is ok to. When I was younger I use to be gone more, maybe a week or so at a time, and I was so glad to get home. > God Bless America < Thanks Marc

Pelenaka · #4 03/24/12, 07:53 AM

Ah it's called homestead-agoraphobia but unlike regular agoraphobia, our version can be and has been verified by occurrences such as the loss of livestock. This condition also is intensified by ages or the use of incomplete homestead sitters.

As I get older I am having a harder & harder time even just leaving my neighborhood so I understand Darntootin, everything I need or want is pretty much here. Then there is the fact that no one will care for my stuffs like I will.
I've thought about just hiring a person to go for me take video, post pics on fb ect. then I can just stay home & "like" it to my hearts content.

~~ pelenaka ~~
thirtyfivebyninety

Rick · #5 03/24/12, 07:59 AM

Yes.
And we only have 2 very tame barn (log cabin) cats, and 2 dogs who have to be driven 25 miles to be boarded. This time of year our seedlings, June it's drought time, and Winter it's the water in the cook stove's water jacket and resevoir.

Needing motels when we leave doesn't help.

Steph in MT · #6 03/24/12, 08:45 AM

Yep, can completely relate. Also going to a wedding out of state for four days. Got a great neighbor that will be tending the critters but still paranoid that one of my goats may decide to give birth early while we're gone or any of a million other numerous things that could possibly go wrong.... I love my life and I'd rather be here than anywhere else.

pancho · #7 03/24/12, 08:50 AM

I would much rather be at home than any other place in the world. If I would rather be in another place I would move there. It bothers me when I have to go get supplies, lumber, or parts.
Now I don't have to leave except for about one day a week. By the end of the summer I hope to be able to go 30 days at a time without leaving my place.

TNHermit · #8 03/24/12, 09:31 AM

I been twice around the world and every state but two. Now I go to town once a month and it tires me out so bad i have to take a nap when I get home. I like it right here and never run out of something to do. I might be coaxed if i got a chance to go to Ireland or they took Colorado back from the liberals.

But that would be it

Minelson · #9 03/24/12, 09:34 AM

I feel the same way. I don't even like going to the store. I have a part time job at a vet clinic (15 hours a week) and it doesn't bother me going there. I love it. BUt anywhere else. UGH! Always dread any social engagements. I do not like to travel anymore at all. I just want to be home! This coming Wed I am going to AZ to visit family for 4 days. I am excited to see my family but I just hate the thought of leaving. Hubby will tend to the critters...but no one can care for them like I do. I have a barn cam now so I can check up on the critters while gone now. I don't know if that will help or make me miss them even more!

Haven · #10 03/24/12, 09:49 AM

Yes, love it here and rarely leave. I venture out to an art gallery or museum once in a while, but if i do leave, I would rather be hiking though the woods with my metal detector looking for relics.

hippygirl · #11 03/24/12, 09:54 AM

I don't go anywhere I have to spend the night anymore as those I wish to associate with live within an hour of me.

As for going to town, I try to go between 9-11AM or 1-4PM. The older I get, the less tolerant I am of crowds...some things that were once only mildly annoying now just about send me over the edge!

mnn2501 · #12 03/24/12, 09:55 AM

I don't mind leaving the homestead, I like getting away every now and then.

What I find though, is the older I get, the more I hate being away from my bathroom.

I know

TRAILRIDER · #13 03/24/12, 10:01 AM

Same here, I hate to even go to work. And I love my job. Plus I have real anxiety over going out to crowded airports and cities. However, in the fall we'll be travelling to a family wedding for four days. I'm hoping to conquer some of my social anxiety problem and actually enjoy myself.
Luckily I do have someone who I trust to take just as good a care of my animals as I do. With out them I would never go anywhere : /

7thswan · #14 03/24/12, 10:12 AM

Ya, everyone thinks I'm strange. Not, that I wouldn't go on a vacation if we could take the dogs. But don't like to leave just for dailey reasons-like parties,holidays, act. What a waste of time.My neighbors make a joke of me,saying I never leave the house. They don't realise that I'm in the yard usally,feeding,woking in the greenhouse or gardens. Heck they gave me a jar of peaches for Christmas, not realizing how many trees I have and how much canning I do. What do people think I'm doing? I don't know-so how could I ever ask someone to "babysit".What am I to do -Video tape myself so they could see the chores in real life?

kabri · #15 03/24/12, 10:22 AM

Yes, we've lost livestock many times when we leave, one time came back from a family trip an found all the stock tanks dry!!!! No losses then, that was a miracle! I'd rather stay home!

Classof66 · #16 03/24/12, 10:30 AM

I went to visit my son in Omaha for a couple days in Feb. and my cats were basket cases when I got home. They had been well provided for, but they missed Mama. This is a good excuse to be home.

After my S/O passed away, and I moved back to my own house, in the dead of winter, it was comforting to have a haven. He was more of a people person than I was and had to get out everyday. He had driven a semi before retirement, home every night, and was a talker. I was a customer service rep. and was weary of people and their problems at the end of the day. It was luxury for me to be able to stay home and sew on my quilts or read. It was a miserable day for him tho.

I hate to say this, but last Tuesday when I judged election, I had to buy a new clock so I could wake up at 4 am. Time is irrevelent to me now.

I go to town about once a week. I have to use the laundramat. I do credit my IPad, it does keep me linked to the outside world and my family. I have close neighbors if I get desperate too. Tonight I am thinking about going to a Lions Club spegetti supper, it's a fund raiser. Eating out has lost it's charm too, but I think it's more because of cruddy food than hermititus.

I do plan on a road trip this summer. I am an author for a website called Illinois High School Glory Days which is finding and honoring the high schools which no longer exist. I am interested in the small town schools, mainly pre 1948, and I want to visit west central Il and also the Wabash River area. I want to research some of the places we don't have much info on, and hope I can photo some of the old buildings that may have been spared. This I will love, if I had to go to Disneyworld, I'd not go.

Cats will be well provided for, they will just have to manage.

Classof66 · #17 03/24/12, 10:41 AM

I forgot to mention I bought a dining room set from my cousin's estate. It is Beautuful, but in desperate need of refinishing. That, along with a few other pieces, will take up a lot of my summer. It's one if those things, you fix up one thing and make it nice, and then something else looks tacky and needs attention.

ldc · #18 03/24/12, 10:50 AM

I can relate to so much posted above - except I'm more extreme! For example, if I must shop, it's usally about 5-6:30 a.m. Don't want to take a chance on the store being crowded! Have't been in a store 9-9 in decades! Had to make 62 long distance trips to care for the elderly in my family, and may never travel again! It finished me off!!!

am1too · #19 03/24/12, 10:50 AM

It is interesting how and what changes. I curred my travel lust with 6 years of OTR truck driving. I'd get lost coming back to my own house.

I no longer have a desire to go camping and hiking. Got plenty woods here. Ah the boring city days. I guess part of the deal for me anyway is doing it by myself. I like activity. I have plenty here.

sunshinytraci · #20 03/24/12, 10:59 AM

My husband is a retired school teacher and we used to travel all summer long. That's it for me. I don't like leaving my place at all, even for a few hours. But I have kids in activities and a husband who hates staying home so I get out at least once a day. I feel I am wasting time when I am not home working. I love working on my place but I feel a balance is necessary. When we are gone all the time the place starts falling apart but when I stay home all the time, I miss out on other good things.