I may need to leave this website for good.

[mainegirl]

I am not sure this is the website for me as it appears that one must earn the right to express an opinion or ask a clarifying question and i am not sure how i feel about this.....is it that there are some who are afraid of dissenting opinions? If we are truly a community that is about "neighborly help and friendly advice" then why are some allowed to speak and others not. Seems to me if a community was unhappy with one of its members, then the community would take care of it......this member cannot even ask a clarifying question....seems a bit........what is the word I am looking for? hmmmm Can anyone help this newbie understand?

[rancher1913]

yes people can be clicky and harsh on here untill you are known. to many troublemakers come here to bash and have some enjoyment at our expense so untill we know wether you are for real or just somebody droping in for amusment at our expense then you will get the cold shoulder. if you moved into a new neiborhood and started telling every one there your opinion and views and want to argue then you would likely get a brush off very quickly. don't know what the issues that you are upset about but as the newby you need to have thick skin and go slowly--I often felt like my opinions were automaticly discounted untill I had been around for a while.

[Oggie]

You can't leave now. Once you're bitten...

Well, it's sort of like a vampire or werewolf.

You'll think that you've left it all behind. But, sooner or later come the full moon, and you'll find your potatoes all dug up and wake up covered in chain saw brochures wondering, "Which one?"

You'll hear a howling in the distance and hope against hope that your fences are tight.

Then, you'll know.

Yes, you'll know.

[nans31]

I'm not sure what exactly you've asked, or responded to but.... I will say-- just like any large community there are tons of opinions, views and personalities here. You have to be careful of what you say, and how you say it because in cyber-land it can be taken differently than it was intended. Or, sometimes it comes across just the way it was meant.... :-)

I pretty much come here every day, but don't really say much. That's how I am in real-life, real-person. I don't have to chime in to every conversation. There is an incredible amount of knowldege here tho. I can't imagine NOT coming here.

I'd suggest staying... reading and enjoying the posts and don't get too caught up in drama.

just my .02

[plowjockey]

I say stuff all of the time, other people don't like - who cares?

It not like they can punch me in the mouth, or anything.

This is a great place for good, helpful information - or a good bashing, either deserved, or undeserved. At the end of the day, what does it matter?

Stop being so sensitive and join the fun.

[kasilofhome]

The way we, each of us views events is always going to first and formost be from our own eyes.

I learned that no one can intimated me UNTIL I empower them with the ablity to affect me. That it My personal obligation to myself must be to carefully select, thur all mean I have. decearn who I respect enought to be one of those persons.

I am sorry you have been affected in a negative way. Personally I love clairity. No one is perfect. Now, it seems that in sending out the threat that you might leave that you do not want to leave but that you want to feel accepted. You can rarly be comforable around others till you are comfortable with yourself. So, worry not if a specfic person response to you faverablely in your view but rather is the source views of value to you.

[suitcase_sally]

Well, you can tell by the number of posts that I have made that I comment about most anything. I am duly ignored most of the time, but I don't get upset. Well, maybe I do, but I don't lash back (much).

After reading your post, I went back and read your last 15 or so posts and I don't know what you are upset about. But if you feel you don't belong on this site, why not just quietly leave, rather than make a big production out of it?

just MY 2¢.

[grannyB]

I have been reading this site for more than a year, but just registered a couple weeks age. Just because I wanted to get in on the forum quilt project. I won't post much but I learn so much reading others posts. Everyone here is more knowledgeable about homesteading than I am.

The others gave you good advice. Just be patient.

[pheasantplucker]

I get along with most of the folks here. I try to not ruffle too many feathers, but sometimes it happens. There's a few here who get a little quick to "fly off the handle". I generally try to avoid them. It can be done. Far more good, helpful, knowledgeable people here than meanies. Stick around. Some of us might grow on you.

[Jalopy]

Don't fret the small stuff and it is all small stuff. I read here a lot and comment when I want to but very seldom does anyone acknowledge that I am even around. But then I do not really care, I figure if what I respond to satisfies me then I am happy. Sometimes I will reply and no one seems to see it, then someone else will reply the same way later in a thread and everyone will respond as if it was new information. That is just the way it is.
Just read, enjoy, and respond when the mood hits you and don't expect a lot of recognition.

[hurryiml8]

Maybe she tried to post in GC.
Karen

[Williams farm]

You can't take things too personally and remember it is a kind of limiting medium to exchange thoughts. Still if you want a moderator to look at what you think is an insulting reply then click the report post button and the mod for that forum will check it out.

[bigfoot2you]

Originally Posted by nans31

I'm not sure what exactly you've asked, or responded to but.... I will say-- just like any large community there are tons of opinions, views and personalities here. You have to be careful of what you say, and how you say it because in cyber-land it can be taken differently than it was intended. Or, sometimes it comes across just the way it was meant.... :-)

I pretty much come here every day, but don't really say much. That's how I am in real-life, real-person. I don't have to chime in to every conversation. There is an incredible amount of knowldege here tho. I can't imagine NOT coming here.

I'd suggest staying... reading and enjoying the posts and don't get too caught up in drama.

just my .02

yup, yup, yup..............what she said for sure!!!

[shanzone2001]

I have been chewed up and spit out many times...you have to expect that when so many people with so many opinions are posting on the same subject.

Keep your head up, shoulders back, look in the mirror and say, "I will not cry, I will not cry, I will not cry!"

Some people here are grumpy just for the sake of being grumpy and others (me included) tend to express ourselves more harshly online than in real life. It is hard to really understand a person's intent when you only have their written words.
I have apologized many times because my words came across too strong.

[maverickxxx]

dont know what happened i have not had any problems with anyone i can see some people are clicky happens no matter where you are or what you are doing. it takes a while to get to know people and for you to know them. i can say when i was running crews if you were new guy forget about making a suggestion no one wanted to hear it. if you were a great worker someone would try to find something you did wrong. even when i had old school operators i had to prove myself and get respect. i had one old school operator he would say he miss understood the gradestakes graded everthing to oppiste of what i put on their.he was running equipment for over forty years he knew he was just haveing his fun with me i didnt get mad or hurt. next day i went in early marked all the stakes oppiste he went and did same thing next day graded everything oppiste which was right. i dont know if he realized it at the time i never said a word about it the time i told him so jokes and asked him about operating. we ran fine the rest of time when some superindents had probs with him to get him to do stuff i had his respect.from what ive seen in here is differnt people hang in differnt forms. i think there is alot more good people than bad. someone bad makes alot more of impresion then 5 nice people.

[salmonslayer]

Originally Posted by hurryiml8

Maybe she tried to post in GC.
Karen

Or she is one of them there "coupon clippers" that seem so controversial!!

Everyone gets an opinion Mainegirl and you have to remember that its hard to type inflection and intent into words so things often get misinterpreted. Diversity of opinion is what makes this site so useful so dont give up yet.

[Old Vet]

I sometimes use sarcasm in what I post and don't worry about what others think of me well maybe I do but I don't get hurt feelings. If I ever hurt your feelings it was not intentional and most are the same. It is like a dysfunctional family here. If you ever go to GC or even to the politics you will see that I argue with others. I even want to meat some of the ones that I argue with like Nevada and Patt. I have known Nevada for over 10 years and Patt about 2 years on the internet. I may think they are a little crazy but I still want to meat them.

[AngieM2]

This is interesting.
It would have been good if the problem was addressed in the forum it happened it - maybe it is ? Maybe not.

You (OP) have been participating all over the site. One must realize most of the forums have their own tone, and some are more sharp than others.

Sorry if you feel badly about this site, maybe if the mod of the forum that has you distressed knew of it, the issue could be addressed or explained.


Good luck.

[AngieM2]

Originally Posted by Williams farm

You can't take things too personally and remember it is a kind of limiting medium to exchange thoughts. Still if you want a moderator to look at what you think is an insulting reply then click the report post button and the mod for that forum will check it out.

Yea - what he said

[Harry Chickpea]

mainegirl, you have a specific issue on your mind. It probably is a legitimate concern. Please share, so it can be examined. I charge 50 cents for mind-reading.