Mother inlaw!

dixieland · #1 07/17/10, 10:54 AM

Let me begin,she has been my inlaw for almost 40 years.I thought she would be the best baby sitter I could have(.Bad mistake.) She kept telling my Daughter SHE was the one that had her. I can,t even talk to my daughter any more. She has turned her against me . Totally ! Think she is trying to do the same to my son. She is old in her 80,s . She does different things,Like she let him move into her old house. When they are gone she rumbles in everything. Even their under wear drawer. Goes thru the refreg. Then talkes how messie it is.Told her to keep her nose to her self and to not go in the house when they are gone. She says that it is her house. My son won,t say a word, just because it is mammaw.She has even been caught on a camera. She said she was never in the house. Now my son has things GONE. But by her she hasn,t been in there.NOW. Supposly ,it is hard on her to pay the satalite bill and her receiver tore up.My son gave her his,now he watches mine.Now I have to pay for her,s. She was up a few minutes ago, she never said a word!She should have said something. Not a word. As far as money,she act,s like she has none. She has some in CD,s

suitcase_sally · #2 07/17/10, 11:23 AM

Tell your daughter to do the math on grammy's age and hers. She'll figure out that she is GRAMMY, not MAMMY.

dixieland · #3 07/17/10, 11:40 AM

I don,t know, granny was in her 40,s when she had my sister-in law.

hippygirl · #4 07/17/10, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by dixieland

Let me begin,she has been my inlaw for almost 40 years.I thought she would be the best baby sitter I could have(.Bad mistake.) She kept telling my Daughter SHE was the one that had her. I can,t even talk to my daughter any more. She has turned her against me . Totally ! Think she is trying to do the same to my son. She is old in her 80,s . She does different things,Like she let him move into her old house. When they are gone she rumbles in everything. Even their under wear drawer. Goes thru the refreg. Then talkes how messie it is.Told her to keep her nose to her self and to not go in the house when they are gone. She says that it is her house. My son won,t say a word, just because it is mammaw.She has even been caught on a camera. She said she was never in the house. Now my son has things GONE. But by her she hasn,t been in there.NOW. Supposly ,it is hard on her to pay the satalite bill and her receiver tore up.My son gave her his,now he watches mine.Now I have to pay for her,s. She was up a few minutes ago, she never said a word!She should have said something. Not a word. As far as money,she act,s like she has none. She has some in CD,s

You say she has been your inlaw (I assume that to be mother-in-law) for 40 years and that you thought she'd be "the best baby sitter", so, to clarify, how old are your children?

dixieland · #5 07/17/10, 12:12 PM

My sister in law is 45. My Daughter is 37 years old and son is 29 and still at home.

7thswan · #6 07/17/10, 12:53 PM

You meen she babysat when they were small?

Ardie/WI · #7 07/17/10, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by dixieland

Let me begin,she has been my inlaw for almost 40 years.I thought she would be the best baby sitter I could have(.Bad mistake.) She kept telling my Daughter SHE was the one that had her. I can,t even talk to my daughter any more. She has turned her against me . Totally ! Think she is trying to do the same to my son. She is old in her 80,s . She does different things,Like she let him move into her old house. When they are gone she rumbles in everything. Even their under wear drawer. Goes thru the refreg. Then talkes how messie it is.Told her to keep her nose to her self and to not go in the house when they are gone. She says that it is her house. My son won,t say a word, just because it is mammaw.She has even been caught on a camera. She said she was never in the house. Now my son has things GONE. But by her she hasn,t been in there.NOW. Supposly ,it is hard on her to pay the satalite bill and her receiver tore up.My son gave her his,now he watches mine.Now I have to pay for her,s. She was up a few minutes ago, she never said a word!She should have said something. Not a word. As far as money,she act,s like she has none. She has some in CD,s

Huh? I'm confused.

Use Less · #8 07/17/10, 01:21 PM

I get that you are really incensed that your mother-in-law does intrusive stuff, but seeing that your son is an adult, it is for him to decide whether her behavior is sufficiently bad for him to deal with her, or move out of her house. She may just have become a bored old busybody, or maybe her condition is worse and out of her control. If your son is complaining to you, tell him to grow up & handle it. If you're wanting him to handle it, and he won't, drop it. I don't get the "babysitter" reference. You married her son & had kids because you thought she'd be a good babysitter??? Your grudge is a generation or more out of date.

Emmy D · #9 07/17/10, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by dixieland

My sister in law is 45. My Daughter is 37 years old and son is 29 and still at home.

I don't understand where you Sister in Law comes into this???

Emmy

Country Lady · #10 07/17/10, 02:16 PM

Situations like yours is why I was always thankful DH and I have lived 500-2000 miles from relatives. Even at that distance there were problems at times. I never wanted relatives to babysit when our children were small because I didn't want the problems that I knew would go along with it.

Ardie/WI · #11 07/17/10, 02:19 PM

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Huh? I'm confused.

I wonder...have I been drinking something other than ginger ale?

Country Lady · #12 07/17/10, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Ardie/WI

I wonder...have I been drinking something other than ginger ale?

I think when we start going off about MILs, we might not always make sense. LOL

Oldcountryboy · #13 07/17/10, 02:37 PM

Mother-in-laws is the real reason why it's illegal for a man to have multiple wives. For every wife he has, he'll have a Mother-in-law to contend with. That's what's so funny about these Mytars over in the middle east who blow themselves up in a crowd of people. Supposedly if they do the good deed, they will receive some 70 virgin wives. "Hee, hee, hee, heee"! They don't realize there gonna receive 70 mother-in-laws along with them! The jokes on them!

oneokie · #14 07/17/10, 02:44 PM

Sounds like your MIL raised your 2 children.

Just saying.....

Prismseed · #15 07/17/10, 02:49 PM

Wow, when it comes to pesky inlaws she is elite.

FyredUp · #16 07/17/10, 02:52 PM

Hell, I must be the luckiest SOB ever. My ex-wife's mom was a sweet heart, Readily accepted me into the family and always treated me good. My fiancee's mom is a sweet heart too. Very warm and friendly to me, made me feel at home and again, part of the family. I have to laugh about this, my fiancee's mom told her I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I make sure to remind my finacee of that on occasion!!

Frankly, some people are just crazy, others are just a PITA, some just like to cause trouble, and unfortunately some of them are family.

paintboy · #17 07/17/10, 02:57 PM

so where is dad? But I'm guessing that MIL rules the roost so he would be useless anyway. Time for son to step up and be a man and take care of himself. Hell of a web you guys have woven.

Ardie/WI · #18 07/17/10, 03:24 PM

My MIL's (all three of them) never bothered me.

I ignored them.

dixieland · #19 07/17/10, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by oneokie

Sounds like your MIL raised your 2 children.

Just saying.....

No never let him stay no more than four times in 20plus years

dixieland · #20 07/17/10, 05:10 PM

I can,t figure it out. Every time w e would come down on the weekends she always wanted my daughter to stay till Sunday. I thought it was good for her.Since she lives behind me,she will stand on her porch and just stand there against the porch looking for a solid hour. You can,t see anything except the trailor and the trees.