Ok While We're Talking About Neighbors

big rockpile · #1 04/21/08, 03:30 PM

Got a New Neighbor moving in.Friendly enough but every few minutes he has to say something about (in his words) the N word.Then there is some things he thinks Real Men don't do.

Got to live next to him,but I wonder what he would think if he found out I have Black kin,my stepkids are Iranian.Not that he would find out but if he knew I use to live with a Black woman.Or that I keep a Journal,something he thinks real Men don't do

Been trying to help him as far as building supplies and such,he is wanting to be friends.But everything in me is saying just stay away as much as I can.

Oh he don't like Bible Thumpers either.So I guess trying to get him to go to Church with us is out.

big rockpile

suzyhomemaker09 · #2 04/21/08, 03:33 PM

Tell him how you have black kin and give him a copy of " real men don't eat quiche "

Common Tator · #3 04/21/08, 04:53 PM

The next time he uses that word you might suggest that you don't use the word because blacks and whites alike find it offensive. If that doesn't do the trick, are you sure you want to be friends with this racist?

He doesn't like Bible thumpers, so start thumpin! Tell him man is created in God's image, regardless of race.

Ken Scharabok · #4 04/21/08, 05:33 PM

Just tell him you have some black heritage and that you find his statements to be personally offensive.

TxAprilMagic · #5 04/21/08, 05:37 PM

Why is it that you just can't be honest with him and tell him in a calm voice how you feel about his foul mouth. I find , most of the time, if you just sit someone down with a great cup of coffee and tell them how much it offends you , most of the time it stops or at least to a point you can deal with. Don't sugar coat the words. Tell him you won't preach church to him if he can keep his foul mouth in check. Man to Man. Boy to Boy. Animal to Animal.

I think you make matters way worse if you continue to allow such behavior and say nothing. You teach people how to treat you and I firmly believe that "You are the company you keep". ews.

Telling someone how you feel is not mean, Telling someone how you feel is not going to stop the rotation of the earth but it can make your life nicer. Most people want you to be honest with them so they know what your character is and where they stand with you and if they can trust you.
Tell him the truth.

CocalicoSprings · #6 04/21/08, 05:53 PM

I would just say, "you know Bill (or whatever his name is), I like you, but one of my very best friends is black and I can't stand to hear the word. Goes right through me. You got to quit that if we're going to be friends instead of just neighbors.

Farmerwilly2 · #7 04/21/08, 06:31 PM

Rock, can't you just put some of them Barrack Osama election posters in the front of your place and give the jerk a clue? If you don't like it you got to let him know it.

big rockpile · #8 04/21/08, 06:41 PM

Well if I say anything to him,he will run to the neighbor on the other side,which believes that Blacks are of Satan and should be treated as such.Thats the way her Church believes.She thinks I shouldn't have anything to do with my Stepkids,nor my other Son because he has no respect for me,and she says I should put my Dog down because he is Gay.

In the past three times I have been attacked by people like this.I really feel its best not to say anything just for safety and just not really have that much to do with this Guy.

big rockpile

Cornhusker · #9 04/21/08, 06:55 PM

you guys make me glad our neighbors live in Illinois 50 weeks a year.
They're nice people, but having people a mile down the road just seems unnatural.

zant · #10 04/21/08, 06:58 PM

Ask him how he has time in his life for such stupid BS-I generally do that when I run into a black or white racist...I'm lucky,my nearest neighbors are a mlie in either direction...I live in the Deep South and have only heard blacks use the word --------when talking to one another...I have lived in 3 major northeast cities and found the level of racism there to be much higher than here...and I think it's a tossup who was more racist-whites or blacks...I judge people INDIVIDUALLY not by something as stupid as their color...

big rockpile · #11 04/21/08, 07:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by zant

Ask him how he has time in his life for such stupid BS-I generally do that when I run into a black or white racist...I'm lucky,my nearest neighbors are a mlie in either direction...I live in the Deep South and have only heard blacks use the word --------when talking to one another...I have lived in 3 major northeast cities and found the level of racism there to be much higher than here...and I think it's a tossup who was more racist-whites or blacks...I judge people INDIVIDUALLY not by something as stupid as their color...

When I was in the South actually I found I was better off with the Blacks than alot of White folks.

This Guy is moving up here from Georgia.

Heck I got fired from a Job because we was out in the middle of nowhere and I stopped to help a Black man having car trouble.

Like I say we got the Church that this other neighbor belongs to.Then you go just North of here the KKK is strong,my Stepdaughter and her Boyfriend stopped in town and was run out.She said she didn't know they was there.I told her it was all over the News about them recruiting in town.

I think I'll just set over here.Just not be too sociable.Which is bad because I do like the South and lots of the Southern ways.Which he brings with him,just bad he has this problem.

big rockpile

Fla Gal · #12 04/21/08, 07:34 PM

I have a big problem with the N word. I also have a problem with people that use it. Mostly I can ignore it and it goes away. I guess that goes with the hermit lifestyle I'm living now.

BRP, just say outright that you don't use that word, would prefer not to hear it, and leave it at that. People that use that word aren't likely to stop using it because you don't like it. They might be more receptive if you tell them they shouldn't be judgmental about others.

We're all the same color on the inside. The color on the outside doesn't mean squat.

kentuckyhippie · #13 04/21/08, 09:20 PM

did any of you all read that book that came out in the 70's called "Black Like Me"? this white guy took some kind of drug that darkened his skin and lived down south as a black man to get the real truth about how the blacks were being treated. Too bad you can't slip some of that stuff to your neighbor and let him wake up one morning as a black guy. LOL

Truckinguy · #14 04/21/08, 10:27 PM

I still can't believe that there are people like that around. We are a lot more tolorant in Canada, I guess, although we still have our problems. I don't think I can use strong enough language on this family friendly forum to say how I feel about the KKK. You would think people would have more to do with their lives than join an organization for the express purpose of hating people. BTW, do they still wear those funny costumes?

Live and let live, I say. We're all red inside.

PA_MIKE · #15 04/21/08, 10:49 PM

Ever been to the inner city? I worked in Memphis for a few months. I was called Cracker at least once a week. Blacks hate whites also. Not saying that it is right.... just another spin on things

fantasymaker · #16 04/22/08, 12:22 AM

And you live there why?Why not live somewhere your veiws and family are safe?

ceresone · #17 04/22/08, 06:39 AM

And everyone passed up-that his neighbor thinks "his dog is gay"? Hey, people can fight out their differences in words (keep asking him to church)-but put the dog down "cause its gay???"
Rock, I thought I lived further in the sticks than you--but???

MarleneS · #18 04/22/08, 07:21 AM

Rock if you are visting with the neighbor and you are not equal in voicing how you feel about some of his personal beliefs/ideas - you not a good neighbor

Sometimes you actually show signs that you go looking for that stuff...with good intentions of course...but still looking.

Marlene

bumpus · #19 04/22/08, 07:40 AM

.
It's getting crazy. You have to watch out every word you say almost every day or you offend someone.

It makes not difference what color they are or what religion they are they cry about everything a person says.

If you don't talk just they do you are out of there click.

All people are created by God and all people are colored people. God colored me white, and my next door neighbor is one of the finest people you could ever find and God colored him black.

I don't us the letter N in my conversation, I use the word intended.

If someone starts the so called N WORD talk with me, I tell them,

" GOD DID NOT MAKE ( I USE THE REAL WORD ) "

Man wants to call black people ( I USE THE REAL WORD ) so he can feel as if he is better than God made the black man. That way he does not have to treat him like a person, and just looks, and treats him like a substandard low life animal.

THE WORD ( I USE THE REAL WORD ) APPLIED TO A BLACK MAN CAME FROM THE DEVIL ! ! !

God created all men and women in his eyes as equals ! ! !
AND GOD SAID IT WAS GOOD ! ! !

Yes I have used the word ( I USE THE REAL WORD ) in talks in churches; even in black churches. Never had a problem and the statements were received well by the people except for those who think they are better than someone else of a different color, and are embraced when I talk like that.

Same thing holds true with all of the other names people use to down grade people of a different race, color, or nationality.

This all comes from Arrogant Idolatrous Pride which is also of the DEVIL ! ! !

I HAD TO USE THIS ( I USE THE REAL WORD ) BECAUSE THE HT SITE HAS BLOCKED THE REAL WORD, OR I WOULD HAVE USED IT HERE ! ! !

bumpus.

SunsetSonata · #20 04/22/08, 07:58 AM

Rockpile, you sound like a gem among sewage.

Church sanctioned hatred? Neighbors who get off on prejudice? Ugh. Wish you lived somewhere without such hostility and smallness of mind. I'm sorry you have to put up with this. Ever think of moving somewhere where people are more neighborly and accepting of other's differences? I'd be miserable living in such an atmosphere.