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The word "Hon"..
Do you find the word "Hon" offensive....I know it is prevelent in the south..and not necessarily meant as derogatory....but I hate this word...
I have "some" tolerance if the person calling me "Hon" is a 90 year old...it was just a word of their time....but 90% of the time, I want to "smack someone" for calling me "Hon"....especially a really young person, man or woman...I have been known to "politely" call down cashiers for this reminding them that I am not 3 or 93 and I am not not dumb or stupid and that it is really offensive.....and I really hate it coming from a man....to me it implies that I am simple minded and feeble....if you really want to ruffle my feathers in a hurry....call me "Hon"......sorry for this morning rant but I noticed it in another thread....and yes...I've already had my coffee...LOL... 
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11/19/12, 09:27 AM
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If Hon were the worst thing I was ever called.... 
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11/19/12, 09:28 AM
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Have another BIG cup, Hon. I'm not 93, I'm 62 and it is a Southern thang. No offense is meant, and not knowin your real name, it personalizes the conversation a mite.
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11/19/12, 09:31 AM
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It is not offensive. It is kind of a polite term, a friendly term.
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11/19/12, 09:35 AM
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Are you sure it was Hon? Short for Honey? Or could they have ment Hun, as in Atilla the Hun?. 
It seems most words that are used to be polite eventually take on that conotation of being condocending.
I hadnt realized that people feel that was about ,buddy sweetnesss and friend.
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11/19/12, 09:38 AM
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Well, if you are living in the South, and you get all snarky because someone says "Hon," you are the one being rude, not them.
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11/19/12, 09:40 AM
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I am from the south and don't particularly like being called sweetie, hun, honey, dear, sugar, or any of those other saccharine names by strangers and I asked my wife not to use those either. But it doesn't offend me. When a stranger does it, it just seems weird, like they are skipping a level or three on the friendship scale. When my wife does it, it seems like PDA which I don't care for either.
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11/19/12, 09:46 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by mary,tx
Well, if you are living in the South, and you get all snarky because someone says "Hon," you are the one being rude, not them.
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Born and raised in the deep south...and I never like the term...I am never rude to them....I ask them in a very polite tone to please refrain from calling anyone that because it is condescending....my blood maybe boiling inside but I am never rude to anyone...if it's someone I know VERY well...I just laugh and say "you know I hate that term"...and we laugh it off...I know that it's a cultural thing...I get that...and most times I ignore it....but when it comes from some snotty nosed 20 something in that condescening tone......well that is different...and yes Ardie...I have been called worse...LOL..
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11/19/12, 09:49 AM
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Originally Posted by cesumpec
i am from the south and don't particularly like being called sweetie, hun, honey, dear, sugar, or any of those other saccharine names by strangers and i asked my wife not to use those either. But it doesn't offend me. When a stranger does it, it just seems weird, like they are skipping a level or three on the friendship scale. When my wife does it, it seems like pda which i don't care for either.
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yes...exactly....
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11/19/12, 09:49 AM
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It's used a lot here in MI too, at least where I'm from. I use it when I'm trying to be nice.
Not everyone likes to be call "Ma'am" or "Sir" ether but I still use it out of respect.
Its too bad it makes you so angry when most are prolly just trying to be nice.
As for me, I'm not out to try and guess how each person prefers to be addressed. Im polite and if they cant see that, then its clearly not my problem.
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11/19/12, 09:58 AM
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Never really thought one way or another abut it, but I do think the fact our HR director uses it isn't right....
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11/19/12, 10:03 AM
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Fair Light, it is probably going to go away before long anyway. Teachers have long used the term, as well as given out hugs. Nowadays, they are too fearful to show any sign of caring for the kids in that manner because they don't want to have charges filed for inappropriate behavior.
I often called the girls hon in class, patted kids on the back, put a hand on shoulder, and such. Then the last years of my career, I started keeping my hands in my pockets to prevent touching them and was very careful to only call them by name.
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11/19/12, 10:07 AM
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Take a breath and get over yourself.
Its a polite term when someone doesn't know your name or a term of endearment for someone who does.
Lucky you're not married to me as I call my wife 'Hun' all the time.
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11/19/12, 10:10 AM
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Awww... "Hon" is just a little sweetness and a shorter version of "Honey", which is a little more sweetness. Both have been terms of sincere endearment for so long that it seems impossible to use it in a derogatory or even condescending manner.
I love hearing it and suspect that most people do for the above reasons! 
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11/19/12, 10:34 AM
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I think you're overreacting
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11/19/12, 10:36 AM
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It doesn't bother me at all.
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11/19/12, 10:39 AM
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If HON offends you, I hope you don't venture into Baltimore any time soon 
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11/19/12, 10:40 AM
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How is it condescending??
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11/19/12, 10:44 AM
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I use it seldom but when I do, I mean it. I had no idea there were people in the world who thought it was offense, I'm mean, what's next? I think I will continue to use it. it will bring out the sweatness in nice people and help me to recognize the others.
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11/19/12, 10:44 AM
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All the waitresses around here call everyone "hon" or "sweetie". I'm fine with it. What I can't stand though is when my neighbor calls me "doll" or "baby". I know she means well and does that to everyone, but it still grates on my nerves. Guess it could be worse. She could call me dollbaby. Ugh!
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